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Just because we don't tell you, doesn't mean we don't notice. I have literally done the walk into a pole thing when a woman in heals with great looking legs walked by. :o

 

Right, but heels don't simply make a woman have nice looking legs. If you have short dumpy legs, you will still have them when you are in heels. They aren't a magic camoflage, lol. I have long legs and they they are "toned"....they look that way in heels and in flats.

 

Really you walked into a pole? I guess seeing good looking legs is rare then if it causes THAT. Which...kinda proves my point that heels don't make regular legs suddenly look amazing.

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So if you worked out to be skinny, would it be wrong for you to expect the woman to still be skinnier than you since you're actively taking measures to make yourself skinny? (Note that I don't think there's anything wrong with this, but I hope you see the similarities...)

There is nothing similar at all.

 

First off all, there is nothing natural about heels. A woman can't work out and get taller. She puts those things on her feet and magically grows four inches. That's why I said corset. It's an unnatural device to make one thinner.

 

And no, I don't work out to get skinny. I work out because I want to get bigger.

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Sorry but men do care how a woman dresses. not the majority but many do. how she pretties herself up makes a big difference to me. I love that my woman takes the time and gets all dressed up when I come see her. her nails and makeup and hair and perfume and skirts and blouses and heels and I even care what panties she wears and I already threw out a few. I buy her stuff from wickedtempatations all the time. she loves it. I love that she takes the time to dresses sexy for me. it adds a lot to a relationship.

 

your comment probably holds true for men who dont have a sense of style and cant dress themselves. if the person themselves dont give a sheet what they wear, why should they care what theyre partner wears. its always the woman that dresses her man when their in a relationship anyways. those men who do dress well and put effort to looking good will pay attention. I pay attention to what woman wear all the time.

 

Men don't care about how a woman dresses the way a woman cares about how a woman dresses.

 

You care that she looks good. That's one thing.

 

A woman cares that her clothes are in style, from certain designers, trend setting, and they compete over it.

 

Trust me, I dress like a woman, and usually pass as one, and have had to hear the comments women make to eachother good and bad on this. I've also heard the way men comment on it. It's very different. Compared to the microscope that women put eachother under men don't really care how a woman dresses. I'm just saying.

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There is nothing similar at all.

 

First off all, there is nothing natural about heels. A woman can't work out and get taller. She puts those things on her feet and magically grows four inches. That's why I said corset. It's an unnatural device to make one thinner.

 

And no, I don't work out to get skinny. I work out because I want to get bigger.

 

I said IF you were working out to lose weight (as some men are). Heels aren't comparable to you wearing a corset because men don't typically wear corsets. So of course you wouldn't wear one because it isn't common for your gender.

 

The bottom line is that people just have physical preferences full stop. And oftentimes men have physical preferences ABOUT women's clothes. They cannot expect those preferences to not come around full circle. If ALL men did not think that women look any sexier in heels, this entire thing would not be an issue. But they do, and thus the women reciprocate.

 

Men don't care about how a woman dresses the way a woman cares about how a woman dresses.

 

You care that she looks good. That's one thing.

 

Yes, and some men think that a woman looks good when she is in heels because of the effects that it has on her figure and posture. Why is that so difficult to accept?

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I said IF you were working out to lose weight (as some men are). Heels aren't comparable to you wearing a corset because men don't typically wear corsets. So of course you wouldn't wear one because it isn't common for your gender.

 

The bottom line is that people just have physical preferences full stop. And oftentimes men have physical preferences ABOUT women's clothes. They cannot expect those preferences to not come around full circle. If ALL men did not think that women look any sexier in heels, this entire thing would not be an issue. But they do, and thus the women reciprocate.

Elswyth, I have a hard enough time getting women because of my height already. The last thing I need to worry about is that some women my height or shorter wouldn't want to date me because of their heels.

 

And in case you didn't know, the last thing I need to hear is a list of reasons why women don't want to date me when I cant' do anything about them.

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Elswyth, I have a hard enough time getting women because of my height already. The last thing I need to worry about is that some women my height or shorter wouldn't want to date me because of their heels.

 

You don't have to worry about it. There will always be people who exclude you based on physical preferences, often ridiculous ones. I'd be passed over by guys who feel themselves entitled to a Megan Fox lookalike despite themselves being obese and dressing far worse than me. It's okay, I accept it. You should too.

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And in case you didn't know, the last thing I need to hear is a list of reasons why women don't want to date me when I cant' do anything about them.

 

But we're not talking about you or even 'women', we're talking about one woman who stated on her online dating profile that she wants her man to be taller than her in heels. She isn't even relevant to you and nobody was talking about why 'women' don't want to date 'you'. You need to stop taking this so personally.

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Really you walked into a pole? I guess seeing good looking legs is rare then if it causes THAT. Which...kinda proves my point that heels don't make regular legs suddenly look amazing.

 

They make them look better IMO. So if you have great legs already then they most likely look awesome in heels.

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Then men should allowed to wear heels as well.

 

Who said they're not? You could always wear platform creepers if you have the panache to pull them off. Some of those have really thick soles - and would probably add 2 to 3 inches to your height.

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What's the difference?

 

I've never had a guy compliment me on my "firm calves" in heels. lol. That's hilarious. I don't think guys care that much about calf firmness.....and if you are tall, you have long legs regardless.

 

short girls don't magically look like they have long legs in heels.

 

 

It is not just about how long the legs are. I like nice thighs too. Long skinny legs, even if they're toned are not as appealing as a girl with nice proportional legs to torso and great thighs.

 

There is a difference between high fashion models and Victoria Secrets models. One is pretty much a coat rack with a pretty face and the other looks good butt ass naked. Long legs is not enough.

