Women who claim to be "good" girls.

[phineas]

In my experience, people who have to put a title on who they are, are actually not that title. Every girl who said "I'm a good girl" had massive slut tendencies.

 

You shouldn't have to tell people who you are, it should show through your actions.

 

I don't have to say "Hi I'm Caste, I'm a cool guy", you're gonna know once you interact with me.

 

Be wary of anyone who has to come out and actually tell you what kind of person they are.

 

This.

Was out drinking with a female co-worker as friends once who complained about her ex bugging her for a booty call & went on & on about how she wouldn't disrespect herself that way.

 

So I just looked at her and said "your banging him aren't you?"

She said "yes" then banged her head on the bar in shame & frustration. LOL!

[aed]

i was going to get my post deleted by the mods as my post was written from being triggered ...i didnt think before i wrote it ...a knee jerk reaction i fell regret for psoting now..... but seeing how you addressed my first post ill respond instead of avoiding......peopel heve the capacity to change who they are what they do and what standards they choose to hold and keep.......people have the right not to be judged on a past and be taken for who they are today not yesterday i confirm nothing of what you say.......you are validating yoru own beliefs buddy by negativty towards em and abotu me ....what i wrote confirms ntohign of what you say ...i have been celibate for a very long time....i have paid my dues......i will continue to be celibate until i find someone i can commit a life time too...i prove my own beliefs and you can ttake them from me or make me believe differently to validate your sick view of women in general anybody who calls their mother a slut on the inside has issues....and that issue is nothing to do with me but soemthign you have to work out for yoruself by meeting the right type of woman.....

 

 

 

my celibacy is sefl imposed i coudl go find a player fo a man .....i could have sex within ten minutes of makign a phone call if i wanted too....i dont.....because i am not a slut .......on the inside or the harder one on the outside, my body, that has desire and craving pyhsical contact that dosnt validate what you say its shows self control and i will never call myself a slut because i want to be pleasured or give pleasure to another....sorry ...i though humans male and their opposite were mean tto have pleasure......just in the right context....you take every thing out of context and make it dirty...thats slutty..so did i just kamikaze myself hell yes i did...but see i own my mistakes and dotn think i am perfect how do you think you are.....are you puuuuuurrfect ....nope...do you own your mistakes...nope you blame the woman for allowing you hato have sex with her.....you dont rock....you roll...belly up....weakness is evident on your behalf...you should own it....good bye......deb

 

Me and my buddies had a bar conversation, you know how those can get. And we where discussing what would be harder to deal with:

 

A girl how has bin a hooker for 6 months or a girl how has slept with 100 dudes.

 

A friend of mine how came in later asked: what are you talkin about? We explained. He with out a thought: The slut of course is harder to deal with. We all agreed and none of us is dating or have dated non-sexual girls and non of the girls he has bin with was a virigin.

 

So I thought let's give this debat a female opion and I have more female collegaes then male so I asked the same question:

 

What do you think men will find harder to cope: dating an ex-escort girl of a girl how has bin a slut. Most girls anwsered; the slut. Only the more slut girls where offended by the question and the theorem.

 

Next I never ever met a girl how preferd that she slept with more sexual partners then there life long partner, also I have put this theorem for debat with my colleques and they all agreed. Strange is it, that the same girls how got offended by the hooker state ment, where also agreeing to it. But are getting offented when men say that they don't want a girl with more bed partners then they.

 

 

Also for OP: when A girl is telling you; "I would never be like that" 99% you have she is like that. I had girls saying: "normally I never do that:love:" my response is yeah me neather. But in the back of my mind I think: So we can push this a little further the next time we met.

[todreaminblue]

Im not judging you. everyone makes mistakes in life and do things under certain circumstances to survive. dont be so insecure. your impulsive nervous/stressed reply shows through. I dont care what you did in your past, but it does bother you. be content with who you are. I didnt read all of your reply. all those periods drives my eyes crazy. sorry.

 

for me I ONLY want slut girls. its too much of a hassle to convince "good" girls to suck your salami after its been in her ass or to drink the leche caliente.

 

My point is there is no such thing as a good girl. all girls have built in slut systems in themselves. I wouldnt have it any other way. guys just want the slut part to come out in bed. every girl has a price. a trigger that will bring it out. slut doesnt mean cheating or sleeping around.

 

I dont understand why you woman bring up the "I can sleep with any man if I wanted to just for sex" ? you do realize thats its degrading for you to say that and it does exactly the opposite of what youre trying to prove. those men who want to bork you dont want a relationship with you. all they want is to shoot and never see you (the woman) again. BUT all the woman who wanted to sleep me did. theres a big difference and it says what men think of you. dont use that line, it really works against you. it brings you down a level and its not a compliment for you to say such a thing.

 

 

 

it isnt degrading its reality..

i find it curious that you shed the cold harsh light of reality but yet choose to say its degrading....

 

its just reality..reality can suck..

