Svet74 Posted December 11, 2012 Posted December 11, 2012 Dated a guy for 2 months, things were moving fast but not too fast. He introduced me to his parents and it was suppose to be a casual thing, well they took me a little too serious and he said that they loved me. They asked him if he can see a future with me, meaning marriage. And he said No, that at this point he cant see it happening. I asked him if he was 100% sure and he said you can never be sure so no. But asked for us to stay friends. I asked for him to not make any contact with me while he is away back to his home country and think about this. Did he break up with me out of just freaking out? is there any chance of him coming back?
Treasa Posted December 11, 2012 Posted December 11, 2012 Dude seems like he's really under pressure. Two months and his parents want to know if you're the one? Dafuq? Give this guy some space and then see what happens. But by all means, don't wait around for him. Go ahead and date and have fun with your life.
flitzanu Posted December 11, 2012 Posted December 11, 2012 Dated a guy for 2 months, things were moving fast but not too fast. He introduced me to his parents and it was suppose to be a casual thing, well they took me a little too serious and he said that they loved me. They asked him if he can see a future with me, meaning marriage. And he said No, that at this point he cant see it happening. I asked him if he was 100% sure and he said you can never be sure so no. But asked for us to stay friends. I asked for him to not make any contact with me while he is away back to his home country and think about this. Did he break up with me out of just freaking out? is there any chance of him coming back? yes he broke up with you.
Author Svet74 Posted December 11, 2012 Author Posted December 11, 2012 Yes I know he broke up with me! That's not what I was asking
flitzanu Posted December 11, 2012 Posted December 11, 2012 Did he break up with me out of just freaking out? is there any chance of him coming back? no he broke up with you because he doesn't want to date you. yes, there's a chance of him coming back, but likely just to sleep with you. there's also a chance of me winning the lottery. what do you need him to say, he said flat out he couldn't see himself marrying you. that means "i don't see myself committing to you and marrying you".
Author Svet74 Posted December 12, 2012 Author Posted December 12, 2012 He wouldn't be coming back to sleep with me because I didn't sleep with him in the first place. He also never said he loved me yet. We were still in the dating/getting to know each other stage
Samilia Posted December 12, 2012 Posted December 12, 2012 Dated a guy for 2 months, things were moving fast but not too fast. He introduced me to his parents and it was suppose to be a casual thing, well they took me a little too serious and he said that they loved me. They asked him if he can see a future with me, meaning marriage. And he said No, that at this point he cant see it happening. I asked him if he was 100% sure and he said you can never be sure so no. But asked for us to stay friends. I asked for him to not make any contact with me while he is away back to his home country and think about this. Did he break up with me out of just freaking out? is there any chance of him coming back? Personally, no, I don't think he will be back. Am I a fortune teller and do I see the future? No. However, going by what you're telling us, he's stringing you along, giving you an answer because you're asking for one. The whole "let's stay friends" is a classic, it means it's over.
Author Svet74 Posted December 12, 2012 Author Posted December 12, 2012 Personally if I was asked the same thing by my parents I would say the same thing. U can't see a future with someone even if your not in love with them yet. Either way he pursued me the whole time not the other way around and it's his loss. But the relationship just seemed perfect.
Tiera D Posted December 12, 2012 Posted December 12, 2012 Bail out now! b4 things get anymore serious ,2 months plus was suppose to be a "Honeymoon phase" bad things happen during this period,even there is a relationship probably wont last long TD
flitzanu Posted December 12, 2012 Posted December 12, 2012 Personally if I was asked the same thing by my parents I would say the same thing. U can't see a future with someone even if your not in love with them yet. Either way he pursued me the whole time not the other way around and it's his loss. But the relationship just seemed perfect. i can agree it's awkward for parents to ask something like that, and maybe you don't fully KNOW right then, but he said "no". he didn't smile coyly and say I DUNNNOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO!!!!!!!!! he didn't give it a chance, or a possibility, he just said no.
Author Svet74 Posted December 12, 2012 Author Posted December 12, 2012 After he said no! I said are you 100% sure? And he said no I'm not sure, u can never be sure. For all I know he might be so pressured he could be talking himself out of it. Any guy would. So would I and I'm a girl lol . I just gonna take it if he don't contact me before he leaves this weekend that he probably made up his mind.
flitzanu Posted December 12, 2012 Posted December 12, 2012 After he said no! I said are you 100% sure? And he said no I'm not sure, u can never be sure. For all I know he might be so pressured he could be talking himself out of it. Any guy would. So would I and I'm a girl lol . I just gonna take it if he don't contact me before he leaves this weekend that he probably made up his mind. i'm not 100% sure that YOU and ME won't get married. i understand you want to place emphasis on the statement, but the line "i'm not a fortune teller no one knows anything 100% LOLOLOL" is stupid.
