stingray115 Posted December 12, 2012 Posted December 12, 2012 About 4 months ago i met this girl online and we hit it off great, she did not want to long distance date because she had trust issues in the past with them but she gave us a try anyways and it went great, i was the world to her and we dated for about 2 months and she broke it off because she felt she needed time to work on herself and because i was being a little clingy and i begged at first which i know now i should not have done but she said she wanted to give us a second chance because she said she still have feelings for me, 3 weeks later she is true to her word and we start talking again for about 3 weeks and i take it slow this time and it was going great. Then one week she becomes very very sad and depressed because of her dad, i cheer her up big time and then the next day we are flirting and talking again. I go on vacation for a few days and i let her know i wont be able to text for a few days and she gets sad at that fact. when i get back she want nothing to do with me i mean nothing not even friends so we get into a big fight and the next day i tell her i'm sorry and lets talk about it like adults which we are but she tells me she is dating her best friend now. And i freak out and tell her to never talk to me again. I delete her from facebook but the next day i felt bad because she was not herself and something may be wrong and she is still the same way saying she wants nothing to do with me because she moved on. i asked why and she just tells me "i just did" i asked what caused her to be this way and she told me that her parents did and i told her i would be here and she told me she needed time alone, i wait two days and i just couldn't take the confusion and asked her if we are ever going to get a second chance (i know it was stupid) and she dose not answer so i ask her if she needs more time, she says yes, and she texts me the very next day but seems like she still doesn't care. a few days later i tell her i just want to start over with her and she tells me she wants a complete restart on her life including her ex's so she tells me not to text her anymore. i msg her on facebook a day later telling her i'm sorry for the trouble i may have caused while she was going through a bad time and that i would like for us to restart altogether, she still tells me no and at this point i just want answers and i confront her and she is telling me she is still dating her new bf, and she just wants me out of her life and i get kinda mad and her bf steps in and i talk to him (really nice guy) and we talk and i just delete her off my contacts and everything...The thing is i was planning to visit her this spring and summer(she does not really live that far away) and i don't understand why she would want to move on if what we had was really good, she told me she loved this guy for over a year now but also tells me that she did have true feelings for me so i don't know what to believe. Her relationship with him last time i checked is really really bad they get in fights A LOT and they are taking their relationship really fast. I don't know what is going on, will she come back to me? has she really moved on? I wrote down her number so i can text her however i feel i shouldn't atleast for now but does anyone have an idea what's going on?
Carenth Posted December 12, 2012 Posted December 12, 2012 She has moved on, you should too. Why would you want her back after she has just gone and run in to the arms of another man? You deserve better than that. Also please use paragraphs it makes reading a wall of text not so painful. 1
Mrlonelyone Posted December 12, 2012 Posted December 12, 2012 This happens so much with LDR's. She found someone closer to her geographically and moved on to him. Further while she was having a LDR emotional affair with you, she was harboring feelings for this other man. I know it's hard to take, but consider this a blessing. The woman sounds like way more trouble than good would've come from any relationship with her.
Author stingray115 Posted December 12, 2012 Author Posted December 12, 2012 I know she moved on i'm questioning the fact to why? If something makes you happy are you going to keep doing it? I'm slowly moving on each day I just would like to know why that's all. And sorry i'm new to this.
Author stingray115 Posted December 12, 2012 Author Posted December 12, 2012 I understand that, however this is her best friend we're talking about she could go to him whenever...but she stood by me....I guess in those few days i was gone she thought she didn't want this
Mrlonelyone Posted December 12, 2012 Posted December 12, 2012 I know she moved on i'm questioning the fact to why? If something makes you happy are you going to keep doing it? I'm slowly moving on each day I just would like to know why that's all. And sorry i'm new to this. It' as I said, the most probable reason is that this other man was physically there, within touching distance. There is something about face to face communication which is way more powerful than email or text ever can be.
Carenth Posted December 12, 2012 Posted December 12, 2012 LDR's can be very hard at times I'm in one myself, as to why that doesn't really matter you will drive yourself insane going over that in your head over and over. You just need to accept she has moved on, that is all that really matters at this point. That and looking out for yourself, picking yourself up and start doing the things you enjoy again.
Author stingray115 Posted December 12, 2012 Author Posted December 12, 2012 Yeah I know what you mean, but they get along so badly ugh...i know i need to let go it's just i feel like she never gave me a chance to meet face to face and that's what i wanted :/
Author stingray115 Posted December 12, 2012 Author Posted December 12, 2012 Thanks, i guess it was just hard accepting it because when i like someone there isn't anything i would not do for them and just seeing after a few days she moved on was very confusing towards me but i guess i understand a little more, i even went to the mall to get my mind off her and EVERYTHING reminded me of her :/
Divasu Posted December 12, 2012 Posted December 12, 2012 OP, you sound quite young... First off, she is NOT your girlfriend, she never was. Second, you never met her. Third - You were never 'dating'; dating involves in-the-flesh interaction. You'll be okay.
ascendotum Posted December 12, 2012 Posted December 12, 2012 I know she moved on i'm questioning the fact to why? If something makes you happy are you going to keep doing it? I'm slowly moving on each day I just would like to know why that's all. And sorry i'm new to this. you made her happy, but it would have been so much better for you if had been along side her to really create a proper relationship and not just be a good friend online (I dont care if you called yourself her boyfriend). This other guy was on scene, and if she has liked him for over a year then I guess something changed in the time she was talking to you, for him to become available for her, and you got dropped. Its quite possible she maybe only just met this other guy recently (but didn't want to say that), and he invited her out, and they have sex at some point, and then she bonded to him. LDR is hard unless you can regularly do trips to spend time with each other in person.
Author stingray115 Posted December 12, 2012 Author Posted December 12, 2012 That's the thing i never had the chance to see her, but i was planning to all she had to do was wait and no, i heard her current boyfriend's name pop up a few times while we were dating and he dose not exactly live close (closer than i am tho) when we dated she rarely talked to him, I think she had a crush on him and was put aside for me and when i was not there for her she went to him and fell for him again or something. I will prob never know.
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