 

 

i wont degrade myself and sleep with a guy for the sake of having sex been there done that not going back.......i am not saying it as a compliment to myself i am just saying i know what is out there i know the dangers of casual sex....

 

 

i know when guys ask me to have sex with them that they want sex....reality....i am not interested in doing or having that....that guys see me as a sex object how is that me paying a compliment to myself like you seem to feel the need to tell me that i am not paying myself any compliments that wasn't my purpose.....men degrade me a lot.....by looking at me that way......

 

 

 

the fact that i know that they would have sex with me if i asked them too....how is that degrading myself.....

 

 

the fact i know it or the fact that i said it with honesty.....

 

 

 

i think people degrade themselves when they dont admit they know things even if they arent nice things to know.....

 

 

the fact you think i degraded myself by you perceiving i am bragging...i am not bragging......i dont like to think guys see me as a hole to insert something in......that i dont count nothing about me counts unless it is my vagina...or my breasts...thats all that counts.....

 

 

 

believe me i know it isnt a compliment.......not good enough to marry....to be with to commit too, just to use.....sounds pretty ugly to me.....it is degrading it makes me sad that guys like that dont see what i really have to offer....just a slut with a hole......celibacy becomes attractive......

 

 

i have been informed once a boyfriend said to a friend of mine when they were asked yeah i love her sex is great not enough to marry her...how is that for honesty..that single statement has affected me in life like no other..the topic was all women are sluts on the inside.......you stated that you agree....i ask how do you know?

 

 

 

i also validate....i am not a slut on the inside...my heart is on that inside....and its a loving one man heart that never got to breathe..hopefully it will take its first breath one day and be all it wants to be...just dont have the guy to show it too....sorry about the ellipses...you have upset me.....trigger boy..when i am upset my posts become frenetic...deb

[Mrlonelyone]

My sex and love life are based on people doing exactly what they say they would never ever do.

 

Always believe body language and actions over words.

[Anela]

Perhaps you should let her know that your friend told you that. After all, you only have his word to go on. It might be true, it might not...but fairness suggests she should have the right of reply, if somebody is passing stories like that around about her.

 

This.

 

If she's looked down upon (if anyone assumes that she thinks she's better than they are), then they could start rumours to bring her down a peg (or more).

 

I tend to not believe gossip unless I witness/experience something myself. Hardly anyone bothers to tell me anything anyway, because when they say, "I'm not sure if I should tell you this," I'll usually say, "then maybe you shouldn't." I've sat here with family, and vented, but I've been disgusted by people just talking about each other behind their backs, and then being so nice to them to their faces. It makes me wonder what they say about me, when I'm not around.

 

And in reference once again to the original post: I was so "good" in high school, and for years afterwards, that if you'd squeezed me, I most likely would have squeaked ("squeaky clean"?). Here and there, I had filthy thoughts, but I didn't act on them - although if I had, I don't see where you would be right judging me, if you wanted to do the same thing so badly (or be on the receiving end of whatever act was supposedly performed).

Edited December 13, 2012 by Anela

[Anela]

no such thing as a good girl. EVERY girl has a built in slut in them. every girl has a price (not always money) and will do nasty things if the right circumstance are there. every single girl without a doubt. youre naive if you think otherwise.

 

Wow.

 

There are some, who would never do anything sexual in order to get money, food, etc, let alone get the attention of a guy. I don't mean to put anyone down, like someone here who's very sweet - I actually find it despicable that any man who knows a woman needs something like that, who would use that a reason to use her sexually (when they could give her a boost and just, you know.. help her out because she's a fellow human being in need??) isn't shamed in the way that a woman would be for feeling the need to go that far in order to get by.

 

Would every single guy out there take advantage of a woman in a situation like that? I hope not.

[Imported]

Originally Posted by rocketman122

no such thing as a good girl. EVERY girl has a built in slut in them. every girl has a price (not always money) and will do nasty things if the right circumstance are there. every single girl without a doubt. youre naive if you think otherwise.

 

 

Wow.

 

There are some, who would never do anything sexual in order to get money, food, etc, let alone get the attention of a guy. I don't mean to put anyone down, like someone here who's very sweet - I actually find it despicable that any man who knows a woman needs something like that, who would use that a reason to use her sexually (when they could give her a boost and just, you know.. help her out because she's a fellow human being in need??) isn't shamed in the way that a woman would be for feeling the need to go that far in order to get by.

 

Would every single guy out there take advantage of a woman in a situation like that? I hope not.

 

You completely read it wrong. There is nothing there about using a girl. How you came to that conclusion is your own doing.

[Radu]

Wow.

 

There are some, who would never do anything sexual in order to get money, food, etc, let alone get the attention of a guy. I don't mean to put anyone down, like someone here who's very sweet - I actually find it despicable that any man who knows a woman needs something like that, who would use that a reason to use her sexually (when they could give her a boost and just, you know.. help her out because she's a fellow human being in need??) isn't shamed in the way that a woman would be for feeling the need to go that far in order to get by.

