Imported Posted December 12, 2012 Posted December 12, 2012 I'd have a problem if a girl was towering over me. A girl that pushes 6' with heels is fine as I'd be wearing some form of boots that adds up to 1" and puts me at 6' as well anyway. There are some bots that can add more than 1", but I never buy them based on how much added "height" they give me. Usually I go for some form of chukka boots which usually only gives you an extra .5", but I like the style. I get some really tall girls coming on to me every so often, I always politely shut them down or return absolutely nothing to encourage them and then go after some girl that is 5'8" and below. There is a **** ton of those, many of them very gorgeous, so it is irrelevant that the super tall girl is gorgeous as well.
Els Posted December 12, 2012 Posted December 12, 2012 Then men should allowed to wear heels as well. You're 5'8 in your 4" heels, then I'm 5'10 in mine. They also make my ass look great. Nobody is telling you what you can or can't do, y'know. You guys have also missed the point that women in heels is a, ahem, physical preference of many (not all) men. Many men really do find a woman more sexy and attractive when she is strutting around in high heels as opposed to being in flats or sneakers. Yes, those guys might not really care (I'm not so sure about this, but let's go with it for now) whether or not she's a little taller in those heels, but this has conditioned women to think of themselves as sexy in heels and to want to wear them. Because, you know, women don't decide what they consider sexy in themselves out of the blue. It takes two to make a definition of what 'sexy' is. Now, women are also 'allowed' to have physical preferences *gasp!*, and some of them want a guy who is taller than them. Some of them also really love wearing heels because they feel sexy in them (refer to above paragraph). Frankly I think they'd need to feel REALLY sexy to outweigh the discomfort and inconvenience of heels (have you ever tried walking in 4-inch stilettos for an hour? you may not be so eager to be 'allowed' to wear heels when you do!), but I suppose some women do. So when you combine the two types of women, you arrive with a type of woman who can't part with her heels but also wants her man to be taller than her despite them adding to her height. Oh, the dilemma. Now, instead of analyzing all this, which is probably tiresome, can't we all just accept that some people of the opposite sex have physical preferences that exclude us, and that's okay? Since we ourselves also, yknow, have physical preferences that exclude some people of the opposite sex.
PJKino Posted December 12, 2012 Posted December 12, 2012 The vanity and shallowness of women sometimes is mind boggling which is why i dont bother trying anymore Its like a man not dating a women because his hand can cover her whole breast so he deems it not big enough
Imported Posted December 12, 2012 Posted December 12, 2012 The vanity and shallowness of women sometimes is mind boggling which is why i dont bother trying anymore Its like a man not dating a women because his hand can cover her whole breast so he deems it not big enough It is not like that at all, but thank you for removing yourself from the gene pool.
Mrlonelyone Posted December 12, 2012 Posted December 12, 2012 Elswyth. Again heels are totally irrelevant to a man. They really really are. The one thing a woman in say red high heels does is signal that she's got sex on the brain. Heels, makeup, most clothing, are all things other women care about and judge way more than men do. Even I, a transwoman who wears /has worn such things don't jduge women's appearances by them. In fact, since I know first hand how soooo much of a womans appearance is makeup, clothes, etc. I am even less impressed by it. Bottom line: A man could care less about a womans shoes. 1
PJKino Posted December 12, 2012 Posted December 12, 2012 It is not like that at all, but thank you for removing yourself from the gene pool. Whatever, its clear a lot of women use a man has an acessory more then anything else Not giving a potential great guy a chance whos taller then you because of a SHOE? just take a second and think of how that sounds:lmao:
rocketman122 Posted December 12, 2012 Posted December 12, 2012 I will not date a tall girl no matter what. I want that height difference and I have to take into consideration her heels. so for me it was at most 170cm when I was shopping OLD. and yes I turned down tall woman. I dont tell them its because of their height but im polite and say no thank you. I love that my GF can rest her head on breasteses and she told multiple times how she feels great when I hold her in my arms. I want to feel like im holding her and not have the girl tower over me. my GF loves wearing heels and I love that she does. I hate flats and flip flops on woman and if it so happened that I dated a girl who had these, I would throw them out, and take her to the mall and buy her new shoes. its the most disgusting thing a woman can wear besides the uggs. I love girls that wears heels. nothing sexier, besides leggings..mmmm I dont see anything wrong with woman writing their height with heels on. but it doesnt matter for me as I only care to know her height.
