irc333 Posted December 12, 2012 Posted December 12, 2012 I get a kick out of some women, if they're 5'6", but they say, "I come up to 5'11" in heels, so you would have to be 5'11" or higher for me to date you, or else it won't work." What's the obsession of including heels as part of your height? Just curious though, let's say if this weren't online dating....if a man that approached you, ladies that didn't meet the above criteria....would you even notice or if you did notice, would you ever care at that point if he was funny and engaging?
KathyM Posted December 12, 2012 Posted December 12, 2012 (edited) Some women want a man who is taller than them and looks taller than them when they are out. That would mean that he would have to be taller than her when she's wearing heals. I don't personally care one way or another--I married a guy who was my height, 5'8", and whom I am taller when wearing heals. My first boyfriend was also my same height. But to some women, they want to feel like the guy is taller than them when out in public. Edited December 12, 2012 by KathyM
angie2443 Posted December 12, 2012 Posted December 12, 2012 Please remember that most men want a woman to be shorter than them, even if the woman is in heels. The woman who mentions her height in heels is doing it for her and the guy looking at her profile. This way, the guy can decide if he's bothered by the woman's heel height, or if he doesn't care. This saves time and energy for both people.
Author irc333 Posted December 12, 2012 Author Posted December 12, 2012 ....when out in public. This means there's something wrong with the woman, if she's that concerned about what the public (mostly strangers) think, so even the TALLER man be wary. 1
angie2443 Posted December 12, 2012 Posted December 12, 2012 This means there's something wrong with the woman, if she's that concerned about what the public (mostly strangers) think, so even the TALLER man be wary. Many if not most men would be concerned about what the public thinks in this situation to. I'm not saying it's wrong or right. I just don't understand why you think that only women care about heel height. 1
Author irc333 Posted December 12, 2012 Author Posted December 12, 2012 Many if not most men would be concerned about what the public thinks in this situation to. I'm not saying it's wrong or right. I just don't understand why you think that only women care about heel height. Believe me, men care a LOT less about the height of a woman. If she has a great body, believe me, the height can be overlooked. 1
Mrlonelyone Posted December 12, 2012 Posted December 12, 2012 Many if not most men would be concerned about what the public thinks in this situation to. I'm not saying it's wrong or right. I just don't understand why you think that only women care about heel height. No not really. Most men only care that the woman they are with loves them and makes them horny. 2
Author irc333 Posted December 12, 2012 Author Posted December 12, 2012 No not really. Most men only care that the woman they are with loves them and makes them horny. Yeah...that too.
Author irc333 Posted December 12, 2012 Author Posted December 12, 2012 I've never offered up my "plus heels" height to anyone, though I've had several men ask ("...so, wow you'd be like 6'3", 6'4" in heels?") more times than I can count. I don't get involved with men shorter than myself, but that's because I am really tall, and it's awkward being intimately involved with a small person. Things just don't line up very well. Also, while I don't believe short men all have complexes, I do find it odd that someone much shorter/smaller than me would find me appealing. It may not be fair, but I do wonder, is it a power thing or a mommy issue? Yeah, but you're already tall....so you have an excuse. LOL. It's more reasonable. But a woman who is already shorter than the guy, well...says she's like 5'3" and she won't date anyone less than 6 feet? Sorry, just doesn't cut it.
mammasita Posted December 12, 2012 Posted December 12, 2012 Depeneds on what shoes Im wearing when he approaches me.
KungFuJoe Posted December 12, 2012 Posted December 12, 2012 Some women want taller guys...taller than them even in heels. What is so hard to understand about this? It's like a handful of women exhibit a desire for some physical attribute that you don't have and all of a sudden it's like "omg Im not exactly what this random girl on OLD wants....LIFE IS SO UNFAIR!!!!!" 3
Els Posted December 12, 2012 Posted December 12, 2012 No not really. Most men only care that the woman they are with loves them and makes them horny. Same here. But for SOME women (not all), part of that horniness comes from having a man who is taller than her all the time, including when they are out together. That does not make her any better or worse than a man whose horniness is dependent on a woman having a particular sort of chest or ass. It just is. I personally don't think that either height, chest, or ass is a good major prerequisite for a partner, but eh, people like what they like. One cannot justify some preferences while ridiculing others just because they don't suit them. 1
sabre80 Posted December 12, 2012 Posted December 12, 2012 It is not a mommy issue. I am 6'2" (6'6" in heels) and I am sick of hunching over to kiss my girl. For once I want to have to tippy toe to reach my beau's lips. Maybe it's time to turn the tables. Demand women be 5'10 or taller or its just not gonna work.
