Brunettie Posted December 13, 2012 Posted December 13, 2012 My boyfriend and I have been dating for a little over 6 months. We have been saying I love you for 5 months. We've met each other's family and friends and spend a lot of time together. He has been asking me what I want for Christmas and I really like Sterling Silver Infinity Ring w/ Cubic Zirconia - Available Size: 4, 4.5, 5, 5.5, 6, 6.5, 7, 7.5, 8, 8.5, 9, 9.5, 10: Jewelry: Amazon.com Is that ok to ask for? I don't know if he'd think the whole 'infinity' thing is too soon, which is why I am asking. Thanks.
movingon12 Posted December 13, 2012 Posted December 13, 2012 I doubt he'd even know what an infinity ring means. 1
Cutiepie1976 Posted December 13, 2012 Posted December 13, 2012 It's very pretty and reasonably priced. Still, if you're going to suggest jewelry, pick earrings or something less "loaded" with meaning and innuendo. Maybe I'm too sensitive about these things... 2
yessy21 Posted December 13, 2012 Posted December 13, 2012 That looks like an engagement ring. he will run for the hills. ask for something not so "meaningful" when he is ready he will buy it for u.
yessy21 Posted December 13, 2012 Posted December 13, 2012 Actually after looking at that price. Ask him to buy it for you. just explain to him that this isnt some type of promise ring. you dont want to scare him.
lemonlegs Posted December 13, 2012 Posted December 13, 2012 My boyfriend and I have been dating for a little over 6 months. We have been saying I love you for 5 months. We've met each other's family and friends and spend a lot of time together. He has been asking me what I want for Christmas and I really like Sterling Silver Infinity Ring w/ Cubic Zirconia - Available Size: 4, 4.5, 5, 5.5, 6, 6.5, 7, 7.5, 8, 8.5, 9, 9.5, 10: Jewelry: Amazon.com Is that ok to ask for? I don't know if he'd think the whole 'infinity' thing is too soon, which is why I am asking. Thanks. I think it depends on how you view this ring. If you view it as a symbol of commitment hence the "infinity" part, then it might be bold to ask so soon. However, if you just think the ring is pretty and would look nice, then sure, I don't see a problem. 1
Els Posted December 15, 2012 Posted December 15, 2012 Tokens that have emotional or symbolic meaning should be given of the giver's own accord, IMO. Otherwise is there really a point in it? How could it mean anything to you when he gave it to you just because you asked for it? If I were you I'd just tell him that I like jewellery, and leave it at that. 2
Casablanca Posted December 15, 2012 Posted December 15, 2012 I doubt he'd even know what an infinity ring means. What does an Infinity ring mean? I didn't think it meant anything by looking at, just thought it was for people who liked math! 2
veggirl Posted December 15, 2012 Posted December 15, 2012 That prob will turn your finger green. What finger would you wear it on? I think it's inappropriate to ask a boyfriend of 6 months for a ring, no matter how cheap it is, unless he specifically tells you he wants to buy you a RING. Hello.
newmoon Posted December 15, 2012 Posted December 15, 2012 it's nice that he asked what you wanted and that you feel confident enough to select a ring, but that would send the wrong message, imo. pick a non-jewelry item. it's only been 6 months and no matter how low-end the ring/price it just seems like a bad idea to want any type of ring from a guy. the fact that you're selecting an infinity ring and a ring as a gift kinda shows the meaning you are trying to attach to the gift for yourself, which may be too much?
xdahliax Posted December 15, 2012 Posted December 15, 2012 That is way too personal of a gift to ask for. Wouldn't you want to know that if and when he buys you a ring with that much meaning, it's because he decided to do so on his own? Either way, I actually don't get the point of an infinity ring. Infinity is forever, and that's a mighty long time...it's what most people call "marriage". Don't settle for a pre-commitment-commitment. It's BS IMO. 1
Janesays Posted December 15, 2012 Posted December 15, 2012 I don't think it's appropriate to ask for anything for Christmas. If asked, you should say, "I'm sure whatever you select will be perfect!" And you should mean it. 1
todreaminblue Posted December 15, 2012 Posted December 15, 2012 (edited) My boyfriend and I have been dating for a little over 6 months. We have been saying I love you for 5 months. We've met each other's family and friends and spend a lot of time together. He has been asking me what I want for Christmas and I really like Sterling Silver Infinity Ring w/ Cubic Zirconia - Available Size: 4, 4.5, 5, 5.5, 6, 6.5, 7, 7.5, 8, 8.5, 9, 9.5, 10: Jewelry: Amazon.com Is that ok to ask for? I don't know if he'd think the whole 'infinity' thing is too soon, which is why I am asking. Thanks. I have a problem when it is a post that says can i ask for this for xmas....isnt giving gifts a thign where you dotn know what the gift is until you receive it and pre empting a xmas gift even telling your partner what to get you defeats the purpose which is the thought behind the gift ...in my opinion.....ask him for the money and buy it then.that si just as impersonal...when i have been in a relationship.....i get excited......because i play with my so....ill try and be as subtle as i can fidn out what he really desires......ask him loads of questions....drive him up the wall....and ultimately give the best gift ever....that to me is xmas...showing how much thought and effort you put into something...i miss doing that fro a partner....i would normally do it after making love.....when he would say just about anything to go to sleep and most liekly it was truthful....lol.....i miss