nicole100 Posted December 12, 2012 Posted December 12, 2012 After dating this guy around 7 months all together....he broke up with me suddenly for what seemed no reason. We had a great relationship. After getting past all the excuses, he admitted "We got too close..." which took forever to get out of him that real reason. What does he mean? We were in love, we both admitted we loved each other sooo much then he just disappeared.
Toddbt12y1 Posted December 12, 2012 Posted December 12, 2012 Sometimes people tell you they love you when they do not. He did not love you.
Samilia Posted December 12, 2012 Posted December 12, 2012 "we got too close" for me translate into you loving him and him deciding you're not right for him. His sudden disappearance makes me believe that there is someone else, he met her, decided she was a better match. But who knows? People break up for different reasons. Problem is, most of us are cowards and can't just admit to the truth. We make up bs excuses instead of being honest. I personally pride myself for breaking up "clean" when I have to. Hasn't always been that way, I have been a coward many times. Because I have been in your shoes, and even though it's hard to do, I now try and do the right thing.
Simon Phoenix Posted December 12, 2012 Posted December 12, 2012 I can sympathize with the guy in this story, because I basically had a burn which caused my ex to break it off with me. It was a short relationship and I was getting too attached and it scared the crap out of me, so I basically just freaked out on her while drunk, and she responded by withdrawing. It doesn't sound like you are angry or freaked, so I would hang back for a bit and see if he comes back around. Sometimes emotions can be overwhelming and he might have just had a freakout. Or it could be an excuse for something else as other posters said. But yeah, its possible for a person to freak out because they were getting too close and too emotionally attached. I'm living proof unfortunately.
Pinky777 Posted December 12, 2012 Posted December 12, 2012 He really should have give you more of an explanation than that, his excuse is a cop-out. It could be any number of things, I agree that his sudden departure could mean he met someone else and he doesn't want to be tied down. Maybe he's been hurt in the past and has trouble trusting people, or maybe it wasn't love he was feeling, but infatuation, and when he realized he was getting "in too deep" he decided to just take off. I too felt like I was too close with my most recent ex, the level of intensity of my feelings for him really scared me, because I knew in the end I'd get hurt. Though he cared for me, he never said he loved me which hurt but I stuck around. This could be the case but I doubt he'd have the strength to leave you if it were. If my ex hadn't ended things I'd most likely have stayed with him until he eventually did.
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