grkBoy Posted December 12, 2012 Posted December 12, 2012 I get a kick out of some women, if they're 5'6", but they say, "I come up to 5'11" in heels, so you would have to be 5'11" or higher for me to date you, or else it won't work." What's the obsession of including heels as part of your height? Just curious though, let's say if this weren't online dating....if a man that approached you, ladies that didn't meet the above criteria....would you even notice or if you did notice, would you ever care at that point if he was funny and engaging? Many women simply love their heels and will never go without wearing them. Apparently they make their legs and butts look better, so they simply want to wear them as much as possible. However, they still want a man who ends up "taller" than her. Frankly, a woman who is obsessed with always being in heels and a man who still appears as taller is one you could say is very image-conscious on a near unhealthy level. Not a good woman to date IMHO. Again though...my usual response to this is the same. If she's picking up tall men like crazy, then good for her. If she's only meeting short guys and constantly complaining that the tall guys pass her up...then perhaps she needs to lower her standards. 2
Taramere Posted December 12, 2012 Posted December 12, 2012 I get a kick out of some women, if they're 5'6", but they say, "I come up to 5'11" in heels, so you would have to be 5'11" or higher for me to date you, or else it won't work." What's the obsession of including heels as part of your height? I shouldn't think it's an obsession for many women, so much as it's a preference for men who are slightly taller than us when we're wearing heels. Here's a chart showing average heights for men and women around the world Height Chart of Men and Women in Different Countries You can see from that that the average man will generally be around 4 to 6 inches taller than women. Heels would have to be extremely high to add 5 inches to a woman's height. Most are only going to add about three inches to her height - meantime the soles of most men's shoes will add half an inch to an inch in height....so if a person is with their opposite sex equivalent (height wise) the man will be taller than the woman even when she's in heels. I sympathise if height is an issue for you as it certainly seems to be, but I think this is your obsession rather than other people's. 1
Necromancer Posted December 12, 2012 Posted December 12, 2012 Same here. But for SOME women (not all), part of that horniness comes from having a man who is taller than her all the time, including when they are out together. That does not make her any better or worse than a man whose horniness is dependent on a woman having a particular sort of chest or ass. It just is. I personally don't think that either height, chest, or ass is a good major prerequisite for a partner, but eh, people like what they like. One cannot justify some preferences while ridiculing others just because they don't suit them. Any woman can have a nice ass under 30. Height is genetics that's the difference. Squats can make amazing asses. 1
Mrlonelyone Posted December 12, 2012 Posted December 12, 2012 Same here. But for SOME women (not all), part of that horniness comes from having a man who is taller than her all the time, including when they are out together. That does not make her any better or worse than a man whose horniness is dependent on a woman having a particular sort of chest or ass. It just is. I personally don't think that either height, chest, or ass is a good major prerequisite for a partner, but eh, people like what they like. One cannot justify some preferences while ridiculing others just because they don't suit them. I'm not ridiculing anyone. Just stating a fact. A man's mate choices are not driven by how people will think of him for mating with a given woman. A man simply cannot have sex with a woman who does not make him hard. That's really the only standard that matters with men.
Radu Posted December 12, 2012 Posted December 12, 2012 If she doesn't like that you are shorter when heels are used, why not wear heels yourself. It would be a great conversation starter with online dating.
Els Posted December 12, 2012 Posted December 12, 2012 Any woman can have a nice ass under 30. Height is genetics that's the difference. Squats can make amazing asses. ...You somehow seem to always miss the point in ways that are absolutely phenomenal. I do not understand how someone could even pretend to be so obtuse. Not to mention the fact that there is a much higher percentage of men above 5'11" than there are women between the ages of 16-30, even if your asinine and irrelevant statement were true. So now is the woman's requirement for a man above 5'11" all fine and dandy with you?
Radu Posted December 12, 2012 Posted December 12, 2012 Is it abnormal for you to find that between the ages 16-30 there are more men than women with heights past 5''11' ?
somedude81 Posted December 12, 2012 Posted December 12, 2012 Some women want taller guys...taller than them even in heels. What is so hard to understand about this? Then men should allowed to wear heels as well. You're 5'8 in your 4" heels, then I'm 5'10 in mine. They also make my ass look great. 1
TheZebra Posted December 12, 2012 Posted December 12, 2012 The only problem is that many men find heels (or the effects heels give, like longer legs, nicer butt) to be sexy, but as we saw from the OP, the height discrepancy given by heels suddenly makes so many men ineligible to date said woman. So I guess the only person that wins is the tall guy? Quite interesting, I'd say. Frankly I prefer men who are only 1-3 inches taller than me so that I have a great excuse not to wear heels ('oh honey, you know I'd wear heels but I don't want to look taller than you') 2
iris219 Posted December 12, 2012 Posted December 12, 2012 I don't take heels into account when it comes to my height because I rarely wear them. I don't have that luxury. I wish I could wear heels more often, but I'm already tall and men DO care about height. They care more than I do. At 5'9", I often tower over everyone in flat shoes. The women where I live are around 5'2" and the men are about 5'7". It wasn't like this when I lived in NY. People seemed taller there.
Els Posted December 12, 2012 Posted December 12, 2012 I'm not ridiculing anyone. Just stating a fact. A man's mate choices are not driven by how people will think of him for mating with a given woman. A man simply cannot have sex with a woman who does not make him hard. That's really the only standard that matters with men. I didn't mean you, really; the ridiculing was mostly done by the OP and a few others. I think there is something to be said about a woman's sexual attraction to a man, in that it is probably less straightforward than a man's for a woman. There are many things that influence a woman's sexual attraction, and one of them is height for some women. Including height in public. Because, well, to some women, foreplay lasts all day long and especially includes the romantic date she's on with her partner on the evening before they have sex. And to some women, being with a man who appears taller than her in public reinforces that sexual attraction. I want to reiterate that I don't think the heels clause is a great way to choose a partner either. But I find it really funny that the OP constantly makes threads ridiculing women for their physical preferences in men, whereas he has talked about women's appearances and his opinions of them probably hundreds of times during his LS career. It's hypocritical for any man with a physical preference to ridicule the physical preference of a woman, period. Obviously, the reverse applies as well.
veggirl Posted December 12, 2012 Posted December 12, 2012 Please remember that most men want a woman to be shorter than them, even if the woman is in heels. The woman who mentions her height in heels is doing it for her and the guy looking at her profile. This way, the guy can decide if he's bothered by the woman's heel height, or if he doesn't care. This saves time and energy for both people. I've never, ever found that to be true. No guy I was ever with cared when I was taller than him in heels (which was with most guys, I am 5'8 so add 4inches when I'm in heels). Honestly how often are these people wearing heels...and why so concerned about how they look together. I do find it bizarre. I wear heels when I go out, I don't go out every night and when I have a bf most of our hang outs don't involve me wearing heels. I think it's a really weird thing to require.
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