Els Posted December 12, 2012 Posted December 12, 2012 Elswyth. Again heels are totally irrelevant to a man. They really really are. The one thing a woman in say red high heels does is signal that she's got sex on the brain. Heels, makeup, most clothing, are all things other women care about and judge way more than men do. Even I, a transwoman who wears /has worn such things don't jduge women's appearances by them. In fact, since I know first hand how soooo much of a womans appearance is makeup, clothes, etc. I am even less impressed by it. Bottom line: A man could care less about a womans shoes. Why do you think the majority of Playboy, etc, and any sort of porn with fetish clothing in it, has women in high heels? It isn't mostly women who produce or watch/read that. Men don't care about a woman's shoes, but some men find the effects of those shoes alluring. It's simply that most straight men don't analyze WHY they find her alluring, they just accept that they do. I think you are different in this aspect because you understand women's clothes. Many men do not. All they can think of is "Ooh, chick with slender legs a mile long, a pert butt, and firm calves, and look how her hips sway when she walks!" 2
Taramere Posted December 12, 2012 Posted December 12, 2012 The vanity and shallowness of women sometimes is mind boggling which is why i dont bother trying anymore Its like a man not dating a women because his hand can cover her whole breast so he deems it not big enough Well,men who are into boobs probably would rule women out on that basis..unless they met a woman who they clicked with well enough that their usual preferences became irrelevant. That's the case for most people. That they tend to be flexible about their preferences when it comes to people who they click with. If people were absolutely inflexible about their preferences and would knock back somebody they really liked on the basis of height or whatever else, then that would be shallow. Having those preferences in the first place is not shallow...and in something like online dating (which I assume gives rise to a lot of the "rejected for not being tall enough" threads) it's inevitable that people will tend to state those preferences. The best way to overcome general preferences that exclude you is to focus on meeting people in real life and create the kind of connections that make people throw their rule books out of the window, rather than hoping that you'll meet your soul mate by swapping profiles online. 1
veggirl Posted December 12, 2012 Posted December 12, 2012 It is not like that at all, but thank you for removing yourself from the gene pool. What's the difference? I've never had a guy compliment me on my "firm calves" in heels. lol. That's hilarious. I don't think guys care that much about calf firmness.....and if you are tall, you have long legs regardless. short girls don't magically look like they have long legs in heels. 1
Lonely Ronin Posted December 12, 2012 Posted December 12, 2012 Elswyth. Again heels are totally irrelevant to a man. They really really are. The one thing a woman in say red high heels does is signal that she's got sex on the brain. Heels, makeup, most clothing, are all things other women care about and judge way more than men do. Even I, a transwoman who wears /has worn such things don't jduge women's appearances by them. In fact, since I know first hand how soooo much of a womans appearance is makeup, clothes, etc. I am even less impressed by it. Bottom line: A man could care less about a womans shoes. I just have to say, I pretty much disagree with every one of your points. 2
Lonely Ronin Posted December 12, 2012 Posted December 12, 2012 What's the difference? I've never had a guy compliment me on my "firm calves" in heels. lol. That's hilarious. I don't think guys care that much about calf firmness.....and if you are tall, you have long legs regardless. short girls don't magically look like they have long legs in heels. Just because we don't tell you, doesn't mean we don't notice. I have literally done the walk into a pole thing when a woman in heals with great looking legs walked by.
somedude81 Posted December 12, 2012 Posted December 12, 2012 You guys have also missed the point that women in heels is a, ahem, physical preference of many (not all) men. Many men really do find a woman more sexy and attractive when she is strutting around in high heels as opposed to being in flats or sneakers. Yes, those guys might not really care (I'm not so sure about this, but let's go with it for now) whether or not she's a little taller in those heels, but this has conditioned women to think of themselves as sexy in heels and to want to wear them. Because, you know, women don't decide what they consider sexy in themselves out of the blue. It takes two to make a definition of what 'sexy' is. I got no problem if a woman wants to wear heels because it makes her feel sexy. I do have a problem when her desire to feel sexy causes her to place me out of her dating range. Hopefully, there are only a very small number of women who would turn me down because they are taller than me in heels.
Els Posted December 12, 2012 Posted December 12, 2012 What's the difference? I've never had a guy compliment me on my "firm calves" in heels. lol. That's hilarious. I don't think guys care that much about calf firmness.....and if you are tall, you have long legs regardless. short girls don't magically look like they have long legs in heels. Of course not, and girls with small breasts don't magically look like Pamela Anderson in a wonderbra. That doesn't change the fact that they do make a difference. As I said, the majority of porn that involves the women being partially clothed, involves high heels. That is no coincidence. Obviously there are some men out there who don't care for the high-heeled look on a woman. That does not negate the fact that there are some who do. 1
Els Posted December 12, 2012 Posted December 12, 2012 I got no problem if a woman wants to wear heels because it makes her feel sexy. I do have a problem when her desire to feel sexy causes her to place me out of her dating range. But why? You desire a woman who is smaller in size than you because you desire to not appear smaller than her (hence, you feel more masculine when you are with a smaller woman). How is that different?
