ladyhawk553594 Posted December 11, 2012 Posted December 11, 2012 Here's some back story (sorry it's so long): My boyfriend of 9 months broke up with me about 2 months ago because he was having trouble acclimating as a freshmen in college and handling a long distance relationship. Right after he broke up with me, I told him that I thought it'd be best if we didn't talk for at least a month. Even though he agreed, I heard from him about every 4 days during that time. Admittingly, it gave me hope and so I didn't tell him to stop. But after this went on for a few weeks, I literally couldn't take the emotional going back and forth anymore. I called him, asking him what was going on and we decided that we would talk about it when I got back home the following week. After talking for 5 emotional hours a couple of weeks ago (he even canceled plans with his friends from high school to keep talking), we decided that we should give each other space until one or both of us feels like we could attempt being just friends. The entire talk was filled with him complimenting me, touching my leg or arms, and him crying if I just looked at him a certain way. He even kissed me as we were saying goodbye and as I pulled away he literally balled in my arms for five minutes. Things ended on close to excellent terms and he said that he hoped we could get back together sometime in the future, but we decided it'd be best for both of us if we didn't simply "wait for each other" or whatever. Fast forward to today, about 2 weeks of us not being in contact. Knowing that he gets extremely stressed out with his grades, especially because his full-ride scholarship depends on it, I texted him wishing him good luck on finals this week. He said thanks and that hearing from me had made his day. I've heard from a mutual friend that he's not having an easy time with us not talking, but I'm not sure how much I should read into this...I'm pretty sure I'll hear from him on Christmas but I have no idea what's going on in his mind. When we talked the last time I was home, he mentioned that he wanted to see me at least once over Christmas break, but I didn't really give him a response at the time. Of course I still love the guy with all my heart and hope that something can work out eventually, but I'm so scared of how to handle all this. If he were to bring up hanging out while I'm home, of course I would want to but I feel like it might make things harder for me at least in the long run, especially if we don't talk about us or anything.
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