thunderous91 Posted December 11, 2012 Posted December 11, 2012 What's your #1 Deal Breaker in a really great relationship with your significant other. And if that Deal breaker happened to you, did you end the relationship for good, give them a second, third chance or what ? If you got back together, how long did it take and who initiated it ? Thx
thoughtyouweretheone Posted December 16, 2012 Posted December 16, 2012 (edited) I thought I had an amazing relationship. He said all the right things, made me feel like he was in it for the long term. Rambled about how breaks are pointless and agreed that if you feel the need to cheat you should break up. Well, a year and a half in we were having communication problems and he went distant for 2 weeks. We came back together and he said if we dont fix things we need to break up. so we worked on us and things were great for the next 2 months. Then out of the blue he says hes moving away. I came to terms with this for a while, but then he was acting weird because a mutual friend was going to "tell on him". I pushed it out of him that those 2 weeks we were distant, he went out for lunch twice and texted this 18 year old girl for those 2 weeks. I was devastated and completely betrayed. I dumped him. I was later willing to forgive him because he didn't sleep with her. And I know this for sure. If he did, It would of been my deal breaker. So I tried to convince him to stay and ill forgive him. He did. We were great for another 3 months, he put a lot of effort in!! But my feelings changed. I didn't trust him at ALLL. I went crazy trying to keep tabs on him. I questioned everything he did. It wasn't healthy. SO we recently broke up again for the second time. I thought my deal breaker was physical cheating. But any form of betrayal that compromises trust is relationship murder!! It's just never the same. Edited December 16, 2012 by thoughtyouweretheone 1
source24 Posted December 16, 2012 Posted December 16, 2012 Not a lady, but personally I feel like the biggest deal breaker for any relationship, from anyone's perspective comes down to Trust and Communication. You have to be able to trust someone to fully give yourself to them, you have to be sure they won't hurt you, and you have to communicate your feeling properly. Without that basic structure to support a relationship, you can't grow and evolve as a couple. Once those things are lost, it is hard to keep one going. And sometimes, when that aspect is lost, it is best to move on, no matter how much it hurts.
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