clairehud Posted December 11, 2012 Posted December 11, 2012 I just want to know if its better to be honest with your man when its seems he is blowing you off and tell him exactly what you feel, but make it clear its not like HEY LOVE ME, LOVE ME!!! But in a way like: be honest dude or just leave me alone I won't mind whatever you say or push things! I wouldnt humiliate myself for anyone in my life unless he claimed he is crazy for me as he does, but he is acting like he is blowing me off on moments, then he gets hot! Or ignorance is a bliss?
TaraMaiden Posted December 11, 2012 Posted December 11, 2012 I don't find honesty underrated. I find it's 'criminalised' or criticised, though.... If you're honest and up-front with people, sooner or later, you're suddenly 'the bad guy'.....
pbjbear Posted December 11, 2012 Posted December 11, 2012 Claire Im gonna tell you something. Im a really honest woman. Every guy I have dated has pretty much told me I am more honest than a typical woman they date. Men might think they want honesty...most say that but dont like it when it happens. I am not mean about it or anything. I can be tactful but most men HATE confrontation and conflict and I find most men get uncomfortable with how honest I am actually.
Author clairehud Posted December 11, 2012 Author Posted December 11, 2012 I don't find honesty underrated. I find it's 'criminalised' or criticised, though.... If you're honest and up-front with people, sooner or later, you're suddenly 'the bad guy'..... Yes I know, but I think I'll take my chances because I'm doing it for myself. I was never honest with any man in m life, just this one is a bit different. I think I won't be pushy, or desparate in his eyes, because all I want is honest response. I'll tell him that and make it clear
Author clairehud Posted December 11, 2012 Author Posted December 11, 2012 Claire Im gonna tell you something. Im a really honest woman. Every guy I have dated has pretty much told me I am more honest than a typical woman they date. Men might think they want honesty...most say that but dont like it when it happens. I am not mean about it or anything. I can be tactful but most men HATE confrontation and conflict and I find most men get uncomfortable with how honest I am actually. Nice!!! Well I'll tell my guy as I've just reply before what I feel for him. First time in my life, its scary
FitChick Posted December 11, 2012 Posted December 11, 2012 People like selective honesty and that varies from person to person. As for the OP, why don't you say, "It seems we are looking for two different things. I want a close relationship (or whatever it is that you want) while you seem to prefer casual dating. Correct me if I am wrong." Let him tell you what he wants and then decide what to do.
Ami1uwant Posted December 12, 2012 Posted December 12, 2012 You need to be honest. Were I your bf and you told me the lies you told me later on, or I found out for myself that you lied about stuff you would have lost my trust.
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