motl1987 Posted December 12, 2012 Posted December 12, 2012 My gf and I dated for 3 years...We moved in together in august but by october I broke up with her bc of my stupid pride...I had convinced myself that I wanted a different life and it was completely my fault...for a week after we still lived together and one night while i was sleeping after a long night of drinking and doing other substances (details not important) I awoke to her screaming and crying and throwing a fit....she had gone through my wallet and found a condom which i had put there as a just in case scenario...i really had no intention of seeing anyone else or sleeping with anyone else...she kicked me out and immediately starting seeing this other guy... about a week after she kicked me out she started sleeping with guy...which she admitted was a mistake but said she wasn't going to stop doing it...we were talking for the first month of this mess and I was a complete needy, depressed dick...shes not the type that can be alone...she needs to have someone else around and I think it is to validate her actions and make her feel loved bc she can't handle those thoughts on her own....I know that sounds bad and it is but really not my concern....we had gone to dinner one night bc she said she wanted to convince herself that that spark was no longer there for me and thus could justify her relationship with him....I go to a point where I felt I had nothing to lose....ended in a fight....we kept talking and saw each other again where we hooked up but she said she wouldn't sleep with me even though she wasn't in a relationship with him bc she was sleeping with him....it crushed me....the wed. before Thanksgiving she had told me that she was going back to her hometown that night instead of staying...i wished her a safe trip and she responded that she was going to stay behind and get paperwork done so she didn't have to worry about over the holiday...I went by her apartment that night to see her leaving with hiim to go to dinner... I was furious..I know i shouldn't have been but I was so i blew her up texting her and got really upset....we haven't really talked since then and when we had she told me that she saw a chance for us before that wed. but now she was really happy with him and didn't love me anymore....which she had said before....I know it seems all stacked against me but I want her back...I love her more than I have loved anything in my life and I wanted to know what yall thought about my chances...is she in a rebound? do those last? how long will this take?...I've tried not to talk to her and we don't really cross paths in a daily basis but I don't know what I should do....I'm trying to work on me...finishing school this semester...long past due btw....quitting smoking...etc, etc....Can you really lose those feelings for someone so fast? thanks for yalls help
Quest4_TheLost Posted December 12, 2012 Posted December 12, 2012 All those questions are unanswerable. Everyone is diffrent. Sounds like she may have been looking for a reason to throw you out and start dating the new guy. All you can do at this point is continue working towards your goals. As for losing feelings that fast. She may have lost them long before leaving you. Everything else is just a wait and see game. I know this isn't what you want to hear and I'm sorry. There is no magical answer to fixing a broken relationship. Instead you may want to look at why it was broken to begin with so in the future you don't make the same mistakes.
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