John316C Posted December 12, 2012 Posted December 12, 2012 A little while ago I saw a girl on Facebook and when I saw her my mouth dropped. She has the class I like - she was with 2 friends and she wore a orange blouse that dropped on one of her shoulders and a white skirt with a large brown belt. [Her friends looked older - definitely over 30, she's looks great, so that may make her look younger.] I'm 26. This girl is my type which (I think) is extremely rare to see. I think she may be older up to 31. Her friends look older. I don't have anything in my profile, just likes etc which are hidden. I have a 3 face photos. They are good pictures... but from a digital camcorder?? I don't have any other pictures.. My life is not so fantastic but I really believe deep down, really believe she's the kind of girl for me. She's the type of woman I've always thought I deserved (It's like when you see a woman who you've always had in your mind for years. The kind of woman of your dreams that you'd try to over-come all your difficulties for). I'm a really good looking guy too, I think on par. I've got other qualities obviously. She's only got a few likes on her Facebook. Nothing else I could use. At first I thought I may have briefly met her (really). I sent her a few messages since then. Are these messages alright? I thought these messages were alright or else I wouldn't have sent them but IDK and I want some help. 1st of July. Hi, Im genuinely... curious.. if Ive met you somewhere? You seem familiar? Have I met you somewhere... ? August 13 Hi Joanna. I'm John... I saw your picture and I think your very beautiful... and I want to get to know you. You look very pretty in your profile picture. I know you would enjoy, walking along the beaches; with me, while the leaves are still out; enjoying each others company. Are you a free woman? September 27 Well If you'd like to talk - send me a message. Wednesday That's a very nice blouse you're wearing. Orange is really nice and warm color... I like how your blouse hangs down and exposes your shoulder at the side... I would like to know more about you. I see you like Soul Beads... Skull Overdrive looks pretty cool.
movingon12 Posted December 12, 2012 Posted December 12, 2012 So, you actually sent her these messages? All of them? Even though she wasn't replying to you? The first message struck me as 'guy I don't know trying to chat me up'. Which - unless she really liked the look of your 3 digicam photos - was never going to be successful. The rest just screamed 'crazy stalker! run for the hills!'
MrCastle Posted December 12, 2012 Posted December 12, 2012 If you sent her those messages and she didn't reply to them, you're in real trouble. 1
Author John316C Posted December 12, 2012 Author Posted December 12, 2012 If you sent her those messages and she didn't reply to them, you're in real trouble. i don't understand. those messages seemed harmless. how would i have gotten her attention then?
MrCastle Posted December 12, 2012 Posted December 12, 2012 i don't understand. those messages seemed harmless. how would i have gotten her attention then? They're harmless if she's replying to them. If you sent those to her and she hasn't answered them they're just making things worse. Two things are working against you before you even sent message 1 1.) She doesn't know you 2.) She may or may not find you attractive Now, if she finds you attractive, the first problem eliminates itself and she answers your message. If she doesn't find you attractive, then her not knowing you puts you into "creepy" status, and all the messages following drive that point home. For whatever reason, this girl is not interested in speaking to you. It's best to move on and find somebody that's into you. I know it's easier said than done but it beats looking like a creep in front of a girl you like who doesn't like you back.
iiiii Posted December 12, 2012 Posted December 12, 2012 Yup, creepy. The first message was Ok, but if she didn't respond, the others are overkill and yes, they are creepy. Why is it creepy? Because you're commenting on her appearance plus telling her all the romantic things you want to do with her when you've never actually met her and know nothing about her - I know you probably mean well by it, but that is going to make her think that you have no idea about her personality and just want to shag her. Remember this girl doesn't have a clue who you are. For all she knows, you contact heaps of random women every day saying the same thing. Or your profile might not even be real. If you want to say something, comment on something she has liked or said on facebook, not the way she looks, or what you want to do with her... Or maybe if you have a mutual facebook friend, it would be better to ask them to introduce you?
Wunlov3 Posted December 12, 2012 Posted December 12, 2012 I always thought Facebook was for keeping in touch with close friends and family. Was a bit shocked when I found out that some people use it to find dates etc.
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