rocketman122 Posted December 12, 2012 Posted December 12, 2012 Elswyth. Again heels are totally irrelevant to a man. They really really are. The one thing a woman in say red high heels does is signal that she's got sex on the brain. Heels, makeup, most clothing, are all things other women care about and judge way more than men do. Even I, a transwoman who wears /has worn such things don't jduge women's appearances by them. In fact, since I know first hand how soooo much of a womans appearance is makeup, clothes, etc. I am even less impressed by it. Bottom line: A man could care less about a womans shoes. Sorry but men do care how a woman dresses. not the majority but many do. how she pretties herself up makes a big difference to me. I love that my woman takes the time and gets all dressed up when I come see her. her nails and makeup and hair and perfume and skirts and blouses and heels and I even care what panties she wears and I already threw out a few. I buy her stuff from wickedtempatations all the time. she loves it. I love that she takes the time to dresses sexy for me. it adds a lot to a relationship. your comment probably holds true for men who dont have a sense of style and cant dress themselves. if the person themselves dont give a sheet what they wear, why should they care what theyre partner wears. its always the woman that dresses her man when their in a relationship anyways. those men who do dress well and put effort to looking good will pay attention. I pay attention to what woman wear all the time. 1
PJKino Posted December 12, 2012 Posted December 12, 2012 Its funny that women can wear makeup heels wonderbras and other things to make them look better looking then they actually are in reality.. But the thought of a man doing the same and wearing lifts or something to be a little taller which will obvisously open the doors to a lot more women is somehow awful and dishonest
Lonely Ronin Posted December 12, 2012 Posted December 12, 2012 Sorry but men do care how a woman dresses. not the majority but many do. how she pretties herself up makes a big difference to me. I love that my woman takes the time and gets all dressed up when I come see her. her nails and makeup and hair and perfume and skirts and blouses and heels and I even care what panties she wears and I already threw out a few. I buy her stuff from wickedtempatations all the time. she loves it. I love that she takes the time to dresses sexy for me. it adds a lot to a relationship. your comment probably holds true for men who dont have a sense of style and cant dress themselves. if the person themselves dont give a sheet what they wear, why should they care what theyre partner wears. its always the woman that dresses her man when their in a relationship anyways. those men who do dress well and put effort to looking good will pay attention. I pay attention to what woman wear all the time. What he said ^^ 1
Lonely Ronin Posted December 12, 2012 Posted December 12, 2012 But the thought of a man doing the same and wearing lifts or something to be a little taller which will obvisously open the doors to a lot more women is somehow awful and dishonest lol, it's even easier for men to look good compared to their peers. As soon as you learn to buy clothes that fit properly you start standing out.
Els Posted December 12, 2012 Posted December 12, 2012 What he said ^^ I do find the 'throwing out' bit a wee bit concerning, though! Do not do that!
Els Posted December 12, 2012 Posted December 12, 2012 Its funny that women can wear makeup heels wonderbras and other things to make them look better looking then they actually are in reality.. But the thought of a man doing the same and wearing lifts or something to be a little taller which will obvisously open the doors to a lot more women is somehow awful and dishonest If a woman pulls the 'I want you to be taller than me in heels' clause and then tells you you're being dishonest by wearing male shoes with a bit of lift and storms off, you've probably dodged a very hypocritical bullet.
Lonely Ronin Posted December 12, 2012 Posted December 12, 2012 I do find the 'throwing out' bit a wee bit concerning, though! Do not do that! Come on now, don't tell me you have never given a guy crap about a shirt....
Els Posted December 12, 2012 Posted December 12, 2012 Come on now, don't tell me you have never given a guy crap about a shirt.... Honest to god, no, not me. I am exceptionally laid-back about his dress style, though, and am with a guy who is the same about me... and that's just right for me! Lots of other people are different - I've seen the way guys drool over a hot girl in a tight dress and heels, and I've seen the way girls chatter about this tall dreamy celebrity. As long as they give what they expect (dress well if they expect their partner to dress well, accept their partner's physical preferences if they have strong ones themselves, etc), they seem to have good love lives too.
somedude81 Posted December 12, 2012 Posted December 12, 2012 (edited) But why? You desire a woman who is smaller in size than you because you desire to not appear smaller than her (hence, you feel more masculine when you are with a smaller woman). How is that different? Because I don't wear a corset and then expect women to be skinnier than me. Edited December 12, 2012 by a LoveShack.org Moderator
Els Posted December 12, 2012 Posted December 12, 2012 Because I don't wear a corset and then expect women to be skinnier than me. So if you worked out to be skinny, would it be wrong for you to expect the woman to still be skinnier than you since you're actively taking measures to make yourself skinny? (Note that I don't think there's anything wrong with this, but I hope you see the similarities...)
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