Broke Up 3 weeks ago

[Navajo46]

Broke up two weeks ago, I was going to propose in January and we had talked about moving back in together and having kids etc. All of a sudden the week of thanksgiving a few weeks ago, I could tell that she had changed and was trying to spend less time with me etc. I called her out on it that saturday and she finally told me that she loved me like a friend and that her boss at work and her had expressed feelings for each other. She said that they had something that we didn't... he is married with 2 kids. I asked if that's what she wanted and she said yes. We argued and then I finally let go. The next day she was crying and telling me she didnt know what she was doing etc... and I was still pissed and told her to get her things out of my place and that I deserve better. She got her things out and cried again to try to be friends and I said no and that was it for us. Fast forward to yesterday, the day after my birthday and only a week later and she texts me what I thought was weird. "Just wanted to wish you a happy belated birthday, wanted to do it yesterday but thought it was inappropriate. Changed my mind today, so happy birthday". Was almost cryptic to me. Why even text me at all? I just texted back thanks and that was it. How do things snowball so quickly? I am realistic that I need to let this girl go and know that something had to be cooking with this guy for a while. To make matters worse her son texts me "I miss having a father". This situation is extremely hard for me to take, but I need to have no contact with them at all. Theres always that part of you even though you know it is not good for you to want to know if they are going to crawl back ya know. I'm in a lot of pain right now and just looking for peoples opinions. Sorry so long.

Edited December 12, 2012 by Navajo46

[Nb1988]

Hang in there. I'm going through a really rough breakup right now too. I was also planning to propose in the next few months. She also left me for someone else. She refuses to speak to me though and from what I've heard they're pretty happy together. It sucks but we'll make it.

[Navajo46]

I'm real sorry to hear about your situation man. I am doing much better right now. Definitely not over it, but realizing that if it did not happen now then it would have happened down the road when either we were married and had kids or something. Just fighting those feelings of missing her ya know. Having someone in your life for 6 years and then literally overnight all of a sudden not being to talk to them is rough to take. As much as I want her to contact me and just hear her voice and talk, I have too much self respect to give her the satisfaction. The one thing I am good at is No Contact ESPECIALLY when there is someone else involved. Its funny though, to know that you are so much better of without this person and still feel like you love them?!