Oh the nerve of him!!!!! NC Thread

[livelife]

Hey all,

I'm sure you've seen my posts here and there.

basically, me and my ex broke up, tried working on things. I got a little attached and would constantly hear things bout him, he was talking to this girl and this girl, and he would ignore my texts and I would honestly just lose it.

He always made me feel like I wasn't worth it.

Anyways, on twitter about 2 weeks ago, he has this girl from a different state drive and stay the weekend with him.

Well 2 weeks later they are dating and "perfect for each other"

I asked him today, I said do I need to move on? And he said Thats up to you. i said well you know where you stand so tell me.

And he goes I have a lot going on in my life right now. I said and? And He didnt reply. Then I later tonight see her posting on twitter about how she just got an unexpected phone call and how great he is and how she just wants to call him hers.

 

I text him and I said Who am I fooling? You seem really happy with her and vise versa, I hear it all and saw those pictures she made you in your room. I'll let go."

Then he proceeds to compare me and her, how she doesnt watch his every move, even bothered to say that he wishes that would have been me..... maybe thats because she doesn't know him or anyone to get any information on him like I do.

 

She knows nothing about him!!! He made me feel like ****, so i just said "well I wish you two the best of luck."

Then he goes, " Like I have continuously said- who knows what will happen in the future. Maybe there will be another chance down the road. Who knows."

 

And I didn't reply. I just simply went and blocked him on everything. I went in my car to drive to clear my head and I couldn't stop crying. I wanted to hurt myself. I was thinking such bad thoughts about myself. None of my friends were answering my phone, so I called my sister but i'm back at my room crying.

This is my official NC thread.

Edited December 13, 2012 by livelife

[shahjahan]

and YES, it's better for you to move on, as hard as it may sound. Dating another woman, comparing you two... what kind of guy does that??? And talking about "another chance down the road", even though it may be true (nothing's impossible while we're still alive, but you you want that? would you trust this guy again??)... is just cruel. He shouldn't do this.

He doesn't sound like a someone you want to date - disrespectful, weak, unstable...

[livelife]

Right? He had the actual ****ing nerve to say that to me.

How long will this last?

1. They met 2 weeks ago

2. She lives in a different state

 

He even had the nerve to say all of that to me on my dads birthday. my dad passed away when I was younger and he knows how hard it is on me. What a ****ing jerk.

[livelife]

Why would he tell me, who knows what will happen in the future?

what sick person says that? Is he trying to keep me around?

[Simon Phoenix]

Why would he tell me, who knows what will happen in the future?

what sick person says that? Is he trying to keep me around?

 

It doesn't matter. There will not be an answer that satisfies you. What matters is that you and him are donezo. There's no point in analyzing everything he says. Time for NC and to move forward with your life.

[livelife]

To me, we're done.

To him: He is still saying there is a chance down the road. But I know I will be long gone by then.

[LostOne1]

To me, we're done.

To him: He is still saying there is a chance down the road. But I know I will be long gone by then.

That's cause he thinks he can keep you as a backup option.

 

That he can do w.e he wants and he will still have you as a fall back girl.

 

That's why you need to cut all ties with him and forget the guy. No way you deserve to be some backup girl. Your much better than that and you can show it to him by going NC.

[livelife]

Well thats where i'm headed.

I blocked his facebook his twitter although unfortunately I can see that. But I'm forcing myself not to,

I blocked his phone number.

Nc at its finest I don't want to talk to him.

Someone who makes me cry that hard that i'm not with, isn't worth it.

He can go screw himself so hard I hate the living **** out of him.

[claypoole]

Well thats where i'm headed.

I blocked his facebook his twitter although unfortunately I can see that. But I'm forcing myself not to,

I blocked his phone number.

Nc at its finest I don't want to talk to him.

Someone who makes me cry that hard that i'm not with, isn't worth it.

He can go screw himself so hard I hate the living **** out of him.

 

Sounds like you've got things largely under control and you're heading in a good direction, but I just wanted to come and give you my thumbs-up. Anger is an important stage of the grieving process, so let it do its thing. By the sounds of it, your ex wants you around backup style, and no-one... no-one... deserves that. Be better to yourself. Love yourself. Find someone who will make you the centre of his life.

 

All the best,

 

Clay

[kristi628]

Well thats where i'm headed.

I blocked his facebook his twitter although unfortunately I can see that. But I'm forcing myself not to,

I blocked his phone number.

Nc at its finest I don't want to talk to him.

Someone who makes me cry that hard that i'm not with, isn't worth it.

He can go screw himself so hard I hate the living **** out of him.