Author Svet74 Posted December 12, 2012 Author Posted December 12, 2012 Yeah I understand your point and at the same time don't. Anything is possible but if he feels he made a mistake I'm sure it won't take him more then a month to figure it out. We're in nc and I deactivated my fb so he doesn't know what I'm up to I'm not gonna wait around forever . If its meant to be it will be no matter what
Author Svet74 Posted December 12, 2012 Author Posted December 12, 2012 And your kinda mean. If u saw what I look like u would speak to me differently 1
geegirl Posted December 12, 2012 Posted December 12, 2012 After he said no! I said are you 100% sure? And he said no I'm not sure, u can never be sure. For all I know he might be so pressured he could be talking himself out of it. Any guy would. So would I and I'm a girl lol . I just gonna take it if he don't contact me before he leaves this weekend that he probably made up his mind. I would take his first response as a response. If you have to ask him if he is sure, that in itself is telling.
Author Svet74 Posted December 13, 2012 Author Posted December 13, 2012 I would take his first response as a response. If you have to ask him if he is sure, that in itself is telling. Yeah you have a good point. im just gonna take it as is. I mean yeah its possible that he freaked out cuz things started to get serious but at the same time if he cares or his feelings are real and were then he will over come that and come around. 3 weeks is plenty of time for him to make up his mind im assuming. This sucks
flitzanu Posted December 13, 2012 Posted December 13, 2012 And your kinda mean. If u saw what I look like u would speak to me differently no, i wouldn't, i've dated plenty of "10s". hot or not, you just need to hear the truth. if you want me to candy coat it just because you're hot, i could do that, but it's not going to help you. 1
Simon Phoenix Posted December 13, 2012 Posted December 13, 2012 I think the OP is taken by flitz. I'm expecting an "a/s/l" request sometime soon. 1
Samilia Posted December 13, 2012 Posted December 13, 2012 I think the OP is taken by flitz. I'm expecting an "a/s/l" request sometime soon. Well, he's right. Being attractive sure helps but it really isn't everything. Personality, at least for me, fills in 90% of the gap when it comes to my attraction to a man. Sure, let's be honest, if you aren't attractive at all I won't accept your date. But neither would you if I wasn't attractive, or you type. There is this girl at work who's really hot. All the guys want to "bang her", but thing is, that's the only thing they want to do. Every single one of them will tell you "too bad she has no personality". Not to say that the poster doesn't have any personality, it might be that hers doesn't match her ex's. Anyway, without being in their shoes, who knows if he'll be back? I do believe that time heals a lot of our bruised feelings.
Simon Phoenix Posted December 13, 2012 Posted December 13, 2012 Well, he's right. Being attractive sure helps but it really isn't everything. Personality, at least for me, fills in 90% of the gap when it comes to my attraction to a man. Sure, let's be honest, if you aren't attractive at all I won't accept your date. But neither would you if I wasn't attractive, or you type. There is this girl at work who's really hot. All the guys want to "bang her", but thing is, that's the only thing they want to do. Every single one of them will tell you "too bad she has no personality". Not to say that the poster doesn't have any personality, it might be that hers doesn't match her ex's. Anyway, without being in their shoes, who knows if he'll be back? I do believe that time heals a lot of our bruised feelings. Um, I was making a quick joke.
Samilia Posted December 13, 2012 Posted December 13, 2012 Um, I was making a quick joke. Yes, I realize that
flitzanu Posted December 13, 2012 Posted December 13, 2012 Yes, I realize that not to mention the old adage, "behind every hot girl/guy is a partner who is sick of their s#^&." and you're right though, thank god girls love personality. otherwise i'd be screwed.
Simon Phoenix Posted December 13, 2012 Posted December 13, 2012 Yes, I realize that Well you're no fun
Samilia Posted December 13, 2012 Posted December 13, 2012 not to mention the old adage, "behind every hot girl/guy is a partner who is sick of their s#^&." and you're right though, thank god girls love personality. otherwise i'd be screwed. Do you know serge gainsbourg? Google him, he dated the most beautiful women. I personally think it's because he didn't give a rats *ss what people thought of him.
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