I hate twitter!!!!!!!!

[kristi628]

Okay today is going to be one of those days. I didn't sleep well. I keep waking up in the middle of the night with heart racing and sweating. I can still see his twitter. I KNOW!! Bad idea. It's only been 20 days since the break up and it took him 6 days after that to get a new girlfriend.

 

My ex was always a private person. Wouldn't post facebook statuses unless it was bragging purposes, definitely wouldn't post anything about us. While we were together he went from facebook to Twitter. He is obsessed with it. Especially in his area of work, it's the best source of information and creating new contacts.

 

Since he has been with this new girl it's all kinds of wonderful posts. They are actually really sweet and seem sincere. BUT HOW IS THIS POSSIBLE? How can he have such strong feelings already about someone else? Could he possibly mean these things?

 

All i want to do is reach out to her and tell her the real him. I know this would make me seem like the crazy ex and I won't do it. But I just WISH she knew the truth. I feel like replying to these posts how he's a major jerk and a liar. The man lies about the post stupid things. He'll post a picture of his mom's car and say he got a new one. Or of their huge house and call it his own. WHY LIE? Is it because twitter is full of strangers who dont and wont know the truth? All day everyday is both of them going back and forth about the other, about how great they are. last night he thanked her for being everything he wants and needs. How is she so different than me?

 

Sorry for the long vent. Like i said, today is one of those weak days. I can't stop thinking about him and he has had no problem forgetting about me.

[Toddbt12y1]

I hate twitter too. LOL. But I wouldn't contact Her... it wouldn't do any good. Besides people aren't often as happy as their posts reflect. Stop looking him or her up sweetie.

[kristi628]

I would never contact her. I'm not that spiteful and to be honest, not that brave. He would have a cow. I just don't see how he's gone from Mr. Private to Mr. Public in such a short period of time. Can someone change that quickly? Or is he trying to convince himself that she's everything he's ever wanted? He went from treating someone like crap one week to putting her up on a pedestal the next week.

 

I know this isn't healthy and isnt the best way to move on. But i feel like I was left with so many questions. Sometimes i feel like his twitter account is giving me answers. I know how he's like in a relationship. And this isnt him. He had his good days yes. But he never went out of his way for me. Maybe at the beginning he did. But to be honest I'm having a hard remembering. It just seems like he turned into everything i wanted in one week....but for someone else instead.

 

Besides, what man tweets about his gf and relationship other than a 16 year old boy? lol

[Toddbt12y1]

I know you want answers but we never do get answers. It sucks. He might not have changed at all. Could be a game he's playing with you. He might be aware your looking and doing this to hurt you or make you jealous. Trust me...I want answers too...but we just don't get them. Nor will it help us any at all.

[Mystic Dreamer]

 

-It's only been 20 days since the break up and it took him 6 days after that to get a new girlfriend.

 

- Since he has been with this new girl it's all kinds of wonderful posts. They are actually really sweet and seem sincere. BUT HOW IS THIS POSSIBLE? How can he have such strong feelings already about someone else? Could he possibly mean these things?

 

Men (well women too) will always have someone lined up just in case their current relationship doesn't workout. You know the so called female friends that he has....you know the ones that you don't care for because your bf always talking/ hanging out with too much? (Or you may not even know about them at all) Yeah those are girls that are usually next in line that he chooses when his relationship ends.

[kristi628]

He knows I can see it. He text me 3 weeks ago to tell me that he cheated. I told him I never wanted to see him again. He expected that. Was very apologetic and said he felt very guilty and I deserved to know the truth. He also said he wasnt going to see her again but if I was serious then we should block each other on all social medias. We did. I was able to still see it (you dont need an account on twitter to see things) and found out that he had lied. He was posting all these things about her and how she was the one and how everything before this was practice. Anyway, I called him out on it right there and then. And he asked how that was possible if he blocked me. Fast forward just last week and he text me to ask if i was moving back home. (we shared an apt together up until the break up when he moved out, but half of his stuff is there) We argued because he wants to move in and I said no bc it's under my name. Anyway, during the conversation he put something on twitter "I swear being with the right person makes you realize the time you wasted on the wrong ones. What was I thinking?" I told him I could see that and how that was extremely hurtful. Esp when I'm trying to be the adult here and have no contact. He basically got upset that I could see it and told me to stop. So yes, he knows I can see it. I just dont see why he would do this on purpose. Especially when he's the one that cheated and was probably going to leave me anyway.

