sleepless in sd Posted December 12, 2012 Posted December 12, 2012 Me and ex decided mutually to end things recently, and we've both been sane enough to keep up NC. We work together (different departments, not a lot of intermingling between the two) and have waived when we saw each other, but no breaks together, no lunches, no personal e-mails, etc. I know on my part, it's been hard not reaching out, and though I am heartbroken, I know it's for the best. I'm hoping in time we can cultivate a friendship, but I'm not looking to get back together romantically and the prospect of having him back in my daily right now is not what I want. With all that being said, wtf do I do with the Christmas present I bought for him? Can't return it, it would mean nothing to anyone else, and honestly, I want him to have it. Thoughts? Am I crazy to want to still give it to him? He is not one to usually misinterpret actions/communications but I've been perusing this board for a while and figured I'd ask the wise ones of the break-up forum. Thanks!
valeriepm Posted December 13, 2012 Posted December 13, 2012 If the breakup ended mutually, I would just give him the gift and tell him what you wrote on here - you'd like him to have it, can't return it, have no use for it, etc. You don't have anything to lose, so might as well do it while you have the chance and desire to.
Gottabestrong Posted December 13, 2012 Posted December 13, 2012 If the breakup was mutual and you are both friendly with each other, and you want him to have the gift, I would give it to him. Explain that you bought it a while before the breakup and it does not mean that you are trying to rekindle things, only that you want him to have the gift you gave him while you were still together. Don't make a big deal about it though, and don't wait till Christmas Day to give it to him.
Author sleepless in sd Posted December 13, 2012 Author Posted December 13, 2012 Of course right after I post this we had an interaction that was less than amicable! I'm going to hang onto the gift and continue NC. See how I feel in a week or so. Ugh. Thanks for your replies.
flitzanu Posted December 13, 2012 Posted December 13, 2012 honestly, i'd say just give it now. waiting until xmas makes it more symbolic.
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