Who says 22-year-old girls aren't attracted to guys in their late 30s?

[Drseussgrrl]

I was on my own, had finished an enlistment in the military and putting myself through college.

 

Still didn't have anything in common with someone in their late 30's.

[Nightsky]

Disagree.

 

I'm much more attracted to men in their late 20's/early 30's than dudes in their late 30's. And I'm 33.

 

Why don't you put your money where your mouth is and show me a good time!

 

22 year old girls, especially cute ones, are addicted to their smart phones,

 

Plenty aren't and I've seen quite a few 33 year old and up women addicted to chic crack.

 

Twilight' date=' facebooking and binge drinking.[/quote']

 

Again plenty of older chicks like this and plenty of younger chicks who are not.

 

Good chance her parents might still pay her rent. Never had a relationship more than a year or so' date=' which consisted of prom and keg parties. [/quote']

 

Why would care if a girl even lives at home. I like a girl with less relationship experience. Can we make her a virgin lol.

 

I just have to wonder what she could possibly have in common with a late-30's man.

 

The only thing I have in common with you is that I think you're hot and the way you live your life is cute and complimentary to me. What more do you want?

 

Never worked out for me. Of course no situation has ever worked out for me, so maybe there's not much to go on...

 

I could teach you. Make a thread and call it the "Doing what the Night Sky tells me" thread. I will come and tell you things to do. If you do them a girl you will get, hot... really hot 22 if you want.

[Woggle]

Also this sounds shallow but for many guys it is just the thrill of getting a date with a hot girl and they don't care how much they have in common with them. Both genders can be like this sometimes but for a single guy it just feels good for a how woman to take interest in you.

[Drseussgrrl]

Also this sounds shallow but for many guys it is just the thrill of getting a date with a hot girl and they don't care how much they have in common with them. Both genders can be like this sometimes but for a single guy it just feels good for a how woman to take interest in you.

 

I'll agree with this.

[Illusionist]

Who says 22-year-old girls aren't attracted to guys in their late 30s?

 

I never heard somebody say that. Actually, I see more couples like that, than I see couples who are both in the early 20s, lately.

[Imajerk17]

FWIW, I don't usually go after 22-year-olds. I tend to date women much closer in age to me. This situation with this girl will probably be one date.

 

My point is that you should feel free to go after whom you are attracted to.

[pbjbear]

Im in my mid 20's and I do not find men at least 10 years older than me to be attractive. Ive tried to date guys that much older but I usually find they are just into my body and nothing else...huge turn off.

 

However, you dont seem to have much depth to you as a person and there are some incredibly vapid girls in their 20's (im surrounded by quite a few) so Im sure youll find one someday.

Edited December 11, 2012 by a LoveShack.org Moderator

[pbjbear]

Well, I just hope you represent yourself honestly to the guys you are meeting online. That is all I care to say...[/QUOTE]

 

The reason I no longer do online dating is every single guy I went on more than 3 dates with online grossly misrepresented themselves. So its not just women.

 

I find within the first 5 dates all jerks put on a "Im a nice guy" facade and like they dont see you as a sex object....I was always wrong...

 

This is why I dont put out early anymore and make a guy wait it out. Men cannot be trusted (ones Ive met offline do this too)

[Nightsky]

FWIW, I don't usually go after 22-year-olds. I tend to date women much closer in age to me. This situation with this girl will probably be one date.

 

My point is that you should feel free to go after whom you are attracted to.

 

Why would it probably only be one date? Who cares if she's 22.

[xxoo]

FWIW, I don't usually go after 22-year-olds. I tend to date women much closer in age to me. This situation with this girl will probably be one date.

 

My point is that you should feel free to go after whom you are attracted to.

 

You were out, we attracted, make a connection, and went for it.

 

Good for you! I love a guy who is attracted to women, not women of a certain age.

[tman666]

I'm not sure why anyone would be up in arms about this. It's not like he tricked her into getting into the back of his white, windowless van.

 

As far as the potential maturity gap due to their ages, who's to say that she's not just looking for a little bit of fun as well? The vast majority of 22 year old girls I know/knew aren't looking for husbands, let alone committed relationships.