[kristi628]

Men (well women too) will always have someone lined up just in case their current relationship doesn't workout. You know the so called female friends that he has....you know the ones that you don't care for because your bf always talking/ hanging out with too much? (Or you may not even know about them at all) Yeah those are girls that are usually next in line that he chooses when his relationship ends.

 

Yes, I believe this. They were always very chatty on twitter. Especially that month before it ended for good. I was always very uncomfortable with the whole thing. And i know they were texting as well. But just a week before he said he cheated on me with her, she had put up a pic of her and her ex saying she had the best weekend ever. At that moment, I calmed down because she was obviously back w her ex and I had nothing to worry about. WRONG!

[Toddbt12y1]

He's trying to hurt you. That is why he says that. You told him no on the apartment so he does that to hurt you. Yeah I know you can see twitter without even being a friend or account.

 

That's like my ex. I saw gemma's twitter and her wonderful "if you don't respect me ill toss you away I'm a sweetheart." Her "you're a dim bebe." It sucked. Especially how she cheated on me and did a lot more terrible things then to talk about respect?

 

She's fake. That's what people like her and your ex are. Fake. They pretend to be sweethearts or something they aren't

 

I bet his life isn't as grand as you think. I would totally avoid twitter all together. You are better than this trash. Just know it.

[kristi628]

He's trying to hurt you. That is why he says that. You told him no on the apartment so he does that to hurt you. Yeah I know you can see twitter without even being a friend or account.

 

That's like my ex. I saw gemma's twitter and her wonderful "if you don't respect me ill toss you away I'm a sweetheart." Her "you're a dim bebe." It sucked. Especially how she cheated on me and did a lot more terrible things then to talk about respect?

 

She's fake. That's what people like her and your ex are. Fake. They pretend to be sweethearts or something they aren't

 

I bet his life isn't as grand as you think. I would totally avoid twitter all together. You are better than this trash. Just know it.

 

He is fake. Last night was hilarious. One of his twitter "friends" tweeted about her bf and how he doesnt treat her right. And he had the nerve to give her advice as to how REAL men are. he is the most selfish man I have ever met. Always thought of himself first and me, I was lucky to come in second. Yet he is tweeting how real men arent selfish and blah blah blah...

 

If this relationship is real.... then wouldnt you want to keep things private between you two? Shouldnt you be worried that she knows how much you mean to her instead of the entire twitter world? Why put it out there for the whole world to see?

 

He hasnt tried to contact me since and I dont think he will. He called me immature and petty. I was broken up with through text. How is that not immature? I never got closure or anything. He hasnt picked up his stuff from the apt and has kept my key. (Even though I changed the locks, which i warned him about)

[Toddbt12y1]

If he gets his stuff good. End of it all there. Most people like him that are fake are manipulators. He is putting on a show because that is what he loves: making himself look good to the world.

 

Unfortunately most guys these days have no clue what a real man is. He talks like this to get likes. He's pathetic. A real man is one of the heart, who though not perfect, loves his lover honorably. He's laughable! You are like infinitely better than this scum.

 

He isn't fit to be called man. Not even fit to be called boy. It disgraces real man and boys to have him called the same. He's a cheater. He's worthless.

[na49]

Men (well women too) will always have someone lined up just in case their current relationship doesn't workout. You know the so called female friends that he has....you know the ones that you don't care for because your bf always talking/ hanging out with too much? (Or you may not even know about them at all) Yeah those are girls that are usually next in line that he chooses when his relationship ends.

