Muhrica Posted December 13, 2012 Posted December 13, 2012 Is it selfish to want to try while being in the Military knowing that I can at any time be PCS'ed to a different area or deployed? Cause I got into this huge argument with one girl who says it makes me no different than a player, and that makes zero sense to me. But then again in that same sentence she called me a "glorified baby killer" so there is always that. But I was just curious if people really think that about dating military. Also, if/when I DO start dating while remaining enlisted, how do I go about explaining to a civilian that my job will always come before them in this case cause if it didn't uncle sam would have me done up in the gallows? So far a couple of girls didn't like to hear that either. They think they should come before the military...
Emilia Posted December 13, 2012 Posted December 13, 2012 Is it selfish to want to try while being in the Military knowing that I can at any time be PCS'ed to a different area or deployed? Cause I got into this huge argument with one girl who says it makes me no different than a player, and that makes zero sense to me. But then again in that same sentence she called me a "glorified baby killer" so there is always that. But I was just curious if people really think that about dating military. Also, if/when I DO start dating while remaining enlisted, how do I go about explaining to a civilian that my job will always come before them in this case cause if it didn't uncle sam would have me done up in the gallows? So far a couple of girls didn't like to hear that either. They think they should come before the military... She is an idiot, ignore her. As long as you are upfront to women you date, you will be fine. Plenty of enlisted guys are in relationships. Your job is contraversial, there will be always some who judge you for it. Just shrug it off. You will have trouble convincing most girls to understand your priorities. Even though you kinda don't have a choice but to go and do what you are told.
Imported Posted December 13, 2012 Posted December 13, 2012 I had way more free time in the military than I do now and I have a lot of free time now. My job still comes before whatever girl. If they want me to fly off on the next plane to Central America to take care of some issues, than that is what I do, even if I made plans with her months ago for that very night. All jobs are like that. Sure, most jobs aren't having you move every 4 years...but that is 4 years. I am sure you can just not talk about it till months after getting to know her. I am sure you can just not talk about how your job comes before her or put it in a way that doesn't make her feel secondary. Deployments.......I don't know. My "deployments" were more like a month long...at most....road trip to whatever countries to sample the local beer and liqours. And seriously....baby killer.....should a punched her in the face.
Brunettie Posted December 13, 2012 Posted December 13, 2012 No, it is not selfish. My boyfriend is enlisted in the military and was before we started dating. As for the whole thing about telling her that your job is more important, I don't know about that. While it may be true that your job is more important, I don't know if you should go out and say it. If she asks, or it comes up then sure.
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