Gilly08 Posted December 11, 2012 Posted December 11, 2012 My husband of 12 yrs dumped me by a text friday on our sons 10th birthday, I'm scared, confused. I don't know why. He took about a weeks worth of clothes. I've packed all of his stuff up. We spoke briefly today, because my uncle passed last night. He said he is going to get are son tomorrow to let him know that he is still going to be there for him. I keep thinking of all the things I did wrong. We didn't fight. I let him hangout with his friends and trusted him completely. I feel like I was a good wife. Maybe got a little boring. But he asked about his clothes. Do I just give them to him? Is it really over? I don't work, he has supported us. I don't know what to do. Please someone help me.
coffeebean201 Posted December 11, 2012 Posted December 11, 2012 Sorry you are going through this..and it is just starting. He sounds very impersonal with how it is being handled. You need to speak with a good lawyer. You don't have your own income coming in. He's had a lot more time to get arranged/facts in order/decide his position. This came out of left field for you.
Author Gilly08 Posted December 11, 2012 Author Posted December 11, 2012 Yes he did, no I haven't talked to attorney yet, he said he is going to pay the bills and since Christmas is in 2 wks I'm holding off until after that. Im having a really hard time believing its over
Holyoak Posted December 11, 2012 Posted December 11, 2012 Gilly, first let me say how much I can feel your confusion, shock and pain... Please make sure to look after your physical needs; drink water, eat, try to sleep, etc. As much as you may not like or want to believe, your husbands actions have affair written all over it. I hate to bring this up with you, but I would be disingenuous if I didn't. Unfortunately, I have seen nearly identical circumstances here and elsewhere. My wife of 23 years walked up to me one day, told me she did not love me anymore, was interested in someone else, and walked out. It caught me completely blindsided, and like the person I knew for over two decades, shared a nice life with, and shared a daughter died right in front of me, and was replaced with a cruel replicant. You are going to be OK Gilly, and need to get to the bottom of why he left so that you can figure out what happens next. Take care, and a lot of good folks here want to help you out!
Mystery2Me Posted December 11, 2012 Posted December 11, 2012 Gilly I am so very sorry for you and your children. While I have no children, my husband recently abandoned me on our 15th anniversary. I know how the shock from this unforeseen new reality can shake you to your very core. Darling it's normal and hard as hell to deal with, because it just does not add up based upon how he portrayed your lives. Consult a lawyer right away, to secure yourself and the children so you can have time to process and make a plan. Because it is apparent he is acting on the plan he has developed for some time. Unfortunately, I agree with Holyoak that there is an affair. It was so in my case. You will be OK, it is going to be rough so surround yourself with a solid support system. Take care of you.
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