Id love to feel what its like to be good looking for a day

[CptObvious]

There's a new girl that started working with us last night. She's cute and was cool to talk to, got along well she even playfully hit me a couple of times. I obviously knew it didn't mean anything nor did I expect anything to come of it, I wasn't going to hit on her or bother.

 

Either way I've tried to keep a positive mindset the past few days, tried to have my "best personality" on so to speak, if such a word even exists. I was positive confident outgoing and even felt it inside.

 

Regardless, I'm standing there in a triangle with this girl and my attractive male friend coworker, and she outright says to him "I'm sexually attracted to you. Just saying. But I do have a boyfriend." Out of nowhere. The guy did no game, nothing. Nada. Zilch. Just bam she said it out of no where. Literally second day she's working here as she just got transferred.

 

To make matters worse, unprovoked out of no where she goes "And 'chinpoko', you have a little kid face." I already knew this on some level, but the awkwardness of the moment sucked. Moments later she said "I'm just joking." Of course she wasn't joking, because the thought wouldn't have occured to her in the first place.

 

I don't know why. But it struck me in an odd kind of way. Suddenly my entire mood, personality, crashed, and reality hit me harder and more profoundly than ever before. Life was rigged and I was destined to be alone with the occasional shallow friendship. As I drove home, deeply upset and seeing no point, I contemplated suicide on a serious level again. I figured there's really no point in existing. I considered whether it would be a good idea to move to a foreign country where assisted suicide is legal. The problem is I'm too pussy to commit suicide, I could never do it because I fear the pain.

 

With a "little kid face" I will never truly be taken seriously. What is the effing point?

 

[KungFuJoe]

There's a new girl that started working with us last night. She's cute and was cool to talk to, got along well she even playfully hit me a couple of times. I obviously knew it didn't mean anything nor did I expect anything to come of it, I wasn't going to hit on her or bother.

 

Either way I've tried to keep a positive mindset the past few days, tried to have my "best personality" on so to speak, if such a word even exists. I was positive confident outgoing and even felt it inside.

 

Regardless, I'm standing there in a triangle with this girl and my attractive male friend coworker, and she outright says to him "I'm sexually attracted to you. Just saying. But I do have a boyfriend." Out of nowhere. The guy did no game, nothing. Nada. Zilch. Just bam she said it out of no where. Literally second day she's working here as she just got transferred.

 

To make matters worse, unprovoked out of no where she goes "And 'chinpoko', you have a little kid face." I already knew this on some level, but the awkwardness of the moment sucked. Moments later she said "I'm just joking." Of course she wasn't joking, because the thought wouldn't have occured to her in the first place.

 

I don't know why. But it struck me in an odd kind of way. Suddenly my entire mood, personality, crashed, and reality hit me harder and more profoundly than ever before. Life was rigged and I was destined to be alone with the occasional shallow friendship. As I drove home, deeply upset and seeing no point, I contemplated suicide on a serious level again. I figured there's really no point in existing. I considered whether it would be a good idea to move to a foreign country where assisted suicide is legal. The problem is I'm too pussy to commit suicide, I could never do it because I fear the pain.

 

With a "little kid face" I will never truly be taken seriously. What is the effing point?

 

Are you making this **** up? This sounds too ridiculous to be true. What girl says that to a guy on her second day on the job and within earshot of someone else (you)? She's gonna look like a cheating whore. If some girl said that to me, I'd laugh in her face.

[CptObvious]

There's a new girl that started working with us last night. She's cute and was cool to talk to, got along well she even playfully hit me a couple of times. I obviously knew it didn't mean anything nor did I expect anything to come of it, I wasn't going to hit on her or bother.

 

Either way I've tried to keep a positive mindset the past few days, tried to have my "best personality" on so to speak, if such a word even exists. I was positive confident outgoing and even felt it inside.

 

Regardless, I'm standing there in a triangle with this girl and my attractive male friend coworker, and she outright says to him "I'm sexually attracted to you. Just saying. But I do have a boyfriend." Out of nowhere. The guy did no game, nothing. Nada. Zilch. Just bam she said it out of no where. Literally second day she's working here as she just got transferred.

 

To make matters worse, unprovoked out of no where she goes "And 'chinpoko', you have a little kid face." I already knew this on some level, but the awkwardness of the moment sucked. Moments later she said "I'm just joking." Of course she wasn't joking, because the thought wouldn't have occured to her in the first place.

 

I don't know why. But it struck me in an odd kind of way. Suddenly my entire mood, personality, crashed, and reality hit me harder and more profoundly than ever before. Life was rigged and I was destined to be alone with the occasional shallow friendship. As I drove home, deeply upset and seeing no point, I contemplated suicide on a serious level again. I figured there's really no point in existing. I considered whether it would be a good idea to move to a foreign country where assisted suicide is legal. The problem is I'm too pussy to commit suicide, I could never do it because I fear the pain.

