Thinking of divorce

[joeno8830]

I am 35 and married for one year. I have what seem like unfixable issues with my wife and I want to seek advice from those who have more experience than me. Let me first for thank you for your advice.

 

I love my wife. I would take a bullet for her but she is really negative and has a scorch earth policy. For instance, we are searching for a house. My dad gave us some advice on which house to buy, which didn't agree with my wife. I defended my wife's opinion and got into an argument with my dad. I didn't want to leave things unsettled with my dad so I called him the last night to listen to him. He is worried about us and just reiterated his points. My wife thought the phone call was too long and got really mad that my dad is intruding on our lives. She slept on the coach and made an appointment with a real estate broker today to find an apartment to move out to.

 

This is not a joke. My wife is that unreasonable. I tried all my patience but it is really hard. This is not the first time she has blown up this month. She has moved out of our apartment to live with her sister several times, which I think is extreme but our apt is small so maybe she needs space.

 

I love my wife and when she is good, she is really good. I love her and want to work things out but I have no idea how. I sat down many times to talk to her but I am exhausted afterwards and I don't know how much more I can do.

 

Thanks for you advice.

 

Best,

Joe

[pink_sugar]

I can relate to your situation and I've been married almost 5 years. Good thing you are seeing this now rather than later. My dad and I have had an off relationship since I've been married and my husband doesn't care for him. My dad wasn't the best father by any means, but I think he had good intentions and I'm seeing that now. Our relationship is primarily why my dad and I haven't gotten along...but my dad is right in some aspects. I did marry too young against his advice and as a result, made some pretty poor decisions...got into a ton of debt since I cannot rely on my husband financially. I probably shouldn't have blamed it all on my dad and constantly be on the defense protecting my husband. If you feel your wife is being unreasonable and is coming between your relationship with your dad because you are siding with her, seek counseling immediately. It will only get worse.

[wheream_i]

I am 35 and married for one year. I have what seem like unfixable issues with my wife and I want to seek advice from those who have more experience than me. Let me first for thank you for your advice.

 

I love my wife. I would take a bullet for her but she is really negative and has a scorch earth policy. For instance, we are searching for a house. My dad gave us some advice on which house to buy, which didn't agree with my wife. I defended my wife's opinion and got into an argument with my dad. I didn't want to leave things unsettled with my dad so I called him the last night to listen to him. He is worried about us and just reiterated his points. My wife thought the phone call was too long and got really mad that my dad is intruding on our lives. She slept on the coach and made an appointment with a real estate broker today to find an apartment to move out to.

 

This is not a joke. My wife is that unreasonable. I tried all my patience but it is really hard. This is not the first time she has blown up this month. She has moved out of our apartment to live with her sister several times, which I think is extreme but our apt is small so maybe she needs space.

 

I love my wife and when she is good, she is really good. I love her and want to work things out but I have no idea how. I sat down many times to talk to her but I am exhausted afterwards and I don't know how much more I can do.

 

Thanks for you advice.

 

Best,

Joe

 

So, being as unreasonable as she is, did she just start being this way the moment you put a ring on her finger or was she always like that and you chose to overlook it?