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But we're not talking about you or even 'women', we're talking about one woman who stated on her online dating profile that she wants her man to be taller than her in heels. She isn't even relevant to you and nobody was talking about why 'women' don't want to date 'you'. You need to stop taking this so personally.

 

Its not one profile,ive been on tons of dating sites and id say 90% of women will not even look at you profile if youre under 5'10 then the 10% who dont care about height still have to like your face physique profile etc which limits your options even further

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Yes, and some men think that a woman looks good when she is in heels because of the effects that it has on her figure and posture. Why is that so difficult to accept?

 

Heels DO NOT help with posture! Haven't you guys ever seen someone stomp around in heels when they don't know how to walk in them? They look like Lurch!

 

I love my heels, I do, but I'm baffled by the idea that wearing heels somehow makes a regular girl look like a long-legged model with perfect posture.

 

ANYWAY sorry none of this answers the original question-----which I would answer with "I don't know. Because they are weird, I guess"

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Its not one profile,ive been on tons of dating sites and id say 90% of women will not even look at you profile if youre under 5'10 then the 10% who dont care about height still have to like your face physique profile etc which limits your options even further

 

 

Might make a good test to weed out the superficial ones.

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I really really really want to date a girl who's over 6' tall...just to see what it's like.

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I really really really want to date a girl who's over 6' tall...just to see what it's like.

Same here :laugh:.

 

I want to go on a date with Jade Johnson - she's 6 foot 5 and taller than I.

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Heels DO NOT help with posture! Haven't you guys ever seen someone stomp around in heels when they don't know how to walk in them? They look like Lurch!

 

I love my heels, I do, but I'm baffled by the idea that wearing heels somehow makes a regular girl look like a long-legged model with perfect posture.

 

It's assumed you know how to walk in them. It's about how it makes the calfs, hamstrings, and quads look more defined.

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Heels DO NOT help with posture! Haven't you guys ever seen someone stomp around in heels when they don't know how to walk in them? They look like Lurch!

 

Christ, stop nitpicking at everything I say! :confused: I obviously don't mean posture as in finishing-school posture. I meant that to walk in heels, your centre of gravity is different, so you have to stand differently, with your bust and ass pushed out, to compensate. But of course those guys aren't thinking about that. The fact of the matter is that some guys just like looking at women in heels. Some male posters have in fact affirmed this to you on this very thread and yet you keep telling them that they are wrong and insisting you know better than them about what they like looking at. Why???

 

I love my heels, I do, but I'm baffled by the idea that wearing heels somehow makes a regular girl look like a long-legged model with perfect posture.

 

Nobody actually said this. There is obviously a limit to what heels OR makeup OR clothes OR hair can do to a person. That does not change the fact that it still makes a difference. And if you had bothered to read my first response to you and talk about it instead of constantly sniping at bits and pieces of my posts because you disagree with them (very annoying, btw!), you would have known that.

 

ANYWAY sorry none of this answers the original question-----which I would answer with "I don't know. Because they are weird, I guess"

 

Several of us attempted to answer this as our first post. Glad you finally chimed in.

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Its not one profile,ive been on tons of dating sites and id say 90% of women will not even look at you profile if youre under 5'10 then the 10% who dont care about height still have to like your face physique profile etc which limits your options even further

 

So maybe get off the internet and try to meet women IRL?

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Also, while I don't believe short men all have complexes, I do find it odd that someone much shorter/smaller than me would find me appealing. It may not be fair, but I do wonder, is it a power thing or a mommy issue? :confused:

 

Do you necessarily believe that? I'm going to assume you're around 5'11-6".. Sure, I may be about 2 or 3 inches shorter than you, but I could overpower guys who're your size or even slightly larger..

 

Do you really think there's a power issue at play? I'm willing to bet that a 4'11 male version of Snooki could still overpower a girl who's a foot bigger than him, if she's not a world-class jujitsu fighter or something and more of your every day run of the mill "let's go to the mall and buy SHOES!" sort of girl/woman..

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OMG SORRY :eek::eek::eek:

 

I'm Team Heels, wtf!

 

Lonely Ronin walks into lightpoles when girls wear them, I thought that was weird as hell, my bad!

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Lonely Ronin walks into lightpoles when girls wear them, I thought that was weird as hell, my bad!

 

Come on now, it only happened once, and it was because i was dumbfounded. :o

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Come on now, it only happened once, and it was because i was dumbfounded. :o

 

I know, LR. I don't want to get yelled at but my point was that heels don't TYPICALLY make such a huge difference that it causes reactions like that...so I find it WEIRD that a woman would require to be shorter than a guy in them...I don't see why HEELS would be soooo important when *****IN MY OPINION***** they don't make that huge of a difference in anything.

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The answer to the original question is because they can.

 

A short woman won't have a hard time finding a man taller than her in heels. Tall women don't have this same luxury or they would probably do the same thing.

 

Heels on a short woman seem to make more of difference than on a tall woman. I'm long, lean, and toned barefoot. Heels don't much of a difference for me.

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I know, LR. I don't want to get yelled at but my point was that heels don't TYPICALLY make such a huge difference that it causes reactions like that...so I find it WEIRD that a woman would require to be shorter than a guy in them...I don't see why HEELS would be soooo important when *****IN MY OPINION***** they don't make that huge of a difference in anything.

IMO, I don't care how heels affects a woman's legs and or butt. I'm too busy looking at her boobs face to notice.

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IMO, I don't care how heels affects a woman's legs and or butt. I'm too busy looking at her boobs face to notice.

 

That's like a legs/ass guy saying, "Huh, what D-cup girl were you talking about? Sorry, was too busy looking at those other chicks" :p

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