 

With a "little kid face" I will never truly be taken seriously. What is the effing point?

 

no but seriously, you should:

 

1. study hard

2. become doctor

3. **** bitches

[KungFuJoe]

I'm not crying. I've accepted that I'm undateable and probably will be for life since I pretty much have a non-generalized SA with women I'm interested in. I wouldn't know how to start up a conversation with them even if I was at a normal weight and would be deathly afraid to anyway. I'm just making observations from my POV.

 

Aaahh...I love the defeatist attitude.

 

"I can't win so why even try?"

 

Lazy lazy lazy. That's what you are. Lose the ****ing weight. You don't get to ask for pity if you haven't even gone down swinging.

[musemaj11]

No one twisted their arms to rush to the bar to buy me a drink. But i am supposed to have sex with a guy for only that reason?????! Not. Why not just give me a cash offer If that's all you think sex is worth?? Then i can buy my own drink and not talk to a creep who thinks my vaginal hole costs €xxx,xx. Gross. And the guys i actually allow inside my vagina don't do this immature crap of "oh i bought you something, sleep with me".

 

But that's the way it is most of the time eh? You'll put your dick in anything and say and do anything to get it. And us women have to sift through endless losers and wanna be players to find a real man.

 

And being in Italy this is magnified ten fold. Almost everyone is ****ing in cars, cheating, and buying sex. So initially its much harder to avoid these types as they come concealed in a sexy smile and suave words. But they show their hand quite quickly. Like you Im sure. It must suck to never sleep with a woman who actually ALLOW WANTS to sleep with you instead of being bought and tricked. Makes for boring sex. But you wouldn't know the difference anyway.

You said before you were disappointed because men who gave you free drinks, free meals, free trips or whatever were in fact expecting something in return. And in response to that I said you are naive to expect people to give you stuff for nothing like they give to charity.

 

I mean how many times have you yourself ever lets say gone to a bar and buy a random guy a beer out of pure generosity and just walk away? Never right? So why expect different from other people?

[USMCHokie]

Aaahh...I love the defeatist attitude.

 

"I can't win so why even try?"

 

Lazy lazy lazy. That's what you are. Lose the ****ing weight. You don't get to ask for pity if you haven't even gone down swinging.

 

So what about those who can't want even when they do try...? What next...?

[ISFJ]

Self-love and confidence will get you to the places you want to be (and people you want to be with).

 

It will be a hard journey at first, but once you get rolling, no one will stop you and you will wonder why you hadn't started this trip sooner!

 

I recommend looking up positive affirmations to tell yourself. You might not believe what you say right away, but you will get there. Small steps each day.

[KungFuJoe]

So what about those who can't want even when they do try...? What next...?

 

I dunno. If I had that answer I'd make millions. It's a cliche but you can't be so scared of failing that you don't even try.

 

And let's be honest here. That guy was talking about being overweight. Being overweight is pretty much universally unattractive. And it's something that can be fixed AND its for your own good! Forget women, it's for your own health.

 

But to speak more directly...as a guy, this what I would recommend to make yourself more attractive:

 

Get to a reasonable weight. This should be priority number one because it's also very good for your health.

 

If you aren't gifted with a naturally good shaped body, start working out. You don't have to kill yourself spending hours in a gym. 30 minutes, 3 days a week, doing simple things like bench press, squats, bent over barbell rows, will work wonders.

 

Find a hair style that suits your face type. A good hair style makes a WORLD of difference on a man, moreso than a woman.

 

Learn how to dress. Seriously...this is something that 99% of men don't know how to do...is dress themselves properly. You don't need to spend bank, either. You can get cheap clothes at Target or Kohls or H&M. Then find a good, cheap tailor in your area, and get your clothes fitted.

 

Make sure you are already in decent shape before doing the above, however.

 

Those are all things that are possible for ANY man, and they can completely change how you appear.

[USMCHokie]

Those are all things that are possible for ANY man, and they can completely change how you appear.

 

Of course they are. But when you have done all of those things and they still don't help, then what next...?

[phineas]

lol, I like your posting style phineas. I admit I am painfully shy in real life and an introvert, but online I post with a sort of defensive style, not unlike yours.

 

I would only be too happy to oblige. Is there a PM feature on this site? I would rather not post images of myself publically, but if I must I must. Is that you in your avatar pic? I will assume it is. Decent tone indeed

 

 

Yeah, I would certainly agree with you on that one. No one is sure to what extent muscular disorders are prevalent, as many of them go undiagnosed. I would certainly agree though, that they are more uncommon than not, but who knows? I don't. But as to those who do suffer from those...they should not be ignored.

