denxnis Posted December 12, 2012 Posted December 12, 2012 So I think I'm slowly getting over my ex and am trying to resist contacting her, figured posting here would help. Long story short. Me[24M], Her[22F] We've been broken up for 1 1/2 months. I was at about 5 days NC until she changed her facebook status to in relationship with her coworker that shes been seeing almost everyday. I found out through a friend... This blew me away because she said she wanted to be single and she has been posting very sad/depressing things on facebook about us breaking up as well. (My friend told me). I went to her house the next day after I cooled down a bit and wanted to confront her about my suspicions of her cheating and how she lied to me about wanting to take a break and stay single. I noticed the guy's car was there but I didn't care, at this point I suspected she was cheating on me while we were together and needed to vent. Well the guy didn't come outside but my ex did and she cut me off multiple times in mid-sentence saying she didn't cheat on me, right when we started talking. She wouldn't let me finish my sentence, I got upset and just left. Although this was probably a stupid move I have to admit it felt good afterwards. Even though I didn't get to say what I wanted I confronted her about lying to me and showed her that I wasn't afraid of confronting her or him about it. I keep trying to convince myself to move on and forget about her - but it's harder than it sounds, especially after being with her for about six years. My question to you all is this, why post depressing facebook statuses saying things like "I thought this was supposed to get easier over time" etc.. and then get into a relationship with someone else (i thought he was just going to be a rebound). The next day, this is after I had confronted her, she logs into messenger and her status reads "your memory burns like a flame" ; by the way I am her only friend on messenger... I have a husky that she helped raise with me who is now 2 years old. She used to walk him everyday and take him to the dog park all the time. I am still shocked by how easily she can just get up and walk away from me and this dog she helped raise... I feel pathetic for even paying attention to these little details, but keeping it inside hasn't helped so I figured this may... If anyone reads this thanks for any advice/help you guys have to offer.
jwhite Posted December 13, 2012 Posted December 13, 2012 I think it is pretty cool you had the balls to go over there and do that even with him there! I think that rebounds can last longer than just a little while. I admit that I was a rebound for my ex and we lasted almost 5 friggin years! I have seen this situation many times on here recently. The exes are looking to feel better about what they did. Do you want to give her that satisfaction? Arent you the one she hurt? Does she even care that she hurt you? I think that she is just looking to selfishly help herself feel better:( 1
big bear Posted December 13, 2012 Posted December 13, 2012 Dude, I think I remember your story a bit. Hang in there. You are doing pretty good. I did not take any sound advice I got from here and i am a year down the road, now trying to move on. The best thing to do yourself is focus on yourself. Regarding the venting, I too did it once. Felt good but the thing is you will realize the tears they show mean nothing. before you realize it will be better. 1
Author denxnis Posted December 15, 2012 Author Posted December 15, 2012 Lo and behold guess who pulls up next to me on my way home. Ex waived at me and smiled, I shook my head "no" and proceeded to take a call. Was this a good or bad thing? She left me for another guy immediately after we broke up. I literally want to call her and tell her to move out of my town.
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