Ashley79 Posted December 11, 2012 Posted December 11, 2012 Long story and if you can read my other posts you will know I'm in a very difficult situation. Summary: Ex was with someone 10 years ago. Didn't work out he was not ready to settle down. Now she had a few relationships met me. We were together for 2 and half years and had an amazing son. We didn't last too much longer for a number of reasons, money, family but never because I didn't love her. I was frustrated with me more than anyone I moved out for 18 months dated as she did but nothing serious. So we spent a lot of time together in that 18 months and were in contact lots in the day so was nice for us both I think. Well feb 2012 I invite her too the football and she comes I think we are getting back to where we were. In the march she tells me she is seeing her ex from 10 years ago. When I work out who it is I am livid as he is a drunk and total mess to even be near her or my son. I tell her I want us to work. It took me till the June to convince her and fully get back with her. She ended it with him so she said. I now know that could not have been the case. So we lasted about 3 months but again it was just uncomfortable. I was living out of a bag and on the floor some nights. It was easy for me to come back to my own place so distance grew between us. We stayed in contact and I would text her saying I love u very much and just don't know why it gets to this stage. No violence no arguments just frustrations of life I guess. So took her Spain and my son in end of sept. we brok 2nd sept her birthday is the 4th. Spain was good and she wanted something to happen and it did but I didn't force it after that so nothing came of it. I didn't want to be too forceful. Anyway on the plane ba k she said when we land things will be different between us and won't be chatting as much unless about our son. I thought this was a weird statement but dismissed it really. Turns out she was still in contact with this guy before we split he sent her bday card which she thank him for on text, her best friend (sister of this guy) says don't break his heart 2 days after we land. I feel betrayed and lied too. I later see pics of her and him together and I go in to a rage. I tell her I wanted her back and I was planning to propose at Xmas with my son and her family there I had asked them to come for Xmas so she knew how I felt and also new how I felt about this guy. So for the last 8 weeks I have been trying to win her back and failed failed failed!,!! I have 2 issues here one I don't want this guy around my son. I no she already has even though I asked her not too. The other is I love her and can't let her be with this guy or anyone. I need to know was I the rebound for who she was meant to be with and was it a 4 year lie or is he the rebound and the one she will always go back to as she has 3 times now. I ask for a chance she says no it's over she has drawn a line under us but yet he gets another chance. She is the type that can't be on her own so didn't even fully close one relationship before opening this one again. So are me and her fully over no matter what I do and even with a child with her or is there hope and if so what do I do...please I'm going mental and need some really good advice.
trevjim Posted January 2, 2013 Posted January 2, 2013 Im in a similar situation to you mate, we where togeather two and half years, after we split, immediatly she got with an ex of 5 years ago, was i rebound or is he lol
Eddie Edirol Posted January 2, 2013 Posted January 2, 2013 Sounds like you were the rebound. If she wants to be around him even if you ask her not to, theres nothing you can do. So leave her be and move on. Its very immature of you to say "I dont want her to be with anyone." There nothing you can do, she drew the line, and will not look for you as long as you are pining for her. He is the opne she wants to be with, and you blew it for yourself, or she never gave you a chance. No matter what, she is gone and there is no hope. 1
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