LDR space sometimes bad?

[LDRuser]

My SO wants space, but everytime I give her space she dwells on how horrible our LDR situation is begins to doubt us more and more. Even thou she needs space sometimes I think I still need to send a how are you or something to just keep her from destroying herself mentally, because lately things are looking towards breakup

[meeji]

You girlfriend sounds like me. The distance started to really bother me too. I requested space from my boyfriend. We went a few days without talking at all..maybe 5 and now we're back to our normal schedule. Well kind of. I asked if we could talk less on a regular basis. We went from talking 2 hours every day to 2 hours every other day. I dont know how long you have been with her but I think your hunch was right. I think you should keep contact with her, even if it is only a message once in a while. If your gf is anything like me, she's getting tired of not being able to be with you and her method of coping with that is to separate herself from you and focus on other things so she can get over feeling how she does about the distance.

 

If she isn't anything like me, my guess would be she is confused about her feelings and she wants time to sort them out. If she is asking for space give it to her but at the same time, let her know that you are waiting for her and that you care for her. Good Luck! I hope that things improve for you guys.

[DTtoTN]

she says that she has had time to think and that she doesnt love me anymore but other days she wants to try to make it work. right now she needs space but im afraid she ll just become more distant even thou she gets annoyed when I bug her

[meeji]

oh, well then that's a different story. Of course us women feel a little more sensitive some days more than others. We can change over night, basically. If she said she doesn't love you anymore, regardless of her actions you should pay attention to that. It is probably true and those are her true feelings but sometimes we get swept up in emotions, memories, ect. She might be afraid of being alone, she could just really miss what you guys had even though she isn't in love anymore. there could be a number of reasons for her to suddenly change her mind. If she's having a moment and she wants to work out she's probably motivated by something that isn't love and that decision will probably also change.

 

I feel bad for you but do what you can to let her know you think it is still worth. Don't bug her but let her know exactly how you feel and then let her decide how to respond. Unfortuantely, all you can do is wait.