 

It hurts me how true that is. My ex had so many guy friends but I never thought that they would be next in line. It turned out that one "friend" I didn't hear about until the day before she dumped me was the lucky one. I can't believe I was so stupid, I trusted her. I thought they are all just her friends and didn't want to be controlling so I let her have as many friends as she wanted. Live and learn I guess..

 

As for your situation kristi, DO NOT CHECK HIS OR HER TWITTER! It is literally suicide. I haven't checked on my exes twitter or facebook in over a month. I made sure to block her on facebook as soon as she unblocked me. I also blocked a few of the guys I thought she was going to end up with to save myself the pain later. I suggest you do the same. Seeing him loving life without you doesn't help you feel better at all. Wouldn't you rather not know what he's up to? This way you can't hurt yourself. I know this is easier said than done, I'd love to check up on my ex just to see what she's been up to this past month. but I know that if I do, I'll be set back so far I'll feel even worse because I know that it'll be my fault for my setback. We all have bad days, but your strong enough to get through this.

[kristi628]

I know I'm basically sabotaging myself. To be honest I dont check it nearly as much as I used to. My phone would literally die 3 times in a day from checking it so much the first week. I want to believe that a person like that CANNOT change. He has a very addictive personality, everything from pills to liquor. And now he is displaying all the traits I wanted him to possess. I would beg him to mention me on twitter, just bc I wanted these so called "friends" to know that he was taken. Or to feel like he appreciated me. He would just claim that his twitter was for work only. LIES!

 

He's done a complete 180 and he seems so happy. And this happened in less than 6 day?!? It hurts so much to see these things and realize that he's done with you. He's over you and he has someone that is making him be the man I wanted him to be. And I can't help but ask WHY?

 

I know I HAVE to stop doing this to myself if I ever want to move on. The wound is still very much fresh and I dont know when I'll be able to do this. I'm getting stronger every day. But it's hard to go home to the home you once shared with someone who you thought you were going to spend forever with. And be reminded daily of what we had. Meanwhile, he's living on wihtout a care in the world.

 

He has a new job (which I helped him get) and a new GF. Everything is going his way. And i'm still here where he left me. In pieces. I want to wish him the best because I am a nice person. But to be honest, I wish he would lose everything right now.

[na49]

Well you should remember that everyone only posts happy things on their facebook and twitter. Pictures and statuses of how "happy" they are. If they are posting they are miserable they really just want attention. So don't read into it TOO much. (easier said than done. I know)

 

If the wound is still fresh, maybe you'll need to check up on him a few more times to realize that he's living life without you. He had a life before you, and will live life without you. We just need to do our best to live our lives without them as difficult as it is and time will help us do that.

[kristi628]

UGH This one just hurt. So that tweet he put up last night "Thanks to __________ for being everything I want and everything I need."

 

His very good friend, who I think is a great person just replied to it. Saying "sounds like you caught a great one. We should all go out." This friend is married and has a wonderful relationship. One of his actual "good friends." I dont remember ever going out with them....maybe went to their house once or twice.

 

That one just hit me like a ton of bricks. Did he not think I was a good one? I'm so confused by all this. Why is it so different with her???

[Toddbt12y1]

Well there is nothing wrong with you. But avoid twitter. Its hard but so it. His posts mean nothing. He could even be lying! Either case, if he did move on with this girl, it won't last. Cheaters tend to keep cheating(serial). He is in the honeymoon phase, but life will take over and destroy them. He's a coward. I promise its not all rainbows like it seems.

 

 

You are superior to him he didn't upgrade. But you will when you move on. Avoid guys like him.