 

 

I nearly laughed out loud when I saw my mistake. New Windows 8 Operating System does automatic corrections for you, even if you don't want them. I meant gastric problems. My pediatrician once gave his personal experience about after-squat effects he suffered: one of which was throwing up after every workout.

 

Don't really want men's shirtless pics PM'd to me.

Women feel free however.

 

Of all the people i've given advice to, about 95% of them didn't even try. The only disorder they have is the food table too close to their cube at work.

Yes there are people out there with disorders but the average person who is unhappy with their appearance & not doing anything about it most likely isn't one of them

 

I do know of one guy on another forum I converse with that has cerebral Palsy & very little leg mass so he's 5'8" and around 155lbs. He's 40 also but he has posted videos of himself benching about 255lbs. He isn't squatting but he's still in the gym. I'd say he's an extreme case though.

 

I've gotten queesy after squats but never sick like that. But afterword they can still eat & get that food in them.

 

I tend to get jerky when I hear excuses after excuses.

I personally spun my wheels for yrs before I educated myself on weight loss.

When I came off my first bulk it took me months to get back on track & get my diet back undercontrol & start dropping fat again. It isn't easy even for people used to doing it.

But once you start & make it your lifestyle it becomes very easy.

[sweetkiwi]

You're judgements of hot guys is ignorant and nothing more then a defense mechanism because dating a guy with tons of options makes you insecure

 

Looks have nothing to do with personality or character you should go for men who you like and get you WET on SIGHT

 

Ive seen too many women go for guys they think are safe because theyre not that good looking and wont cheat and will be stable for them emotionally and give them the family they want.

 

Then they meet a guy who has the same good character qualties as their husband but it much hotter and turns thme on more and they cheat..

 

Ive been the guy women tried to cheat with..even friends wives have tried that with me because we connected plus they find me sexier then their husbands.

 

If you settle for an blah looking guy because of your insecurities its gonna bite both of you in the end when your lustful needs arent met

I have a very high sex drive. There is no way i want a LTR with someone Im not attracted to. Never happened. And yeah. All my exs were sexy with many options. As am i. We chose eachother. And as far as i know they didn't cheat.

 

Never been married. Engaged once. I broke it off. Some people cheat. I have. And even ugly people cheat. I would say i am more attractive than all my exs. But i don't buy into that whole dating under your attractiveness for security crap. It just so happens they were sexy funny and smart. And good people.

 

So assuming i am choosing ugly guys over hot ones is completely false. If i met a George colony look alike and he was sweet funny and good id be his lady in a heartbeat. Jerks don't make me wet. Hot or not.

[sweetkiwi]

And you turned them down right?

 

 

Yeah we don't try very hard because we're used to and expect to get rejected.

 

No i didn't turn them down. In fact. I asked THEM out. Genuine guys are sexy and so so rare. I want that. And Im sorry for all the things humans do to one another. But the day i stop being genuine is the day i become subhuman. There's so many reasons to be me!!!! From my personal point of view.

 

I've been rejected as well. It slows me down momentarily but doesn't stop me. I can't relayed to those of you who get constantly rejected. That's not my life. But i certainly can't date every guy who asks.

[iris219]

Then how do I know they're not in it for the money? I may as well just pay various women to date me when I feel like going out. It would be cheaper in the long run.

 

How do I know guys aren't interested in me just because I have a hot body? Oh, wait, that is why they are interested in me, at least until they get to know me.

 

If you're not attracting women based on how you look physically, you have to have another way.

 

I'm not sure why some men are against a woman being initially attracted to him based on money, but OK if she likes him based on how he looks.

[musemaj11]

I would rather have a woman taking interest in me because she thinks Im hot than because she thinks she will be enjoying my money.

[iris219]

I would rather have a woman taking interest in me because she thinks Im hot than because she thinks she will be enjoying my money.

 

I realize that men feel this way, but why?

[ThaWholigan]

I realize that men feel this way, but why?

We want to be sexually desired - that a woman genuinely wants to have sex with me, gets wet thinking of me etc. Money isn't much of an aphrodisiac.

[ThaWholigan]

WRONG. Money is the best aphrodisiac! Its just not enough men make the money women want. So they eventually realize they will go for something else.

For golddiggers maybe . You know how many rich mother****ers I know who got cheated on? Too many. Money won't keep that woman satisfied. Not if the attraction aint there. Not if she aint getting that good dick game.

[IT Geek]

Aaahh...I love the defeatist attitude.

 

"I can't win so why even try?"

 

Lazy lazy lazy. That's what you are. Lose the ****ing weight. You don't get to ask for pity if you haven't even gone down swinging.

 

I'm losing the ****ing weight you moron! I'm not asking for pity, I don't want pity. WTF would your attitude be if you've approached women and been laughed at and ridiculed?

[musemaj11]

I realize that men feel this way, but why?