 

Anger is definitely better than sadness. Those days where I would cry at the slightest things were torture. You can do so much more with anger. With sadness you stay around the house, dont change out of your pajamas, cry and eat ice cream. With anger you clean up, work out, and let that emotion fuel you to get up and get on with your life. Yes it will still hurt. But keep reminding yourself, "he's an a**hole." and it doesnt matter if he has a girl right now or not. Bc in the end, he will end up alone and you will be happy.

[Chi townD]

Funny how your user name is LiveLife and yet you said you wanted to hurt yourself in your orginal post. Girl, NO GUY is ever worth hurting yourself over. None of them. I know you're probably going to tell me that you won't do that and it was just a fleeting thought. But....you did think about it. And I'm just going to reaffirm. Don't let those thoughts get to you.

 

NOW! It's time to get your revenge. The best revenge you can get is to live a DAMN good life. There's a huge world outside your front door. You're world wasn't this douche rocket. Start making positive changes in your life. Get a new hairstyle. Something people are going to notice and like. Then, buy a new wardrobe. Hell, it's the holidays. If people ask you what you want for Xmas just tell them a gift card so they can finance your transformation. You should be styling and profiling then! This will help with your self esteem.

 

Then, get a memebership to the gym and hit that gym HARD!! Run your ass off on the treadmill and push weight. Take a spin class, yoga class or Zumba. This will help burn off stress and frustrations. Plus, it's going to help you get a tight, sexy bod that will also help with your self esteem.

 

Go back to school, get your degree and if you already have it, start grad school. This helps keep your mind in the classroom and off of what he's doing. Plus, a solid education will open up better job opportunities will better pay so you can afford that cute little townehouse in a nice neighborhood and you can afford that kick ass car that you've always wanted.

 

Then, get a new hobby, something that you'll enjoy. A cycling club or a running club. Co ed sports team, cooking class.....something. This is a great way to strenghten your social interaction with other people and it helps you to put yourself out there and make new friends.

 

Then travel! Grab a girlfriend to go with you on a trip to a place that you've always wanted to go. Do the research on the cost, budget for it and save. Have a target date and go have a blast! This will help you break out of the norm. Do something different and realize that there's a world that needs to be explored.

 

You do all of this and guys are going to notice a cute and sexy girl with a HOT bod. That she has a strong career and likes to meet people. A girl that seems strong and independant that if she ever got with me is because she WANTS to be with me and not to NEED to be with me. A girl that is well traveled and likes adventure. If your Ex ever found out, he would probably be kicking himself in the ass. THAT'S how you get your revenge.

[livelife]

----I can't really hit the gym. I have lost weight due to the "breakup diet" As for school, I am in school, and all this semester the anxiety got to me that I did HORRIBLE in school. And he lives 5 minutes away from me and the university, so I am going home 20 minutes from school for a month for winter break, i'm sure that will help me. I have a guy that is interested in me so I'm going to be hanging out with him over the break. I just don't want to feel that pain that I felt last night. That was awful. I have such a bad itch to check their twitters but I know i'm not going to, it'll just delay the process.

 

I appreciate all of your responses. I just want to feel better and feel worth it to someone again! He will be crying back. They always so. Mark my words.

[livelife]

I woke up not too long ago and I kept telling myself, dont check twitter dont check twitter. I'm trying my hardest. I feel okay right now. Not upset, so I hope this continues!!

[livelife]

Thinking about him a lottttt today. This isn't good!!

[livelife]

It's like, I'm so sick of being lonely, but I'm scared to date again. I haven't kissed ANYONE this past year, it's only been my ex. And I'm scared it's going to make me miss him more. I'm scared to date, I'm just not interested in anyone right now, but I hate being lonely.

[Samilia]

Hey all,

I'm sure you've seen my posts here and there.

basically, me and my ex broke up, tried working on things. I got a little attached and would constantly hear things bout him, he was talking to this girl and this girl, and he would ignore my texts and I would honestly just lose it.

He always made me feel like I wasn't worth it.

Anyways, on twitter about 2 weeks ago, he has this girl from a different state drive and stay the weekend with him.

Well 2 weeks later they are dating and "perfect for each other"

I asked him today, I said do I need to move on? And he said Thats up to you. i said well you know where you stand so tell me.

And he goes I have a lot going on in my life right now. I said and? And He didnt reply. Then I later tonight see her posting on twitter about how she just got an unexpected phone call and how great he is and how she just wants to call him hers.

 

I text him and I said Who am I fooling? You seem really happy with her and vise versa, I hear it all and saw those pictures she made you in your room. I'll let go."

Then he proceeds to compare me and her, how she doesnt watch his every move, even bothered to say that he wishes that would have been me..... maybe thats because she doesn't know him or anyone to get any information on him like I do.

 

She knows nothing about him!!! He made me feel like ****, so i just said "well I wish you two the best of luck."

