Author Amelie1980 Posted December 19, 2012 Author Posted December 19, 2012 No. I just wish he would stop being cryptic and give me se indication of what is going on. This does not seem to be the behaviour of someone who has dumped another. but my posts are coming across as angry because the hurt is making me a little crazy. I desperately hoped it was a sign he still wanted to be with me but at the same time I can't help buy be frustrated. I wanted to ask does this look as if iy is just a break?
Mme. Chaucer Posted December 19, 2012 Posted December 19, 2012 If he says he wants to be on a break, take it seriously. Regardless of contradictory behavior, a person who is invested and committed to being in a relationship NOW is NOT going to be asking to be on a break. Stop analyzing him and obsessing over every little thing. Give the whole situation some space. He does not sound like "relationship material" to me, and you don't sound like you are in a good place to be in one right now. Maybe if he gets a new job, his own home, and comes to you with a sincere request to build something together, it might be worthwhile to start dating again on a limited basis. You weren't with him very long, you know. It's usual for things to be "perfect" in the beginning. That phase does not last, and then you get into the real stuff.
Author Amelie1980 Posted December 19, 2012 Author Posted December 19, 2012 I know the perfect phase doesn't last. he doesn't though. His longest relationship before me was 4 months. I don't think he gets that small disagreements are par fir the course & doesn't mean you and an otherwise good relationship. I looked at our photos today and the good times were so good. we never stopped laughing together. But the not knowing what comes next is his issues not. mine
flitzanu Posted December 19, 2012 Posted December 19, 2012 break = breakup. stop enabling his bad behavior. if he wants time away, then YOU NEED TO STOP COMMUNICATING. you can't have it both ways.
Author Amelie1980 Posted November 18, 2013 Author Posted November 18, 2013 I am bringing back my own thread. I found out a year later that it was another woman and he didn't tell me about it. He cheated on me and instead told me it was all my fault for shouting at him or he would not have ended it. He put 100% of the blame at my feet and made me think I was a cruel and terrible person and was responsible for the bu. I'm truly horrified. Guys when a bu makes no sense, rest assured its another woman.
Going4it Posted November 18, 2013 Posted November 18, 2013 I just read through all your turmoil. I hope you have found someone new and things are going well for you. It really sucks that he yanked you around like that but try to chop it up to a hard lesson learned.
Author Amelie1980 Posted November 18, 2013 Author Posted November 18, 2013 Thanks. I got taken for a ride again recently by someone else. Now though I am having a second date with a nice guy on Saturday.
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