Ami1uwant Posted December 12, 2012 Posted December 12, 2012 The purpose of this is to talk about terminology for newbies in OLD and to advise them on what they should/shouldnt put in their profile. This is not for stories of dating someone online. 1. Be real---don't lie on your profile or be someone you are not. 2. Be realistic--understand where you would categorize yourself as far as looks and try to stay in your league. 3. Once you start communicating with someone you want to meet face to face ASAP. You arent looking for a pen pal. 4. Reason to meet ASAP is never assume you are the only one they are dating or communicating with. Likely they are communicating with 3-4 others and even dating them. 5. It is very easy to be out of sight/out of mind. With communicating with people online its easy to pas over someone....otherwise blowing them off. 6. Poofing---the concept that someone just disappears from communication habits. Why does this happn--(a) out of town, (b) dating someone else and they want to see how it goes, © they have sorted who they are interested in and you are option B or C so they focus on A, (d) they arent interested in you anymore--you may be a fine person but for whatever reason they arent, (e) you were a one night stand to them and they either look at you as a conquest or they were embarassed they slept with you so soon and fee ashamed because you seem to easy. 7. Exclusivity---this is the concept of you and the other person are daing wach other only and see how it goes. With that comes the idea you are only sleeping with each other. The higher level sequence is Dating-Exclusive-Long term relationship-Engaged-marriage-divorce. 8. Be the person you really are. Be honest with yourself in demonstrating who you arre. 9. Some users are serious but there is a growing number of people who use OLD as just another avenue to date where they are looking for fantasyland dates. 10. Satisfyer vs Maximizer dating theory. This is similar to consumer shopping behavior. There are some OLD users who want the best bang for the buck who want to look for Mr/Ms 110% and pass over Mr/Ms 85%. Maximizers are the type who want to play the field and date around before they settle on a choice...but that choice may not be available when they decide. Satisfier finds someone who meets their minimum criteria and then they focus on them and see how it works out before dating again.
Author Ami1uwant Posted December 12, 2012 Author Posted December 12, 2012 I ask this gets pinned as a separate topic.
KathyM Posted December 12, 2012 Posted December 12, 2012 That's good advice--be real, genuine, have realistic expectations, and suggest a meet up early on.
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