The_Face Posted December 11, 2012 Posted December 11, 2012 (edited) I'll keep this brief. I have moved on from my ex and in the last two months I've been reclaiming my life, getting back to where I was emotionally and financially before I met her. I realized the year I've known her has really brought me down and I had lost myself in the process. Anyway, I like the way things are right now, for the most part anyways. I'm alot happier and less anxious, not having her around, screwing with my head and burning a hole in my wallet. The last day I saw her was somewhere around the beginning of Nov. And before that I hadn't seen her for a month. The phone calls/ texting has been super light and rarely has to do with anything heavy or emotional. Anyway... She texted me the other day, something about birthing cclasses and going together. I know the clock is ticking and it's inevitable we will have to meet again (once the baby is born, of course) but for the time being, I just don't know if that's a good idea to go to the classes together. Not so much because I think a fight would break out or anything, I just think it's not healthy for me to spend any more time with her than I absolutely need to. Part of me would really just like to read up as much as I can about what I can do to be useful in the hospital room the day of delivery and pass on the classes. It's wierd she would even want me there, anyway, after her declaration about how much I stress her out. That's a whole other bag of ****, though. I don't think I should feel bad about not attending. She pretty much booted me from the pregnancy two months ago, right before banging some guy, so... all that matters is my relationship with my son and being a great father figure to him. I don't think this has anything to do with my obligations as a father. Anyone agree? Edited December 11, 2012 by The_Face
TaraMaiden Posted December 11, 2012 Posted December 11, 2012 Yes. Your responsibility is to the welfare and well-being of your child. You have no moral or emotional obligation to her whatsoever. Reading up on pregnancy and childbirth though, is a good idea anyway... presumably perhaps, at some future point, it may be on the cards for you and someone else.... Forewarned is forearmed....
GlendiexElsewhere Posted December 16, 2012 Posted December 16, 2012 I agree with you ... You shouldn't go if you don't want to ... that's a bonding experience in my perspective, and you have a legit reason for not wanting to go. Its not fair to you to be put in that situation. Plus you really can't do much in that room but you should read up on it. It depends if she's doing a natural birth or getting the shot ... But your responsibility is to your child not to her since she made it that way. Good Luck & Congrats on the Baby
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