 

Color me confused.

[kaylan]

Whats with the older guys on this forum? I notice many are always trying to prove to everyone how attractive and desirable they feel they are, while at the same time many are trying to put down women their own age.

 

Exceptions dont make the rules..young people primarily date young people. Itd be nice if all of you, older men and older women, stopped putting us younger folks on a pedestal and stopped putting one another down too.

 

Its kinda creepy how obsessed with youth some of you are, and its lame how your validation comes from how desirable you think you are to young people.

 

*smh*

 

In summary, stop with this insecure and rather pathetic age obsessed nonsense, and just live life.

[xxoo]

You were out, we attracted, make a connection, and went for it.[/i]

 

*were attracted, made a connection

 

I swear I'm not drunk, lol

 

In summary, stop with this insecure and rather pathetic age obsessed nonsense, and just live life.

 

Sounds like what he's doing!

[Nightsky]

I'm not sure why anyone would be up in arms about this. It's not like he tricked her into getting into the back of his white, windowless van.

 

As far as the potential maturity gap due to their ages, who's to say that she's not just looking for a little bit of fun as well? The vast majority of 22 year old girls I know/knew aren't looking for husbands, let alone committed relationships.

 

Color me confused.

 

I'm in my late 20's and this is how I pick up teenaged girls at the beach. I ask them for help looking for my lost puppy and they get in my white windowless van. Works every time.

[veggirl]

Also this sounds shallow but for many guys it is just the thrill of getting a date with a hot girl and they don't care how much they have in common with them. Both genders can be like this sometimes but for a single guy it just feels good for a how woman to take interest in you.

 

It also helps that guys think any girl who is not fat and has a cute face and wears her make up properly / knows how to dress is hot

[veggirl]

Also um congrats OP.., I am curious if you had found out she was your own age but just looked young if you'd still be interested. Im sure we wouldn't have gotten this thread, cause prob old ladies just drop their pants at any glimmer of attention but just curious if its about the actual age or does the illusion of youth get you hard too

[Imajerk17]

You were out, we attracted, make a connection, and went for it.

 

Good for you! I love a guy who is attracted to women, not women of a certain age.

 

Right on xxoo. That's pretty much it in a nutshell.

 

I think the naysayers are reading too much into things here. My point is to just go for it. If I had known the 48-year-old woman from this past summer was 48 before I had approached her I might have actually backed out, and I would have missed out. The way I see it, same in this situation.

 

I'm not in a rush to get into a relationship, and meanwhile, I am looking to date women who are attractive, mature, non-flaky, and responsible. Those are the top items on my list, and I figure age will more or less take care of itself. I think I'm a decent judge in that *most* of the women I have communicated with (from online and in real life) in the past few months have been this way (and the one or two who were not showed their true colors soon enough). And from what this girl has told me, she seems to be the same way herself.

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veggirl: I'm TERRIBLE at guessing age. I had no idea if she was 22 or 28. Every guy likes to feel like Da Man (myself included) and likes to brag about how he makes things happen. But for actual dating, I would have actually preferred she were closer in age to me. The past couple women I have been with have been within 5 years of age to me.

Edited December 11, 2012 by Imajerk17

[TheBigQuestion]

Whats with the older guys on this forum? I notice many are always trying to prove to everyone how attractive and desirable they feel they are, while at the same time many are trying to put down women their own age.

 

Exceptions dont make the rules..young people primarily date young people. Itd be nice if all of you, older men and older women, stopped putting us younger folks on a pedestal and stopped putting one another down too.

 

Its kinda creepy how obsessed with youth some of you are, and its lame how your validation comes from how desirable you think you are to young people.

 

*smh*

 

In summary, stop with this insecure and rather pathetic age obsessed nonsense, and just live life.

 

While there are certain guys who post here who put down older women, the OP isn't one of them.

 

Furthermore, neither OP nor anyone else in this thread said that a 22 year old dating a man in his late 30s is the norm. But a lot of people on LS seem to think that it's something virtually unheard of outside of celebrity life, which also is inaccurate. OP was simply describing a recent experience that many LS-ers think is exceedingly rare. If so many people on LS DIDN'T find the idea of a man in his late 30s going out with a woman in her early 20s distasteful (based on completely arbitrary preferences and age-gap cutoffs rooted in each person's individual morality rather than empirical fact), this thread probably wouldn't exist.

