How to get over him when everything reminds me of him

[Pinky777]

Day 13 NC and have been doing good, no tears for the past few days which is an accomplishment on its own after uncontrollable crying jags for most of the first week. But tonight I'm being hit by powerful memories and I can't stop the tears. The 12-12-12 Sandy Benefit brings me right back to Hurricane Sandy when we were still together and all of his sweet concerned texts, if only i could turn back the clock and fix the things I did that led to he BU. Madison Square Garden and hockey. Music we used to listen to in the car on our trips. An email promotion from the restaurant we always used to go to. It was all too much, like it was a sign. had the most powerful urge to text and ask him if he's watching the benefit, I picked up the phone and almost hit send. Thing is, we ended on friendly terms and I'm sure he'd respond. But I need healing. Our memories, our plans we made that will now never happen. Why did it have to end?? NC is harder than I thought.

[Sav]

My ex would respond too if I texted her. But hey stay strong. I know once a couple has done many things together, it becomes a routine and almost everything in our daily lives remind us of them.

 

However these are not signs. It's just your head playing games. Cheer up. Things do get better. I was like you once and I am in a much better place now. It doesn't matter why. The thing is they decided they could do without us. We were fine before we met them. We will be fine after them too. Although a piece of us might be left behind, someone else will fill that piece right up. You have to believe that and continue living, moving on

[Renard99]

As Sav says, It's just your head playing games. You just need to keep going, as hard as it is. You need to begin to make memories without him. I'm not saying you should forget all the things you did with him because they make you who you are, but when you have a wealth of memories to draw upon, not all will be with him.