Cheated on Ex of 2 1/2 years, now she is dating someone else and i want her back

[swills22]

About two months ago I cheated on my girlfriend and I broke up with her the next day because I did not want her to find out and be hurt.

 

The girl that I cheated on her with was with this other girl who was dating this guy that is best friends with my ex-girlfriend. And the other girl ended up telling her boyfriend who told my ex-girlfriend that I cheated on her.

 

My ex-girlfriend has now been dating some guy for about a month and a half. I've tried so hard to try to win her back but it doesn't seem to be working. We had been dating for 2 1/2 years before I made the mistake of cheating on her. I'm not exactly sure if I should keep chasing after her or just leave her alone.

 

Please please please give some feedback.

[danielle_rae]

Honestly I think you shoudl keep going after her. My boyfriend of a year cheated on me, i dumped him, dated someone else and it took him months of trying to convince me that he really missed me before i finally went back to him. And now things are better then ever. You have to fight for what you want, and eventuly it all pays off. She may not want to be with you again...maybe just be friends...but thats a start, and you can just keep working on from there. If you want her back that badly, prove it and keep after her, and let her know how sorry you are and that you really do care and miss her.

[MaiGrl]

swills22

 

I am right there with ya, but on the other side. My boyfriend of almost 3 years cheated on me. We split and 3 days later I find out from my best friend which is friends with the 'other girls' best friend what he did.

 

Now he wants me back. I can just tell you how I feel about all this.

 

I love him so much and deep down I really do want to be with him but I am sooo sooo scared that he will do it to me again and will crush my already damaged heart. He needs to work to get my trust back. He needs to do whatever he thinks he can do prove to me that he loves me as much as he says and that he would never make that mistake again.

 

What has helped is that he has been completely honest with me. Also all of his little phone calls during the day just to say hi and how's it going, make me feel so much better. He is trying to include me in all parts of his life now which makes me really believe that he wants to be with me now and in the future (not just because he doesn't want me with anyone else)

 

Just make sure you want her back for the right reasons. Not because you don't want her to be dating another guy. Feelings can be confusing sometimes and really need to be thought about.

 

She still loves you. Love doesn't just stop like that after a long relationship. Me... Yes I still love him with all my heart but I won't tell my him that. Not yet. I can't give in that easily. Don't beg for her back, just show and prove how big of a mistake you made and how much you want to work it out.

 

Hope this helped a little and hope it all works out for you!