j8e20 Posted December 12, 2012 Posted December 12, 2012 I dated a girl for 3 months. She recently broke up with me last week. The last two weeks, she has been acting distant. I received an email telling me that I was pushing her by telling her I miss her. She also didn't like that I told her "I love her" and couldn't believe that that is true after 3 months. She told me she didn't want to be with me anymore. Up to the last two weeks, everything was wonderful... Perfect. It sounds to me like she is seeing someone else, but I can't deny or prove that. I still like this woman, but she wants nothing to do with me. What do I do? Do I contact her? Do I leave her alone?
geegirl Posted December 12, 2012 Posted December 12, 2012 I dated a girl for 3 months. She recently broke up with me last week. The last two weeks, she has been acting distant. I received an email telling me that I was pushing her by telling her I miss her. She also didn't like that I told her "I love her" and couldn't believe that that is true after 3 months. She told me she didn't want to be with me anymore. Up to the last two weeks, everything was wonderful... Perfect. It sounds to me like she is seeing someone else, but I can't deny or prove that. I still like this woman, but she wants nothing to do with me. What do I do? Do I contact her? Do I leave her alone? Leave her alone.
Gaby Posted December 12, 2012 Posted December 12, 2012 Yes indeed leave her alone for now, dont talk to her, text or whatever it is. FB orsomthing. Go for NC and focus on yourself, you deserve somebody that will love you, the way you do it for her.
Author j8e20 Posted December 12, 2012 Author Posted December 12, 2012 Little more insight. I am 42 and she is 41 with a 4 year old daughter. I've helped her around her house with projects that she couldn't do. I've helped her with flat tires. I did it because I cared. I helped and cooked for her when she was sick. She sent me an email today stating " I really do wish you all the best". Really.
Author j8e20 Posted December 12, 2012 Author Posted December 12, 2012 I can't go on FB, gave my old password to a friend and he changed it. I can't go on FB right now and don't won't to. She is a degreed Psychologist and somewhere in the back of my mind, it seems like she wants to see how I respond to the wish you well comment. I haven't and I'm not going to respond to her. The hard part is my best friend is dating her younger sister, which is been going on almost a year.
KJBA2816 Posted December 12, 2012 Posted December 12, 2012 I did everything for my ex.. everything I could to make him happy but he treated me like utter rubbish and is now off feeding some other poor girl the crap he fed me. He left me one day out the blue for her and I felt the way you do, I am still sad but I feel like day by day I am getting there. No contact is so so sooooo the best thing I promise x
geegirl Posted December 12, 2012 Posted December 12, 2012 Little more insight. I am 42 and she is 41 with a 4 year old daughter. I've helped her around her house with projects that she couldn't do. I've helped her with flat tires. I did it because I cared. I helped and cooked for her when she was sick. She sent me an email today stating " I really do wish you all the best". Really. She's not obligated to stay in a relationship because you did all these things. I've gone above and beyond in my relationships and if they choose to leave, they leave. A relationship is never a guarantee you'll be happily ever after. She wished you all the best. There is no need to respond. Her motive has no bearing. What is relevant is that she has broken up with you and that she is moving on. You have to do the same.
Author j8e20 Posted December 12, 2012 Author Posted December 12, 2012 I didn't do those things as ammo. I did those because I cared and I have not brought any of those up to her. I just hope that someone takes care of her and her daughter the way that I know I would have. The strange thing is that she still has the key to my house, which that was never brought up and some other items that belong to me. I'm not reading into it and I do need to move on. The bad thing, like I mentioned.. I will see her again because her sister is dating my best friend. They look like they are headed towards marriage.
Gottabestrong Posted December 12, 2012 Posted December 12, 2012 Leave her alone, it does not sound like she wants you in her life anymore.
TaraMaiden Posted December 12, 2012 Posted December 12, 2012 Everything you have added after your first post - including the last couple of sentences of your first post - is completely irrelevant and redundant. You're broken up. Leave her completely alone. Read the "all-new Caliguy no contact guide!" link in my signature. And stick to it like a barnacle to a whale.
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