Christmas gift for girlfriend

[Eclypse]

Well, it's that time of year again. I'm not big on materialism and frankly can't wait till the Christmas rush is over. However, my girlfriend is quite big on the whole gifts thing and once again I'm completely stumped as to what to get her. Unfortunately I am still a student so expensive tropical getaways and big bling is out of the question. Last Xmas I was able to group together some dinero's I'd been saving however, and get her a gold necklace which was on discount (luckily). She is fond of jewellery and I'm not sure if I should get her some again. Another necklace is probably cliche, but what else can I get her? A ring? We're not engaged. Help me out here ladies!

 

She is also fond of video games. I could get her something related to that but again I'm not quite sure? Buying a video game for your girlfriend on Xmas just doesn't sound right for some reason.

 

Anyway, I am asking all the women here: what would you like your boyfriend on a student budget to get you for Christmas? I've recently been able to get some peso's through some casual work I did, but I'm not sure when I will be working again, so I'd like to keep it at below $100! Thanks

[Els]

Wish I could help you, but Christmas gift-giving isn't a huge part of our culture. We mostly stick to gifts on birthdays and Valentines, and Christmas is more of a hang out and do stuff together at home thing.

 

I don't see anything necessarily wrong with getting her a video game if that's what she likes, but that's just me.

[veggirl]

Well what kinda stuff does she buy you?

 

Why don't you suggest forgoing gifts this year and instead doing a nice dinner or something? I'd rather that than a gift tbh.

[Eclypse]

Cheers guys. She usually gets me DVD sets of movies or TV shows I like. I had a talk with her today. We've both decided that we're going to save money so we'll just have a nice dinner or something. Maybe a small gift. Of course, that won't stop me from getting myself a Christmas gift

[Cutiepie1976]

Despite your conversation, I would still get her something. It will be a nice surprise. Even if she said it was OK, many women feel a little hurt and disappointed if they get nothing, especially since you got her something last year. It may seem as if you're getting a little complacent.

 

It really doesn't have to be expensive. It's really about the fact that you thought of her and value her. Is there something that she's wanted, that she hasn't gotten herself? It's hard to suggest ideas without knowing either of you.

 

If it helps, here's a Christmas present I got as a student from a guy that I had just started dating that meant a lot--he made me a CD (yes this was back in the day!) of special songs. I'm sure it cost nothing, but it was the thoughtfulness of remembering what songs I liked and including some that he thought I might like that really touched me.

 

If you're really at a loss for ideas, you can always get her pretty earrings. They're available at all price points. Just make sure the box is sufficiently large that it couldn't possibly be mistaken for a ring box. Sounds like you've been together a couple of years...small jewelry boxes can be misinterpreted prior to being opened;)

[rocketman122]

Cheers guys. She usually gets me DVD sets of movies or TV shows I like. I had a talk with her today. We've both decided that we're going to save money so we'll just have a nice dinner or something. Maybe a small gift. Of course, that won't stop me from getting myself a Christmas gift

 

you say "save money" because youre low on funds and then you want to buy yourself a gift. be a gentleman and buy her the gift instead. I like giving so thats what i'd do. dinner is mandatory and shouldnt be calculated.

[veggirl]

Hello? The girl agreed on no gifts. He doesn't still have to buy her something and she won't expect something after AGREEING to no gifts unless she has the mentality of a spoiled 5 yr old.

[rocketman122]

he knows she likes gift. he has no money but does have it when he wants to buy himself one. like I said the gentleman would buy his partner one and not make excuses. sounds like a cheapo in disguise. it doesnt even need to be $100. a video game costs $40-60. every girl will say "no gift" but we all know they all would like one. even if something small. she will be disappointed if you dont. take the money you want to spend on yourself and buy her the present. dont be cheapo. give and you get back. oh and she knows you are low on funds and you made the effort to buy her something which will give u brownie points.

[Imported]

Get her a Chia pet in the form of a kitten

 

Amazon.com: Chia Kitten: Health & Personal Care

 

and a superhero nightlight to keep her safe when she is asleep

 

Amazon.com: Marvel Avengers Characters Super Hero Squad Night Light Featuring the Hulk, Thor, Hawk Eye, Nick Fury, Iron Man, Spiderman, the Human Torch & Wolverine: Toys & Games

[newmoon]

tickets to an event of some sort that you know she might like. it's thoughtful, different, is for a date into the future (so it shows you want to be together in a few weeks/months). you can even have dinner before/after and treat her to a really nice time out. most women like accessories (aside from jewelry) that include handbags, scarves, hats, etc. so maybe get a few of those and wrap them up if you want something she can open. i don't think, as a student, you're expected to spend much, just be thoughtful

[veggirl]

he knows she likes gift. he has no money but does have it when he wants to buy himself one. like I said the gentleman would buy his partner one and not make excuses. sounds like a cheapo in disguise. it doesnt even need to be $100. a video game costs $40-60. every girl will say "no gift" but we all know they all would like one. even if something small. she will be disappointed if you dont. take the money you want to spend on yourself and buy her the present. dont be cheapo. give and you get back. oh and she knows you are low on funds and you made the effort to buy her something which will give u brownie points.