being able to do this for someone...not him in particular....it makes me a little sad around xmas....i get to do it fro my family...i still get excited..but it was those times when we were alone.....and talking about anything and everything...and i would slip in little subtle questions...i do miss it...i enjoy watching everyone open there presents...i have to be told to open mine all i want to see is that once again i guessed right.....it is what they really wanted......wouldnt you like to try that.....it is fun..ok im a big kid...slinks off..ps if you dont know if the infinity thing is too soon for your partner then you dont know him well enough to be infinite....i love the word infinity ...i have an affinty for infinity..;0)...i hope he does know what infinty is.....becasue it is a graceful word shared for true love given in grace........deb Edited December 15, 2012 by todreaminblue
ChatroomHero Posted December 15, 2012 Posted December 15, 2012 When it comes to gifts and I ask a girl what she wants, I would love for her to tell me what she wants exactly and if it is $25, perfect. Just tell him. Not sure how anyone would think of it as something other than jewelery you want and think "engagement ring". In the past I have asked and been told things like a watch, with a few specifics about color...and when I bought it I asked other women's opinions and they loved it, but the girl never wore it so it was a good amount of $$$ just wasted. If she takes it back and gets something else that still kind of sucks too. Seriously, some women are very hard to shop for and often very picky. Sometimes you get them something they said they liked but later find out it doesn't match their shoes, or they saw a different one they liked better. Just tell the guy. I have a rule, if you leave it to me and you are getting either the Die Hard or Batman box set.
Author Brunettie Posted December 16, 2012 Author Posted December 16, 2012 I don't think it's appropriate to ask for anything for Christmas. If asked, you should say, "I'm sure whatever you select will be perfect!" And you should mean it. I have told him this about 10 times but he said he wants me to just tell him something. I even told him he didn't have to get anything.
yongyong Posted December 16, 2012 Posted December 16, 2012 I don't think I will have problem with that. First, it's very very very cheap. (are you guys teenagers?) Second, you are voluntarily asking to put this on, 'hey I am yours' and not asking him to wear the same thing. so he doesn't have to feel pressured. just tell him you like the design and he will buy it as an accessory item.
FitChick Posted December 16, 2012 Posted December 16, 2012 If he gets you the ring, make sure you wear it on your right, not left, hand.
Author Brunettie Posted December 16, 2012 Author Posted December 16, 2012 I don't think I will have problem with that. First, it's very very very cheap. (are you guys teenagers?) Second, you are voluntarily asking to put this on, 'hey I am yours' and not asking him to wear the same thing. so he doesn't have to feel pressured. just tell him you like the design and he will buy it as an accessory item. No, we are not teenagers.
Els Posted December 16, 2012 Posted December 16, 2012 I have told him this about 10 times but he said he wants me to just tell him something. I even told him he didn't have to get anything. I don't think it's bad to answer if the person really insists on wanting to know. Some people are like that - you'd make it easier on them by answering something, anything. Just.. not a ring, hon. Trust me on that.
Cutiepie1976 Posted December 16, 2012 Posted December 16, 2012 Insightful thread! All the women have taken issue with the significance of a ring and its design, while all the guys either don't care or are thrilled that you're telling him what you want. Just hilarious! He asked you to tell him what you wanted. It's very pretty. It's very reasonably priced. Go for it! Don't forget to give him your ring size. You'll both be happy come Christmas!
naviis Posted December 16, 2012 Posted December 16, 2012 Insightful thread! All the women have taken issue with the significance of a ring and its design, while all the guys either don't care or are thrilled that you're telling him what you want. Just hilarious! He asked you to tell him what you wanted. It's very pretty. It's very reasonably priced. Go for it! Don't forget to give him your ring size. You'll both be happy come Christmas! Agreed. Chances are your guy will be the same and not think twice about the ring or the symbol. He'll just be happy he got you something you like.
Carenth Posted December 16, 2012 Posted December 16, 2012 I guess I'm a bit different, I like picking out gifts personally for my girlfriend, I feel like I'm an incredibly lazy boyfriend if I have to ask her what she wants. Not to mention it feels like the present has no meaning if I do that it's like "Hey here is that.. thing or whatever you told me to get you. I hope you enjoy the present you picked for yourself" seems pretty lame to me. Though to be honest I would be taken a little back if she asked me to get a ring like that after 6 months. As some others have said with something like that it feels like you are trying to attach some meaning to it, which your boyfriend may not agree with or he might not care I don't know. I just bought my girlfriend a sterling silver bracelet with a few charms that I think she will appreciate. I think for presents like jewellery it's nice if the guy puts some thought into it himself and is giving it to you because he wants too. Not you picking it out and going get me that one. I don't know that's my personal opinion.
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