imbafl Posted August 12, 2004 Posted August 12, 2004 after 19 mths I have some apprehension...when we first met he wanted all the same things that I did. Now things are changing. I feel like he takes me for granted. His communication skills suck and he just assumes all the time. The I love you's are said unless we are hanging up the phone, leaving the house or I say it first. It used to be all the time especially after or during making love. Now nothing. He swears nothing has changed, that I should know how he feels...but frankly I don't. I'm confused as to why he was one way before and now the change. We have lived together for 17 mths. What do you think?
batitm Posted August 12, 2004 Posted August 12, 2004 Unless something else major has changed I don't think his lack of spoken emotion means that he loves you any less. I would say you are suffering from the same problem most married couples encounter, hes just too comfortable in the relationship. He assumes you know how he feels and I'm sure you truly do but I can also understand that you still want to hear it from him directly. Why not spend some time apart? Don't break up, don't tell him you need to be away from him for awhile, but do something for yourself, perhaps a weekend trip with a girlfriend. I'm sure after about the first hour he'll realize how much he missed you while you were gone and will not "take you for granted" anymore.
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