[Love Bites]

I can totally relate to this. Except it was the opposite with me. When my ex was with me, she was happier, full of life, had a job, made good grades in school, had goals etc. Later she left me for someone whom she knew for 3 days and fail in love with her and would brag and post twitter pictures of each other and blah blah. I was hurt that she was so happy without me so quickly. So I avoided her twitter and moved on. I found out later that things went downhill for her, she quit her job, quit school, lost weight, lost everything she had. She was no longer the person I fell in love with. Oh well. Her fault.

[na49]

I can totally relate to this. Except it was the opposite with me. When my ex was with me, she was happier, full of life, had a job, made good grades in school, had goals etc. Later she left me for someone whom she knew for 3 days and fail in love with her and would brag and post twitter pictures of each other and blah blah. I was hurt that she was so happy without me so quickly. So I avoided her twitter and moved on. I found out later that things went downhill for her, she quit her job, quit school, lost weight, lost everything she had. She was no longer the person I fell in love with. Oh well. Her fault.

 

Lol I'm having something similar happen right now. My ex cheated on me with her new "knight in shining armor" (please!) He's a 24 year old alcoholic who she is trying to change. She's apparently loving life with whoever she's with now. Good luck with that. He'll cheat on her like she cheated on me and she'll be just as heart broken as I was.

 

At least that's what I hope happens. If it does, it won't be my problem. When she needs a friend the most, she'll realize I was one of the only people who really gave a crap about her and I won't be there.

[flitzanu]

Okay today is going to be one of those days. I didn't sleep well. I keep waking up in the middle of the night with heart racing and sweating. I can still see his twitter. I KNOW!! Bad idea. It's only been 20 days since the break up and it took him 6 days after that to get a new girlfriend.

 

My ex was always a private person. Wouldn't post facebook statuses unless it was bragging purposes, definitely wouldn't post anything about us. While we were together he went from facebook to Twitter. He is obsessed with it. Especially in his area of work, it's the best source of information and creating new contacts.

 

Since he has been with this new girl it's all kinds of wonderful posts. They are actually really sweet and seem sincere. BUT HOW IS THIS POSSIBLE? How can he have such strong feelings already about someone else? Could he possibly mean these things?

 

All i want to do is reach out to her and tell her the real him. I know this would make me seem like the crazy ex and I won't do it. But I just WISH she knew the truth. I feel like replying to these posts how he's a major jerk and a liar. The man lies about the post stupid things. He'll post a picture of his mom's car and say he got a new one. Or of their huge house and call it his own. WHY LIE? Is it because twitter is full of strangers who dont and wont know the truth? All day everyday is both of them going back and forth about the other, about how great they are. last night he thanked her for being everything he wants and needs. How is she so different than me?

 

Sorry for the long vent. Like i said, today is one of those weak days. I can't stop thinking about him and he has had no problem forgetting about me.

 

why are you stalking his twitter and facebook?

[kristi628]

If he gets his stuff good. End of it all there. Most people like him that are fake are manipulators. He is putting on a show because that is what he loves: making himself look good to the world.

 

Unfortunately most guys these days have no clue what a real man is. He talks like this to get likes. He's pathetic. A real man is one of the heart, who though not perfect, loves his lover honorably. He's laughable! You are like infinitely better than this scum.

 

He isn't fit to be called man. Not even fit to be called boy. It disgraces real man and boys to have him called the same. He's a cheater. He's worthless.

 

This made me feel so much better. Thank you, sincerely. You are right. He is very good at manipulating and he's even told me many times. He said he could change to adapt to whatever situation or person. Guess I should've listened to him.

 

He was so cold and numb when he ended things. Like he felt no remorse. So to see him appear to be all happy and in love is really confusing. His close friends seem like are buying into it though. Which makes me wonder if he really is happy. But like he said, he's really good at this. I jut want reality to catch up him. I'm havin trouble believing that karma exists.

[kristi628]

why are you stalking his twitter and facebook?

 

To be honest I'm not sure. I want answers and I thought this would hell. But honestly bc I can't stop wondering what he's doing or what he's feeling.