Do you really have to ask?

 

I mean suppose you have to choose between the two, would you rather have a man being with you because he wants you to spend your money on him than because he thinks you are beautiful?

[USMCHokie]

I realize that men feel this way, but why?

 

I will reference my good friend Wholigan's post below in my response.

 

They feel this way because life is one big dick-measuring contest. Men compete against men, and women compete against women. We are just the tools of that competition for the opposite sex, i.e., men use women to compete against other men, and vice versa.

 

Now, men already have a method of competing against each other financially: suits and sports cars. However, when it comes to competing sexually, we have to use women for that. So we try to bed the most attractive women and be the most sexually satisfying men we can be to outdo all the other men. We want to have the hottest women get the most wet for us. That makes us the proverbial "King of the Jungle."

 

And that's why some men have such issue with penis size, height, etc. It's not because we don't think it's good enough for women; it's because we are not good enough compared to other men. Women are just the measuring stick.

 

I think this will have been my most brilliant post of the evening. Good day.

 

 

We want to be sexually desired - that a woman genuinely wants to have sex with me, gets wet thinking of me etc. Money isn't much of an aphrodisiac.

[iris219]

We want to be sexually desired - that a woman genuinely wants to have sex with me, gets wet thinking of me etc. Money isn't much of an aphrodisiac.

 

Having money will make a lot of women sexually desire you. I know women who sacrificed physical attraction for financial security, but because of the respect they feel for their husbands and the sense of security he provides, these women DO get wet thinking about their husbands.

 

Do you really have to ask?

 

I mean suppose you have to choose between the two, would you rather have a man being with you because he wants you to spend your money on him than because he thinks you are beautiful?

 

I want a man to love me for me once he gets to know me, but if my success makes him want to get to know me, that's fine with me.

[IT Geek]

How do I know guys aren't interested in me just because I have a hot body? Oh, wait, that is why they are interested in me, at least until they get to know me.

 

If you're not attracting women based on how you look physically, you have to have another way.

 

I'm not sure why some men are against a woman being initially attracted to him based on money, but OK if she likes him based on how he looks.

 

By being attracted to you for your looks initially, they are still attracted to part of YOU, not what you have or can provide them. If they are attracted for money the chances of them stepping out for some hot guy/girl is exponentially greater!

 

It's happened to me before. The women accidentally butt-dialed me while talking to her friend. She was saying how she was only with me for the money and how this guy she met at a club a few nights ago was so hot and was a great kisser. Her friend asked her why didn't she just dump me and be with this other guy. She answered that she could tolerate me for a little while longer to see what else she could milk from me.

 

That was a big eye-opener.

[iris219]

I will reference my good friend Wholigan's post below in my response.

 

They feel this way because life is one big dick-measuring contest. Men compete against men, and women compete against women. We are just the tools of that competition for the opposite sex, i.e., men use women to compete against other men, and vice versa.

 

Now, men already have a method of competing against each other financially: suits and sports cars. However, when it comes to competing sexually, we have to use women for that. So we try to bed the most attractive women and be the most sexually satisfying men we can be to outdo all the other men. We want to have the hottest women get the most wet for us. That makes us the proverbial "King of the Jungle."

 

And that's why some men have such issue with penis size, height, etc. It's not because we don't think it's good enough for women; it's because we are not good enough compared to other men. Women are just the measuring stick.

 

I think this will have been my most brilliant post of the evening. Good day.

 

This was a pretty good post. I'm happy you're proud of it.

 

As for the bolded, why do men care if the hottest woman was initially attracted to them for their money, but than likes them for who they are?

 

I'm not talking about women using men for money like IT says. I'm talking about women who value financial security and that makes them genuinely attracted to the man.

[USMCHokie]

As for the bolded, why do men care if the hottest woman was initially attracted to them for their money, but than likes them for who they are?

 

I'm not talking about women using men for money like IT says. I'm talking about women who value financial security and that makes them genuinely attracted to the man.

 

Like I said in my super awesome post, when a man learns that a woman is only with him for the money, she no longer becomes a proverbial measuring stick of his sexuality. If she isn't with him because he's sexually desirable, then she's nothing more than a suit or sports car that serves as a reflection of his wealth; he already has those things. He already knows he's financially powerful; what he doesn't have is a woman that proves to him and to other men that he's sexually powerful.

[Brit]

This was a pretty good post. I'm happy you're proud of it.

 

As for the bolded, why do men care if the hottest woman was initially attracted to them for their money, but than likes them for who they are?

 

I'm not talking about women using men for money like IT says. I'm talking about women who value financial security and that makes them genuinely attracted to the man.

 

Men who are comfortable in their own skin, enjoy women who enjoy the finer things in life, and the woman coming from that background is a plus!!!!!!!!!!!! The can share and enjoy the finer things in life together:)