bammmmmm Posted December 12, 2012 Posted December 12, 2012 My little sister is 25 this year. She recently broke up a 2 years relation in august. Her ex had a good career, honest and is a dependable man. Both me and my mum really likes him a lot. We all had big expectation for the 2 of them. She broke up with him because she can't get along with his family. 3 weeks after the break up my buddy of 8 years show interest in my sister. He is a smart and gentleman and I didn't stop him for going after her. They spend the next 2 weeks talking on phone everyday getting to know each other on a more personal level and dated twice. My buddy told me he wants to take it slowly as my sis is still recovering from her recent break up. My sister likes him and even told me she vision a potential future with him. But on the forth week she decides to stop seeing him citing she is not ready for any relationship any time soon. She even refuse to talk to him. She claims that she need space and felt the pressure from the expectation I had for them. Early November (about 3 weeks after she stop talking my my buddy) she suddenly tells me she is in a relation. She only knew this man for 1 week. He said he loves her after their first date. It worries me. I ask her friend about this man and they told me he is a desperate. They advice her not to see him but she said he will change for her. Barely 1 week into the relation she is already sleeping over at his place. She also brought him home and introduce him to me. He seems immature for his age (26) and doesn't have a proper job. Her friend told me this guy is boasting to everyone that he had a girlfriend. She is insecure, naive and weak willed. Even thou he treats her like gold and she is basking under all the attention and affection he is showing to her, I'm worried that the relationship is unhealthy as they started is way too fast before know more about each other. I tried persuading her to slow things down but it doesn't work. In fact she seems more determine to prove me that she made the right decision. Any advice for me to help her?
TaraMaiden Posted December 12, 2012 Posted December 12, 2012 Nope. Short of becoming pregnant or him hitting her, she's 25 and an adult. Leave her alone, this is her business, not yours.
carhill Posted December 12, 2012 Posted December 12, 2012 Any advice for me to help her? Listen and love her like the sister she is. If she asks for advice, certainly do not deny her the benefits of your experience.
Author bammmmmm Posted December 13, 2012 Author Posted December 13, 2012 Also I'll like to hear what is your opinion regarding her current relationship
Tara247 Posted December 13, 2012 Posted December 13, 2012 Also I'll like to hear what is your opinion regarding her current relationship Why are you so controlling? You're not her parent. She's an adult. Can't you just stay out of her personal life?
TaraMaiden Posted December 13, 2012 Posted December 13, 2012 Also I'll like to hear what is your opinion regarding her current relationship It's none of your business. Why are you so interfering? Leave her alone! If she makes mistakes, that's on her!
movingon12 Posted December 13, 2012 Posted December 13, 2012 Any advice for me to help her? IF it goes wrong, be there to support her. Otherwise stay out of it. A guy I was dating moved in with me 2 weeks after we met. For a year I was getting emails from my sister warning me against him, she said he would just be using me, it would all end badly, she had a friend who moved fast into a relationship and the guy stole all her money and left her blah blah blah. I got so sick of listening to this stuff about a guy she didn't even know and all her doomsday prophecies. I felt I was having to justify myself to her all the time and it got to the point where, even now, we barely speak to each other anymore. The guy and I have been happily married for 2 years now.
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