 

I'm hopin that I will see one day that he is as miserable as I am. But if he was I guess he would never let me know.

[Pinkbutterflybarbie]

I hate all social networking sites! However I am thankful for them in a way because its been the only way I've been able to find stuff out. My exs new girl was on Facebook so I blocked her and started using twitter more. She then appeared on twitter and started posting **** to piss me off. So I responded by messaging her and telling her a few home truths about how often he'd cheated on her with me (him also telling me he wasn't with her), how he was buying me birthday presents and how he still says he loves me and she gets on his nerves. Yeh I probably came across as the nutter ex but she's a **** stirring tart. In fact she never even told him what I wrote and never mentioned it to him because she's strange. But anyway, I deactivated Facebook, deactivated twitter and vowed never to go on any of her profiles again. And you know what, it's the best thing I ever did

[geegirl]

To be honest I'm not sure. I want answers and I thought this would hell. But honestly bc I can't stop wondering what he's doing or what he's feeling.

 

I'm hopin that I will see one day that he is as miserable as I am. But if he was I guess he would never let me know.

 

So much energy wasted on a cheater.

 

You will find no answers. Even if you cross examined him for answers, you may not even get the truth.

 

He won't be miserable. He has moved on and these types are wired in such a way whereby they can get up and go, without batting an eyelid.

 

You can keep stalking or you can start grieving and healing.

[kristi628]

I want to move on too. And I'm trying to muster up the courage not to look at twitter. He lied to me so much i feel like it was the only way to get answers. Hopefully one day I will wake up and not care what he's doing or if I ever cross his mind.

 

It literally baffles me how people like this can move on so quickly. Can destroy a person the next and then find another that they act all perfect for. And i say people bc i know women are guilty of this too.

 

Even his mom and grandma said that they know i'm the type of person that could never do this to anyone. And that they know him better than anyone, but yet they dont even have all the answers. That says something.

 

No remorse, no guilt. Nothing. I was even paying for his bills that were under his name. Last night tv, cable, everything was shut off. That was a punch in the gut.

 

I hope that sooner or later he gets what's coming to him. That people find out just how fake he is. Im a big believer in being honest with people. The fact that he lies even about the littlest things, let alone the big things, makes him a weaker person. So desperate to be liked by all that he puts on this huge show for a forum full of strangers. I guess some people need validation more than others that they will search for it wherever they can find it.

[Toddbt12y1]

So much energy wasted on a cheater.

 

You will find no answers. Even if you cross examined him for answers, you may not even get the truth.

 

He won't be miserable. He has moved on and these types are wired in such a way whereby they can get up and go, without batting an eyelid.

 

You can keep stalking or you can start grieving and healing.

 

It is difficult to say he won't or is/isn't miserable. All liars and manipulators in the end are small on the inside. That is why they lie. It makes them feel bigger. Narcissitcs can indeed move on with ease. Heck, they are incapable of feeling guilt or remorse. She shouldn't seek answers from a liar. A liar lied before he will again over any answers.

[kristi628]

It is difficult to say he won't or is/isn't miserable. All liars and manipulators in the end are small on the inside. That is why they lie. It makes them feel bigger. Narcissitcs can indeed move on with ease. Heck, they are incapable of feeling guilt or remorse. She shouldn't seek answers from a liar. A liar lied before he will again over any answers.

 

Well if his past behavior is any indication about their future together, then she's in for a rude awakening. If she's smart (which i know i might hate her but she looks like a sweet girl) then she should see the red flags early and run away!

 

The fact that he wrote something rude about me on his twitter should show her that he's not over something like he says he is. Whether it's negative or positive feelings, there's still unresolved issues. That should be enough to run for the hills. BUT....It's none of my business anymore I guess.

 

Sometimes i wish I could see the future or fast forward through all this heart break. I would just like to know that I will be better off in the end...and knowing that it didnt last between them wouldnt hurt either. lol