Mystic Dreamer Posted December 12, 2012 Posted December 12, 2012 The guy that I was dating and known for 2 years asked if he can stay with me until he finds another apartment. We are both in our late 20's. My younger brother, age 21, also stays with me temporarily until his apartment gets repaired due to hurricane damage. They both seem to get along ok and talk sometimes. Two weeks ago was the first time they met. One morning my guy claims his money was missing from under the bed. I asked him why was his money under the bed and he said that he put it there yesterday night so he can put it in his bank account the following morning. I told him I didn't know about any money and then after he immediately blamed my brother. My brother swears he never took the money and my guy didn't believe him cause he said my brother was the only one who knows where he put the money at. He started to get extremely angry, yelling, going through my brother's things then started threatening him, death threats and all. My brother started yelling and threatening him as well. When he did that I started packing my guy's clothes and told him he had to leave. I didn't like the fact that he was saying all these things to my brother. He then started to attack my brother. I broke up the fight and my guy left out the house and went to work. My brother left about an half hour later. I told him I didn't want him here when my guy comes back later to pick up his clothes cause I don't want them to start fighting again. Through out the day my guy would text me saying how he didn't like how everything happened and how he would never disrespect my house. I told him that he didn't handle that situation properly and shouldn't have never flew off the handle like that. I especially didn't like the threats. He then said I left him in a worse position then when he came here because he said that was the rest of the money he had to last for the next 2 weeks. I told him that it was his responsibilty because he should've never put his money there in the first place. I told him he disrespected my house by blowing up like he did. After a while I thought it was a posiibility that my brother did take it so I offered to give him half just to keep the peace. I didn't want any more fights and lingering anger. And he just says "ok, I don't want to talk about it anymore, spilled milk, just help me out and we move on from there." Later that night I decide to look throughly in my room and I acutally found the money in a money clip deep inside my mattress cover. I called him and told him I found it and in an half hour later he came by took the money, his clothes, said "thanks I appreciate it" and left because his ride was waiting. I texted him and asked was that all he was looking for and he said yes. I told him you owe us an apology and he said no because when he looked it wasn't there and says when I looked it magically appeared. I guess he still believes that one of us took it. Then I said "you know what I'm not surprised from a person like you" and no response. A week after the incident he texted me asking me about something that he ordered online. The delivery actually came the night before. I told him give me an address and I'll mail it to you. He gave me an address and I said ok. I mailed it out that night. And that was the last I heard from him. It's now been two weeks since the incident. I'm still sad and upset about the whole thing and how everything went down. I don't know about getting back together again but all I really care about is him apologizing to my brother. My uncle says he doubts that would happen because he seems like he has too much pride and he still doesn't believe my brother didn't take it. My cousin says the situation is still hot and just give it some time and he'll come around again because two years is a long time. I don't know what to think. I'm hurt because how he reacted and seems like he's blaming me for putting him in this position when just a few weeks ago he thanked me for helping him, being there for him and seeing the good in him claiming that all I've done for him will never be forgotten. I'm just confused and sad. I at least just want the peace back between us. Will he ever come around again and admit his wrongs? Or will he never talk to me again?
WhatYouWantToHear Posted December 12, 2012 Posted December 12, 2012 Will he ever come around again and admit his wrongs? Probably not, but who cares? Or will he never talk to me again? Probably not and that's a good thing. Good riddance.
Quest4_TheLost Posted December 12, 2012 Posted December 12, 2012 No one can tell you if he will or not. 2 yrs is a long time to throw away because somthing stupid like this. This guy sounds pretty immature though and dosen't even want to admit the fact he was wrong. He definetly owes you both an apology. You will just have to play the wait and see game. You have already tried to talk to him about it. I would try again after everything cools down. Again this is a petty reason to throw away a 2 yr relationship, so I think it would be worth it to try again. If that dosen't work out, you let it go.
Author Mystic Dreamer Posted December 13, 2012 Author Posted December 13, 2012 You will just have to play the wait and see game. Yeah that's the only thing I can do.
Emilia Posted December 13, 2012 Posted December 13, 2012 And that was the last I heard from him. It's now been two weeks since the incident. I'm still sad and upset about the whole thing and how everything went down. I don't know about getting back together again but all I really care about is him apologizing to my brother. My uncle says he doubts that would happen because he seems like he has too much pride and he still doesn't believe my brother didn't take it. My cousin says the situation is still hot and just give it some time and he'll come around again because two years is a long time. I don't know what to think. I'm hurt because how he reacted and seems like he's blaming me for putting him in this position when just a few weeks ago he thanked me for helping him, being there for him and seeing the good in him claiming that all I've done for him will never be forgotten. I'm just confused and sad. I at least just want the peace back between us. Will he ever come around again and admit his wrongs? Or will he never talk to me again? You shouldn't wonder about any of these things, ESPECIALLY not about getting back together or having peace between you. He is a psycho. He is nuts.
Emilia Posted December 13, 2012 Posted December 13, 2012 (edited) No one can tell you if he will or not. 2 yrs is a long time to throw away because somthing stupid like this. This guy sounds pretty immature though and dosen't even want to admit the fact he was wrong. He definetly owes you both an apology. You will just have to play the wait and see game. You have already tried to talk to him about it. I would try again after everything cools down. Again this is a petty reason to throw away a 2 yr relationship, so I think it would be worth it to try again. If that dosen't work out, you let it go. Seriously? A guy gets violent then disappears for 2 weeks without a word and you think he is worth having a relationship with? Whom do you usually date? Hitler? Edited December 13, 2012 by Emilia 1
Author Mystic Dreamer Posted December 14, 2012 Author Posted December 14, 2012 You shouldn't wonder about any of these things, ESPECIALLY not about getting back together or having peace between you. He is a psycho. He is nuts. You are right. I just wanted to get different opinions because I was also told (not by people on this forum) that I didn't handle the situation right. As far as I'm concerned the moment he threatened my bro (death threats mind you) there was no negotiation at that point. He had to leave immediately cause that's not something I would take lightly. I don't care about getting back together and I would never want to deal with someone who acts like that ever again. Yes He is a psycho. He is nuts and this was the first time I seen him act like this. I really only cared about an apology because he disrespected my house and family but I see some people are too prideful to admit their wrongs. As time goes by I'm starting to think less of it and just ready to put that situation behind me. Thanks
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