Then he goes, " Like I have continuously said- who knows what will happen in the future. Maybe there will be another chance down the road. Who knows."

 

And I didn't reply. I just simply went and blocked him on everything. I went in my car to drive to clear my head and I couldn't stop crying. I wanted to hurt myself. I was thinking such bad thoughts about myself. None of my friends were answering my phone, so I called my sister but i'm back at my room crying.

This is my official NC thread.

 

I don't know why you're wasting you time over this. The relationship is clearly over, he's also clearly too much of a coward to say so to your face.

 

Stay off the twitter, it's a drama whore house. I just don't understand why people have to plaster the very intimate details of their life on twitter, or facebook.

 

I know your feelings are hurt, legitimately, who wants to be treated that way? Surely you don't.

 

Cry a bit, but don't cry too long over this. It's just not worth your time. Invest yourself in something healthy, the opposite of that guy. As for that poor girl, leave her to the wolves, she'll learn soon enough what/who he is.

[livelife]

I'm so ****ing pissed off at myself. This past semester, it has been quite a rollercoaster with my ex. So bad that I did HORRIBLE in my grades. I've never been more upset with myself.

I would get upset at night and wouldn't be able to focus on anything but him.

Please readers, please do not let this happen to you. THEY AREN'T WORTH IT.

I'm so ready for January 1st for a new year a new semester to better myself and kick my ex completely out of my life. He has ruined me and i'm so much better than that.

[judithlove]

im so sorry to here this. like you said a new year a new you. make sure you completley get over him and put it in ur mind you will never see him again or ever want him again because you are worth much more

[Mike_d]

It's like, I'm so sick of being lonely, but I'm scared to date again. I haven't kissed ANYONE this past year, it's only been my ex. And I'm scared it's going to make me miss him more. I'm scared to date, I'm just not interested in anyone right now, but I hate being lonely.

 

so stop isolating. get out in front of people, re-engage your friends, find things to do, become active. go to the gym. learn to up your "girl game" now while the pain is great, fix your hair up, have someone help you with makeup and clothing. start running. drop those few extra pounds. flirt with a few guys to get some self esteem going, but make them work crazy hard to get a number or email out of you, and only give it out if the guy seems really interesting.

 

don't date for awhile, you can get the attention you need without dating or sleeping around, just learn to upgrade your flirt game now. learn to play golf. learn to play tennis. learn other activities that guys gravitate towards. stop punishing yourself.

 

it's been 3 days since you've had some sense of actual closure, give yourself a few months, its hard but no one will die over the emotions of hurt feelings

[livelife]

I appreciate this response.

This weekend I have gone out every night and have had a blast, haven't gotten upset. I just got upset today over disappointment in myself. He can go screw himself. Why cry over something you cant control? Over someone who doesn't cry over you? So I'm okay. Right now at least.

[livelife]

I'm having a rough moment.

I went out with some friends to get out of the house and get my mind off of everything. it was great, going well, and a girl in my sorority told me she found out another girl in my sorority was telling my ex a post I put about him in our group. (I said "due to my date(for a dance) being a complete jerk I need a new date."

She went and sent that to him.

I just feel betrayed because I trusted her. We aren't friends, but thats what comes with the sorority. Trust. She didn't even know my ex. Why would she go do that?

Even just a week ago I was giving her advice on her boyfriends situation and I made a tiny comment about my ex to her, no doubt she went and told him. They're like friends now. And it just hurts. Barely any of me misses him, cause he is such a ****ing jerk, but I just am sick of feeling like nothing to anyone.

[bitterruin]

It's like, I'm so sick of being lonely, but I'm scared to date again. I haven't kissed ANYONE this past year, it's only been my ex. And I'm scared it's going to make me miss him more. I'm scared to date, I'm just not interested in anyone right now, but I hate being lonely.

 

I'm going through a very similar situation as yours and went on a date with a guy. I kinda knew I wasn't ready to start seeing other people and we made out. All I could think about was my ex, and the entire duration of the date I was comparing the guy to my ex, even though he had a better body and was really sweet.

[livelife]

I'm going through a very similar situation as yours and went on a date with a guy. I kinda knew I wasn't ready to start seeing other people and we made out. All I could think about was my ex, and the entire duration of the date I was comparing the guy to my ex, even though he had a better body and was really sweet.

 

Yeah like I have this very attractive guy pursuing me, asking me to hang out, to come over and watch a movie, and i'm just not in it. I'm pushing him away. I'm not ready. I don't get how they can just instantly go out with other people right away.

[livelife]

I've tried to fight it the past couple days because I hate the feeling but I just need to cry. I feel it built up inside of me. But I don't want to cry. I want to avoid those things but right now, I feel like I need to.