ladyhawk553594 Posted December 12, 2012 Posted December 12, 2012 Here's some back story: My boyfriend of 9 months broke up with me about 2 months ago because he was having trouble acclimating as a freshmen in college and handling a long distance relationship. Right after he broke up with me, I told him that I thought it'd be best if we didn't talk for at least a month. Even though he agreed, I heard from him about every 4 days during that time. Admittingly, it gave me hope and so I didn't tell him to stop. But after this went on for a few weeks, I literally couldn't take the emotional going back and forth anymore and told him we needed to talk when I got home. After talking for 5 emotional hours a couple of weeks ago (he even canceled plans with his friends from high school to keep talking), we decided that we should give each other space until one or both of us feels like we could attempt being just friends. The entire talk was filled with him complimenting me, touching my leg or arms, and him crying if I just looked at him a certain way. He even kissed me as we were saying goodbye and as I pulled away he literally balled in my arms for five minutes. Fast forward to monday, after about 2 weeks of us not being in contact. Knowing that he gets extremely stressed out with his grades, especially because his full-ride scholarship depends on it, I texted him wishing him good luck on finals this week. He said thanks and that hearing from me had made his day. I've heard from a mutual friend that he's not having an easy time with us not talking, but I'm not sure how much I should read into this...He then texted me today telling me about the something on TV tonight that he thought I might be interested in watching...What is he doing?
na49 Posted December 13, 2012 Posted December 13, 2012 Wow.. makes me wish my BU would've ended like that instead of ending over a text message followed by a phone call where I was crying, begging and pleading for her to stay and she was crying while also telling me how much I sucked. As for what he's doing? Well he seems to be under the impression that you guys are still friends. but only friends. Don't respond. Start NC. Don't wish him luck on anything anymore or stay in his life. Unless you are over him, you shouldn't want anything to do with him. He shouldn't want anything to do with you, but clearly still does. Maybe feeling guilty about breaking up with you? Don't let him ease his guilt!
Gottabestrong Posted December 13, 2012 Posted December 13, 2012 He still cares about you, but has not changed his mind about the breakup. If you are not ready to be friends yet, I would not contact him anymore and if he contacts you a lot and frequently, I would ask him again for space until you had enough time to heal from the breakup. Don't let this confuse you, he probably still has feelings for you, but he has not changed his mind about the breakup.
Amelie1980 Posted December 13, 2012 Posted December 13, 2012 He misses you probably but that's all. doesn't mean he want you back.
flitzanu Posted December 13, 2012 Posted December 13, 2012 Here's some back story: My boyfriend of 9 months broke up with me about 2 months ago because he was having trouble acclimating as a freshmen in college and handling a long distance relationship. Right after he broke up with me, I told him that I thought it'd be best if we didn't talk for at least a month. Even though he agreed, I heard from him about every 4 days during that time. Admittingly, it gave me hope and so I didn't tell him to stop. But after this went on for a few weeks, I literally couldn't take the emotional going back and forth anymore and told him we needed to talk when I got home. After talking for 5 emotional hours a couple of weeks ago (he even canceled plans with his friends from high school to keep talking), we decided that we should give each other space until one or both of us feels like we could attempt being just friends. The entire talk was filled with him complimenting me, touching my leg or arms, and him crying if I just looked at him a certain way. He even kissed me as we were saying goodbye and as I pulled away he literally balled in my arms for five minutes. Fast forward to monday, after about 2 weeks of us not being in contact. Knowing that he gets extremely stressed out with his grades, especially because his full-ride scholarship depends on it, I texted him wishing him good luck on finals this week. He said thanks and that hearing from me had made his day. I've heard from a mutual friend that he's not having an easy time with us not talking, but I'm not sure how much I should read into this...He then texted me today telling me about the something on TV tonight that he thought I might be interested in watching...What is he doing? he's keeping you on the line. long distance relationship? that means if he keeps you on the line, if he ever comes to visit then he can hook up with you with little effort while he's away from college.
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