thunderous91 Posted December 11, 2012 Posted December 11, 2012 My gf ended a beautiful relationship 31 days ago because she went thru my phone history and found I looked at an X rated website. Made the comment she can't compete w/those types and that looking at it diminishes the guys intimacy and tends to let their mind stray. Second time I did it in 2 years. I'm in no way an addict. So 18 days ago was ojr last contact where I had apologized in a written letter and she texted me asking when I put it in her mail box, which was 4 days before she found it. She told me Thank you, and I replied "Always". The letter read that she means everything to me, and that. I want to work this out. I truly mean it, but I believe she lost all trust in me. I'm devastated and went NC on 11/27. I feel like its really over. Im trying to accept it and move on, but its so hard. Does anyone believe I have any hope ?
mlpony Posted December 11, 2012 Posted December 11, 2012 Oh you poor thing. Wow, you only did it twice. In my opinion she is really being silly. All guys look at that stuff and she needs to get over it. On the other hand, I remember a long time ago in my marriage, when I caught my husband looking at porn. And to make it worse they were all Asian girls! I'm not asian so I felt doubly rejected. So I cried for like three days and followed him around acting clingy. Then, somehow, I got it all out of my system, and the experience brought us closer together and I got over my hangup about porn. If you can get her to talk, just explain to her that you just look at those pictures but nothing can replace her. I wish you luck!! 2
itsmyfault Posted December 11, 2012 Posted December 11, 2012 I don't think this is a problem with you, It's her. She has seemingly quite large insecurities about how she looks. Tbh, 90% of P*'s are not amazing looking. I mean who watches it too look at faces? It is a fairly large part of daily life in this world now, It's a multi Billion Dollar industry. You have done nothing wrong, If anything im shocked you have only watched it twice.. 2
Chi townD Posted December 11, 2012 Posted December 11, 2012 (edited) Yeah, it's her hang up. If the only thing you did was look at images on a screen. Well, I could think of a dozen worse things you could have done that's worth getting dump for. Sorry....but, if she wants to leave for something that trivial, then it's her loss. If what's she's looking for is a guy that's never going to look at porn or a picture of a naked girl. They're out there.....but, they're all blind. Edited December 11, 2012 by Chi townD 2
NavyAirTraffic Posted December 11, 2012 Posted December 11, 2012 If what's she's looking for is a guy that's never going to look at porn or a picture of a naked girl. They're out there.....but, they're all blind. Love it!! and true. Also, if she left you just for looking at porn she's immature or never really cared about you. Or she just used that as an excuse to leave for other reasons. 2
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