 

Way to super overthink it

 

:rolleyes:

[rocketman122]

Way to super overthink it

 

 

maybe youre used to guys treating you badly so you accept less. I treat my woman great and I think of her before myself. getting a gift is not about the gift. if a rich guy bought her a present it would have very little meaning, but him being a student and having little money would be a king in her eyes because he took the money he doesnt have and something to make her happy. and if she doesnt appreciate it, kick her to the curb.

 

what pisses me off is cheapo's crying they have no money but they have money for selective gifting. yes, I overthink everything. thats why every woman I dated always wanted to keep dating. even though I didnt. also im a virgo. we think a lot in our minds.

[FitChick]

How about an IOU for a service -- offer to clean her car or apartment, give her a long, full body massage, do her filing and organizing, do her laundry and ironing, alphabetize her books, if you are handy fix something that needs fixing, etc. You know better than we do what she needs but either dislikes doing or doesn't have the time to do.

[nessaaa]

Something meaning full!

My boo thang found me a ring that totally represents what i love and found it in my fav colour. Didnt even realize boo remembered my fav colour...it was sweet.

[veggirl]

maybe youre used to guys treating you badly so you accept less. I treat my woman great and I think of her before myself. getting a gift is not about the gift. if a rich guy bought her a present it would have very little meaning, but him being a student and having little money would be a king in her eyes because he took the money he doesnt have and something to make her happy. and if she doesnt appreciate it, kick her to the curb.

 

what pisses me off is cheapo's crying they have no money but they have money for selective gifting. yes, I overthink everything. thats why every woman I dated always wanted to keep dating. even though I didnt. also im a virgo. we think a lot in our minds.

 

HAHAHAHA.

 

Exactly getting a gift is NOT ABOUT THE GIFT. So I am not "bought" with gifts, they don't show me someone cares about me. How my man treats me is how I know he cares, regardless of how much $$ he spends on me.

 

Clearly it IS all about $ and tangible gifts for people like you and Cutiepie.

 

I have never seen posts from "cheapos" on here crying about having no $ and then giving "selective gifts" whatever that means. Can you link me to these posts?

 

I'm sorry you overthink everything. I would hate to date someone with that kind of paranoid mindset.

 

All I know is I mean what I say and if I agree to no gifts, I am not secretly hoping my man buys me s.hit. I am up front and if I agree I'd rather do a dinner, then that is what I mean I would rather do.

 

Maybe you are more materialistic than I am or you date girls who say one thing but mean another or something. Clearly to people like you and Cutiepie, people show their love and affection through tangible things, that's too bad. Oh well. I personally think OP should believe what his gf says to him, and if she is pissed off that he goes by her words then that sucks for her I guess.

 

Not sure how a dinner doesn't count as a gift, anyway. Peace!

Edited December 15, 2012 by veggirl

[nessaaa]

Bras!

Perfume!

A watch?

A handbag!

A gift certificate to get her nails and hair done?

A ring with her birth stone!

Does she like makeup?- M.a.c gift card

[nessaaa]

You people are whinning way too much.

just give the guy ideas and stfu, complicated *******s.

[rocketman122]

You people are whinning way too much.

just give the guy ideas and stfu, complicated *******s.

 

HAHA, nice.

[Eclypse]

Okay, some conflicting viewpoints. The gift to myself was tongue in cheek. I splurged a bit and bought a couple of games after submitting my thesis recently

 

Anyway, I pay for a small trip away for us every now and then. That won't be possible for a while as I may have an operation coming up, but I might do that in February for us. In terms of what she tells me, she's usually quite honest and I believe her at face value. However she does have a weakness for perfume and earrings, so thats a good possibility I hadn't thought of.

[Els]

Okay, some conflicting viewpoints. The gift to myself was tongue in cheek. I splurged a bit and bought a couple of games after submitting my thesis recently

 

Anyway, I pay for a small trip away for us every now and then. That won't be possible for a while as I may have an operation coming up, but I might do that in February for us. In terms of what she tells me, she's usually quite honest and I believe her at face value. However she does have a weakness for perfume and earrings, so thats a good possibility I hadn't thought of.

 

I was wondering if you were joking about the 'gift to self'. Turns out you are, so s'all good! I would be a little put off if the bf and I agreed on 'no gifts' for an occasion due to financial constraints and then he turned up with heaps.. for himself. If you do decide on a gift, any one of the things you mentioned here so far should be fine.

[rocketman122]

I was wondering if you were joking about the 'gift to self'. Turns out you are, so s'all good! I would be a little put off if the bf and I agreed on 'no gifts' for an occasion due to financial constraints and then he turned up with heaps.. for himself. If you do decide on a gift, any one of the things you mentioned here so far should be fine.

 

yup. thats what im saying. if anything, you can get a present and make her happy. tell her you decided that you do want to get presents for one another. tell her what you want, get her what she wants. the money you went to spend on yourself will be for her gift but you'll get back exactly what you wanted and you'll come out on top in her eyes. think of your partner before you think of yourself. you'll get back twice fold from her. too many takers in this world and not enough givers.