Sun Devil Posted December 11, 2012 Posted December 11, 2012 I am tired of not being able to attract women. I want to know how to get out of being an inception without relying on hookers. I am improving myself, but I could use help Any suggestions?
Author Sun Devil Posted December 11, 2012 Author Posted December 11, 2012 I refer to the ability to attract women for a relationship or for a one night stand. Hookers are only a temporary solution. Those casual encounter sights have a lot of fake profiles. Many are scams.
clia Posted December 11, 2012 Posted December 11, 2012 I feel like this is the movie Groundhog Day. You post the same types of threads over and over again. You've gotten a ton of great advice in the past, yet you don't seem to do anything with it. Instead, you just keep posting the same questions. 1) Broaden your social circle. You are in college. Join groups girls are part of. Join a study group. Join a fraternity. Go to fraternity parties. Go to bars if you are 21. Study at the union or coffee shops. Just get out there. If you aren't able to meet girls in college, there is something seriously wrong with you. There is no other point in your life where you will be literally surrounded by people who are your age and are nearly all looking for relationships. 2) Work on your confidence and personality. From your postings, you sound miserable, and as if you do nothing but dwell on your height and lack of a girlfriend. If this is what you exude in person, it's no wonder you keep getting rejected by women. Consider taking an improv or acting class to develop your confidence and sense of humor. Find some outside interests. Find some hobbies. Find something else to worry about other than why you don't have a girlfriend. Maybe in the process you will meet a girl who has the same hobbies or interests. 3) Consider what types of girls you are going for. I'm not going to lie -- your height gives you a huge disadvantage. You may need to consider lowering your standards. 2
Author Sun Devil Posted December 11, 2012 Author Posted December 11, 2012 I am doing the first two. I talk to a new girl every day. I also am joining clubs, but I get more guys. I cant lower my standards because they are not that high. All I ask is average or better.
normal person Posted December 11, 2012 Posted December 11, 2012 I am doing the first two. I talk to a new girl every day. I also am joining clubs, but I get more guys. I cant lower my standards because they are not that high. All I ask is average or better. Certainly a reasonable request if you think you yourself are "average or better" in the eyes of women. Are you? I'm not trying to be a jerk, I'm just trying to figure out what your issue is. Other than that, your question is pretty vague. You need to be more specific if you want help.
Author Sun Devil Posted December 11, 2012 Author Posted December 11, 2012 I have been called cute. I hope to develop an above average personality to get a better girl. Hopefully, my personality will get girls to overlook my height
normal person Posted December 11, 2012 Posted December 11, 2012 (edited) I have been called cute. I hope to develop an above average personality to get a better girl. Hopefully, my personality will get girls to overlook my height I just came across a post of yours in another thread: Since women low to you, then you should learn how to manipulate them. Read pua and don't be the nice guy to them. They don't deserve any respect and you should not hesitate to use them for sex. From what I can gather, developing an "above average personality" seems like a pretty lofty aspiration for you if this is how you act normally. Edited December 11, 2012 by normal person 3
Author Sun Devil Posted December 11, 2012 Author Posted December 11, 2012 This is not how I act in person. These are just my thoughts
ThaWholigan Posted December 11, 2012 Posted December 11, 2012 This is not how I act in person. These are just my thoughts Well you need to think differently..... 1
normal person Posted December 11, 2012 Posted December 11, 2012 Even if you only think that privately, it's still pretty messed up. It will still influence and affect the way you act whether you're conscious of it or not. If you want a cure for your involuntary celibacy, you need a makeover of the mind. I'm actually quite relieved there have been no women who've fallen for you and this attitude, I'd only feel bad for them. 2
ThaWholigan Posted December 11, 2012 Posted December 11, 2012 The best cures of involuntary celibacy is to stop being a whiny pussy. You can get fit, yeah. Accept your limitations. Learn to dress, and all the other sh*t that I normally post about when I am trying to help all you guys who don't listen to me despite the fact that my advice works and has worked for most guys of all kinds because I've observed it and now have lived it. But the most important thing is to stop being a pussy. Stop thinking so negatively ALL THE TIME if it DOES NOT BENEFIT YOU!!!!! If it makes you more miserable then STOP!!!! 1
Author Sun Devil Posted December 11, 2012 Author Posted December 11, 2012 I am trying to do that but it is difficult, especially when other guys in my situation remain single for most of their lives. How can I change that?
fortyninethousand322 Posted December 11, 2012 Posted December 11, 2012 Well wouldn't the cure be sex? That's only one cure. OP says he's "involuntarily celibate". Another cure could be to become "voluntarily celibate". Change in the state of mind is all it takes...
Author Sun Devil Posted December 11, 2012 Author Posted December 11, 2012 Celibacy is something I refuse to accept.
Drseussgrrl Posted December 11, 2012 Posted December 11, 2012 Learn to play guitar. Girls seriously love that sh*t. 1
ThaWholigan Posted December 11, 2012 Posted December 11, 2012 I am trying to do that but it is difficult, especially when other guys in my situation remain single for most of their lives. How can I change that? By persevering. Stop taking it so seriously and just keep doing it until some girl decides to f*ck you. It will happen. Stop forcing it and stop moaning.
Author Sun Devil Posted December 11, 2012 Author Posted December 11, 2012 Thawholigan, your advices are good, but until you lived life as a short guy, you do not know what it is like for me. Have you ever been called undateable?
ThaWholigan Posted December 11, 2012 Posted December 11, 2012 Learn to play guitar. Girls seriously love that sh*t. There was a poster who was regular here (bless him), he was a guitarist for years and it didn't help him. He hated when people suggested instruments because it never worked for him. FYI, I'm a pianist .
Author Sun Devil Posted December 11, 2012 Author Posted December 11, 2012 I am not good with music. I am a math and science guy, which is why I am an engineer
ThaWholigan Posted December 11, 2012 Posted December 11, 2012 Thawholigan, your advices are good, but until you lived life as a short guy, you do not know what it is like for me. Have you ever been called undateable? You little bitch . Drawing for the "you don't know what it's like as a short guy" card. FYI, I know a guy not much taller than you who is engaged right now. He's probably f*cking his missus as we speak. That could be you. If you weren't constantly moaning and trying so hard to force your way into a sex life. Stop making it a big deal and do it. I've been called undateable before by quite a few girls, yes. It hasn't been all roses for me just because I'm tall.
Author Sun Devil Posted December 11, 2012 Author Posted December 11, 2012 Did he always get girls or did it happen at an older age?
Carenth Posted December 11, 2012 Posted December 11, 2012 Is there a broken record playing? I think I hear a broken record some where? Honestly how many of these exact same threads are you going to make, it's getting to the point it's a becoming a bit ridiculous. People have given you a stupid amount of great advice and you seem to dismiss it and make a new thread looking for magic cure, sorry to say it doesn't exist. As long as you are having a self pitty party you will naturally push people away. I speak from experience you already know this because I have posted many times in your threads but it seems like talking to brick wall now.
ThaWholigan Posted December 11, 2012 Posted December 11, 2012 Did he always get girls or did it happen at an older age? He is the same age as me (24), and he did always get girls. The reason is because he is comfortable around them.
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