BOSSHOGG5 Posted December 11, 2012 Posted December 11, 2012 Hello All, I wrote on here about a month ago about my divorce. I have made great strides and am now in the begining of a new relationship. I have not communicated with my ex for some time now except on Thanksgiving when she texted me to say Happy Thanksgiving. I did not respond till the next day and all I said was "Same to you". She will text me pictures of the dog or even has sent me a picture of her saying that she just wants to send me a smile and hope all is well. I didnt respond to those either. She is supposed to be in love with her new man and left me and my two boys for him, clear across the country. She has not seen either of the three of my boys (one lives in California, he is 24) in over two years now. She will call them at least 4 times a week. She does not send me support for my youngest boy who is 15. It crushed me but now I have progressed in leaps and bounds. The other day she sends me a picture of her wanting me to show a picture of shoes that she wanted my youngest son to see. She said to show the pic to my son. Then it said (not the actual names) John and Susie for life. It stunned me because I never thought she would go to that extreme. I guess I should not be to stunned due to the fact that she cheated on different occasions in our marriage, however I was stunned. I sat there for a second just to see how I would feel and to my pleasure, I did not trip at all. There would have been a time that I would of confronted her and would have been hurt bad. Thank God. Was that an attempt to make me jealous or what? There was a time that I wanted her back. The devastation of our family had gotten the best of me. I will continue to not respond to her. What a shame.
Mr Scorpio Posted December 11, 2012 Posted December 11, 2012 A shame indeed. She left her family to run into the arms of another man, and yet she continues to try and tug on your heartstrings. I don't know if she was trying to make you jealous (can shoes make a guy jealous?), and I suppose it is natural that she would reach out during a holiday. Still, she left, and so she has no right to hear from you. 2
Author BOSSHOGG5 Posted December 11, 2012 Author Posted December 11, 2012 It was not the fact that she was showing her shoes, it was the text that said John and Susie for life. That showed no class at all and it was immature. I have said nothing to her about my relationship with my new woman and I wont.
jwhite Posted December 11, 2012 Posted December 11, 2012 Guilt for sure. I agree with Mr. Scorpio. She has no right to hear from you, she should be making the effort to see them.
Sugarkane Posted December 12, 2012 Posted December 12, 2012 I feel like I almost have a phD in Ahole dumpers sometimes. Why can't dumpers ever be civil? Is there any way you can go after her for child support? How is she getting away with it? Oddly ive never heard of a woman dodging the child support before. Some dumpers really just love to blame everyone but themselves. So they don't have to look at themselves in the mirror. Remember a dumper has to look like the victim, even if they are a cheater! It really makes me angry to read. I imagine when the honeymoon phase wears off or if she gets cheated on herself, maybe she might see things differently.
Author BOSSHOGG5 Posted December 12, 2012 Author Posted December 12, 2012 When she filed for divorce we never agreed to child support. That was stupid on my part now that I think about it but I never thought that she would not send support for her children. I just signed the paperwork and wanted it all to go away. She will send a box with certain items every couple of months but that is not enough. She has spent more money dealing with her new love interest than she has for her children. One reason is she is not working. That was a major issue in our marriage. I carried the load for 23 yrs. Out of those 23 yrs she probably worked a combined 6 yrs total. It would piss me off. I believe she has a mental condition. She blames me for just about everything. She needs to be accountable and realize it took two for our marriage to fail. One thing is that I did not cheat (almost but did) and I tried my very best to fix things.
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