Cealabeala Posted December 13, 2012 Posted December 13, 2012 It drives me crazy when guys do this, and it's happened to me loads of times with different guys. A guy I was seeing casually during the summer stopped contacting me abruptly without any reason that was obvious to me a few months in. I asked him why but didn't get a straight answer so I decided to let it go. A little while later he did text me while drunk from a festival, which I later found out was because my friend ran into him and ended up having a talk about me with him saying how much he liked me and how perfect I was for him. But after that weekend when I tried to get back in contact with him he didn't reply and so while I was confused, I decided (again) that I should just move on. I felt that he definitely couldn't be in doubt that I liked him so he was choosing not to take things further for reasons of his own. I moved to another city at the end of the summer and kind of forgot about him. Obviously that was a long while ago and I haven't heard from him since, except from a little bit of contact on Facebook about a month ago, just a silly comment on something I posted. And now he's recently sent me a message about how something has reminded him of me and he's been thinking about me. I know there could be loads of potential reasons for why he ended things but what I really don't understand is why he's bothering to contact me now, after ignoring all my attempts to contact him just after we had been spending time together. I don't think he could want to rekindle things, since he must be aware that I've since moved to another city. Other guys have done this before, and I'm just wondering if anyone can tell me the motivation for doing this, preferably people who have done something similar themselves before.
Carenth Posted December 13, 2012 Posted December 13, 2012 I've never done this myself, however friends of mine who have said it's generally for the following reasons. a) they still have feelings for you and are testing the waters. b) they want a booty call and are testing the waters. c) they feel guilty for something they did and are testing the waters. d) all of the above and testing the waters. 1
TooPatient Posted December 13, 2012 Posted December 13, 2012 (edited) I've never done this myself, however friends of mine who have said it's generally for the following reasons. a) they still have feelings for you and are testing the waters. b) they want a booty call and are testing the waters. c) they feel guilty for something they did and are testing the waters. d) all of the above and testing the waters. Yes, this. Also, those feelings may fluctuate so keep him in the friend zone. You're in a new city, see what it has to offer? I have done this btw. I was A at least once, B a few times, C once. I really don't think I've been D thank God, sounds like a worse person than me. lel Edited December 13, 2012 by TooPatient adding
Author Cealabeala Posted December 13, 2012 Author Posted December 13, 2012 That makes sense I suppose. It's just weird to me, since I would never do it! If the relationship was serious and had loose ends I would, but what we had wasn't like that. I suspect he might have a bootycall in mind. I might ask him straight out what he wants.
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