 

Would every single guy out there take advantage of a woman in a situation like that? I hope not.

 

Feminism doesn't like chivalry, it considers it degrading.

 

If you had said 'I actually find it despicable that anyone would use someone when they need something like that', i would not have posted this.

 

'I've always relied upon the kindness of strangers.' means that the man is used.

[todreaminblue]

Wow.

 

There are some, who would never do anything sexual in order to get money, food, etc, let alone get the attention of a guy. I don't mean to put anyone down, like someone here who's very sweet - I actually find it despicable that any man who knows a woman needs something like that, who would use that a reason to use her sexually (when they could give her a boost and just, you know.. help her out because she's a fellow human being in need??) isn't shamed in the way that a woman would be for feeling the need to go that far in order to get by.

 

Would every single guy out there take advantage of a woman in a situation like that? I hope not.

 

 

Not every single guy does anela some find it despicable to use a woman for sex or personal gain......meaning confidence whatever......or boredom......what really sucks is that the men who are good and just and kind and would help a woman out money wise arent around when some girls need a hand or some girls are just too proud to say crap i need help ...its called beign a product of the environment you choose to eb in or stay in.........and genuine guys dont date these girls they are damaged they are actively warned to stay away..i have to hope out there...there are guys out there who have compassion enough to see the woman in front of that past....i hold no spite because of this fact at all they avoid....makes me sad yeah.....

 

 

 

what makes me frenetic is that men who choose to admit they have slept with women they all have sluts on the inside yada yada but fail to look at their own insides that makes them view women thi way....we are sisters mothers aunts grandmothers even....we are always goingn to be women with pasts....we should be able to maintain dignity and be respected ....while being honest about owning our mistakes......why cant some men see that???/and follow suit....

i try my best to make up for my mistakes i do what i can to make others feel good....i wonder how they make others feel good...i doubt they make a woman feel good even in bed......they dont know how to accept a woman in their bed first let alone their hearts ...sad huh.....i appreciate your comment it made me smile...hugs....deb

[todreaminblue]

Feminism doesn't like chivalry, it considers it degrading.

 

If you had said 'I actually find it despicable that anyone would use someone when they need something like that', i would not have posted this.

 

'I've always relied upon the kindness of strangers.' means that the man is used.

 

 

 

bull...i am an independent woman........i asked my parents for help i aksed to return home because i lost everything...i was denied...i was independant fiercely so......i had no other choice but to ask to return home............i was just eighteen with nothing no one and nobody but myself......i did what i had to do ...if some guy had offered em a light at th eend of the tunnel i woudl have run towards it...no offer was there for me to take...woudl i hav eused that guy ....freaking no...i would have been grateful and a friend for life...probably would have done anything, scrubbed his floors .it woudl have been hard for me to accept help......when my parents woudlnt even help me ....but i am pretty sure i would have.....deb

[Radu]

One flower doesn't make it spring.

 

I stand by my earlier post ... source is my own life.

[serial muse]

 

This wins politically correct quote of the day.

 

That's rich.

 

I'm sure those Al-Qaeda guys are "just human", right?

 

Al Qaeda is the new Nazi. Nothing says "unnecessary escalation" like comparing a woman giving a guy she doesn't know very well a BJ to a terrorist group.

Edited December 13, 2012 by serial muse

[todreaminblue]

One flower doesn't make it spring.

 

I stand by my earlier post ... source is my own life.

 

you choose to see only one flower in spring...i have been in a field of flowers and seen every one of them...god knows every hair on their head i just had th epleasure of seeign them....life happens when you choose to participate....there is no source....one is such a lonely number...i refuse to think of life with one as a number.... if you dont believe in looking outside your own existence thats what you have..... its there that field, I can guarantee it...i know it.... in fact many fields.....i just seen one...and it was in a desert ...a desert of human compassion.......deb

[pteromom]

Al Qaeda is the new Nazi. Nothing says "unnecessary escalation" like comparing a woman giving a guy she doesn't know very well a BJ to a terrorist group.

 

This made me LOL...

[mortensorchid]

I've met gals like that. They say they are good, but what they really mean is that they are good at drama and being promiscuous. THe ones who are truly good - good character, intelligence, charisma, etc. - are the ones who do not assert it but come off subtle and in the background.

[BklynGuy]

I have heard some stories about "good girls", especially the ones who go to church (not my old church, fortunately ).

 

But yeah, the good quiet ones are usually the ones you wanna watch out for . Never judge off the bat - you'd be surprised.

 

I fell for this trick & it was total BS. I still have nightmares after 6 years....lol

[truth_seeker]

 

You're a good person if you're a good person...The amount of sexual activity you have doesn't have much to do with it imo.

 

I think people getting lots of sex are more mellow and happier. People who don't get much are more angry and frustrated.