 

I think people who shriek and rant that older men who date younger women are "predators" who prey on these poor, helpless young victims are the ones who are truly fixated on age. Most men think a hot woman is a hot woman and just go from there.

[Drseussgrrl]

"I think the naysayers are reading too much into things here."

 

Sorry, I guess it's the title of this thread about a 22-year old at the grocery store in hot yoga pants that has everyone wrongly assuming that this has anything to do with age.

[veggirl]

I don't find it distasteful necessarily, I mean whatever people can like what they want I guess. I think it's weird when some of the guys on here ONLY want girls that are practically young enough to be their daughters but I recognize they aren't "average" and probably can't get that on the regular anyway (except obvs Shaundro who bangs every hot girl on her 18th birthday, its like a rite of passage right?).

 

I don't think MOST 22 yr olds are interested in a late 30s guy, I wasn't one and I never knew any of my friends who were, but obviously there are some somewhere....hell some of the women on here who complain about older guys and younger girls WERE that 22 yr old at some point.

[xxoo]

I don't find it distasteful necessarily, I mean whatever people can like what they want I guess. I think it's weird when some of the guys on here ONLY want girls that are practically young enough to be their daughters but I recognize they aren't "average" and probably can't get that on the regular anyway (except obvs Shaundro who bangs every hot girl on her 18th birthday, its like a rite of passage right?).

 

I agree that is distasteful.

 

But Imajerk isn't one of those guys. His thread title may confuse him with them, though. The point is that, for both men and women with good intentions, love and attraction can come in unexpected forms (including older or younger), and it is ok to be open to that.

 

I don't think MOST 22 yr olds are interested in a late 30s guy, I wasn't one and I never knew any of my friends who were, but obviously there are some somewhere....hell some of the women on here who complain about older guys and younger girls WERE that 22 yr old at some point.

 

That would be ironic, if the women complaining now were the same women dating older guys when they were younger

[TheBigQuestion]

I don't find it distasteful necessarily, I mean whatever people can like what they want I guess. I think it's weird when some of the guys on here ONLY want girls that are practically young enough to be their daughters but I recognize they aren't "average" and probably can't get that on the regular anyway (except obvs Shaundro who bangs every hot girl on her 18th birthday, its like a rite of passage right?).

 

I don't think MOST 22 yr olds are interested in a late 30s guy, I wasn't one and I never knew any of my friends who were, but obviously there are some somewhere....hell some of the women on here who complain about older guys and younger girls WERE that 22 yr old at some point.

 

I'm not really sure what guys you're talking about. Most of the guys here who talk about only desiring women under age 25 are usually in their late 20s to mid 30s and their presence is purposely inflammatory (and may even be fairly characterized as t-words).

[Imajerk17]

Again:

 

Yes, I approach a woman based on physical attraction, as that is all I have to go by. Yes, I am shallow that way. Yes this woman has that.

 

I decide to go for their number if they *seem to* have their act together.

 

THAT is what I am encouraging guys to do. I would have written this thread if she were 48 ("don't discount older women fellas!") just as I did with the girl being 22 ("you might still connect and she might still like you!").

 

I WOULD HAVE asked for her number if she was 28, 32, 42...

 

JUST AS I salute the women on here in their 40s who have found happiness with guys in their 20s. (Yes they mentioned the age difference too.)

 

Especially because of the threads on here from guys wondering if they are too short, too old....

[Nightsky]

I asked you some questions about what the phallic joke made was? Did you ever answer?

[TheBigQuestion]

I agree that is distasteful.

 

But Imajerk isn't one of those guys. His thread title may confuse him with them, though. The point is that, for both men and women with good intentions, love and attraction can come in unexpected forms (including older or younger), and it is ok to be open to that.

 

 

I agree, but there are those posters here who will insist that what OP is doing is wrong, predatory, etc., simply by virtue of the age difference and spite of all other factors. These folks do not differentiate between OP and the guys here who talk a good game just to piss them off.