Bluefor Posted December 12, 2012 Posted December 12, 2012 I’ve known my boyfriend *online* for two years. We met in September for the first time and we absolutely adored each other. I flew to his country for a weekend, and obviously had to leave him. After I got back, he was finding it really hard for us to be apart and the distance was really getting to him. He got much colder and now I’m LUCKY if he even say’s hey to me on Skype. On thursday he posted a break-up song, apart from that he hasn’t told me anything. He’s just cold and acts like I’m not there. So… I haven’t been on Skype or contacted him for six days, now, because it’s easier to stay away. He hasn’t contacted me at all. The lyrics of the song were ‘if you love me let me go’, so he’s obviously going to think that I’ve let him go because I love him, which its true I do, but that would be soo hard and like giving up. Tomorrow? I was thinking of going on Skype. Seeing if there is anything left from him, he still hasn’t told me he’s broken up with me. I was going to tell him I know were in love, see how it goes and if things are really bad, ask him if he wants to be friends. THE MAIN THING though is I’m going to ask him if he wants me to visit him, so that we can talk things through. I mean I don’t know if the thought of me flying to his country and us being together again is going to make things better or worse for him? OR Should I wait, grow a little stronger, wait until he’s finished his exams and contact him in a few weeks or so? I just don’t want him thinking that we’ve broken up if I don’t contact him for weeks, before he’s actually told me straight, because I will do ANYTHING to keep hold of him and I WILL put up the biggest fight. If I’m ignoring and avoiding him is he not going to think that’s it, we’ve finished?
TaraMaiden Posted December 12, 2012 Posted December 12, 2012 It's over. You need do nothing at all. This is not a happening thing, so digging over the ashes for any embers is going to be a pointless exercise. Don't skype, write, text, email, message, phone, or anything else. He thinks you've got the message. I think all you need to do is prove him right.
justwhoiam Posted December 13, 2012 Posted December 13, 2012 He talked to you through a song. You can do the same. Pick the right song and put it on FB. With no comment.
umirano Posted December 13, 2012 Posted December 13, 2012 It seems pretty immature to me to talk to each other by posting songs on Facebook. Are you sure you even want to be with a person like this? Looks more like a coward to me than a man who can take care of ****. If you aren't sure though I'd just ask him straight away. The perfect coward test. Also could it be that he's acting distant because you acted distant? A kind of a downward spiral thing? Best
Carenth Posted December 13, 2012 Posted December 13, 2012 Extremely immature. But since we are playing this game may I suggest this song I think it has a subtle hidden message he may appreciate.
justwhoiam Posted December 16, 2012 Posted December 16, 2012 Extremely immature. But since we are playing this game may I suggest this song I think it has a subtle hidden message he may appreciate. That link is blocked for non Americans... Cee Lo Green I'm sure that song fits a lot of situations! But I'm not sure it matches our OP's feelings. Also, they clearly are a man's words. Not a girl's...
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