suladas Posted December 11, 2012 Posted December 11, 2012 She cheated on you, why do you want her back? Also the thing I found out is, they have changed, they are not the same person you were with. The person you miss is no longer there.
Author na49 Posted December 11, 2012 Author Posted December 11, 2012 She cheated on you, why do you want her back? Also the thing I found out is, they have changed, they are not the same person you were with. The person you miss is no longer there. I wish I could answer that question, probably because the idea of the person I miss is still in my head. So when I think of that person, it makes me want her. There's no question that she's changed once we started college, and my trust in her got me nowhere. She'll go through 3 guys a year for the next four years and wonder why she's so unhappy. (no one will know it though because she comes off as the nicest most happy person ever) I'd love to know what she's thinking right now. Or what she was thinking when she went through the trouble of unblocking me on facebook, and telling me she wanted to "speak to me if that was at all possible". This NC is serious stuff.
suladas Posted December 11, 2012 Posted December 11, 2012 I wish I could answer that question, probably because the idea of the person I miss is still in my head. So when I think of that person, it makes me want her. There's no question that she's changed once we started college, and my trust in her got me nowhere. She'll go through 3 guys a year for the next four years and wonder why she's so unhappy. (no one will know it though because she comes off as the nicest most happy person ever) I'd love to know what she's thinking right now. Or what she was thinking when she went through the trouble of unblocking me on facebook, and telling me she wanted to "speak to me if that was at all possible". This NC is serious stuff. The wondering killed me to, I hate it. Sure I miss what I had with my ex to, but it was 5 months ago and I know she isn't that person anymore, but ya I still miss it. I just got final closure I guess today as we argued, it helped but it also didn't. It helped to know we are through for good, but it didn't help that it brought a bunch of BS up again. Overall I am happy it happened though. Who knows what it meant man, women are f**king crazy. The guessing and wondering is really tough. The advice I can give you is, keep moving on focus on other stuff and meet someone new when you're ready. The sooner you stop thinking about the BS The better.
cavalier99 Posted December 11, 2012 Posted December 11, 2012 Probably because I'm not over her yet and still want her back even though she's a witch. I don't plan on getting a followup, if she really wanted to talk to me I'm sure she'd try something else. Message me on facebook even seeing as how she just unblocked me. If she asks me to talk on Thursday, should I talk or just tell her I have to go? I say go with what NO FOOLIN says. Smile, wave rollout. If trapped say you cant talk now..busy..ROLLOUT! You will be a total mystery!
cavalier99 Posted December 11, 2012 Posted December 11, 2012 I wish I could answer that question, probably because the idea of the person I miss is still in my head. So when I think of that person, it makes me want her. There's no question that she's changed once we started college, and my trust in her got me nowhere. She'll go through 3 guys a year for the next four years and wonder why she's so unhappy. (no one will know it though because she comes off as the nicest most happy person ever) I'd love to know what she's thinking right now. Or what she was thinking when she went through the trouble of unblocking me on facebook, and telling me she wanted to "speak to me if that was at all possible". This NC is serious stuff. She is thinking you grew a HUGE PAIR OF BALLS compared to before and your leaving her in the dust!
Author na49 Posted December 11, 2012 Author Posted December 11, 2012 You guys are right. At this point, I don't know if "closure" is possible for me. Maybe that's what she's looking for. To tell me she's done with me. I don't need to hear it from her and feel like crap. I've figured it out for myself. Just like how I don't really want to see her facebook profile right now. Sure I know she's probably dating him, but I'd rather not be certain. Seeing her with her new "trophy boyfriend" won't make me feel better. Months and months down the line, it shouldn't bother me and if it does then I've really got to evaluate what I've been doing about moving on. Seeing me doing my thing and not even looking her way must have really gotten to her for her to text me after class and unblock me on facebook. LOL. I bet she thinks I'm still crying over her and still upset. Try again.
suladas Posted December 11, 2012 Posted December 11, 2012 Keep doing what you are doing then, ignore her.
Chi townD Posted December 11, 2012 Posted December 11, 2012 (edited) Here's the deal. She cheated on you. Dumped you for the other guy. Demonized you to her new set of friends. Now the guilt is setting in. For MOST women, they can't stand that the fact there might be a person on this planet at hates them or doesn't think that they are a nice person. Now, here it is. Almost the end of the semester and the class that you two have together is coming to an end. When this class ends you don't have to see her ever again and she can't keep tabs on you; see you every couple of days. Thus, the reason for unblocking you on Facebook, if she can't keep tabs on you through class, at least she can keep tabs on you through your Facebook page. She's running out of time to get you in the "friend zone" and ease her guilt. So, I would have your brother block her for you. Then, I would come back here and read my first paragraph. Girlfriends don't do that to boyfriends. Hell, friends don't even do that to friends! SO! Ask yourself, "what exactly do we need to talk about. She made her choice and it wasn't me. She made a choice to have me out of her life so she could move onto the douche rocket. I'm just honoring her wishes. So, what do we need to talk about?" Edited December 11, 2012 by Chi townD 1
Author na49 Posted December 11, 2012 Author Posted December 11, 2012 Here's the deal. She cheated on you. Dumped you for the other guy. Demonized you to her new set of friends. Now the guilt is setting in. For MOST women, they can't stand that the fact there might be a person on this planet at hates them or doesn't think that they are a nice person. Now, here it is. Almost the end of the semester and the class that you two have together is coming to an end. When this class ends you don't have to see her ever again and she can't keep tabs on you; see you every couple of days. Thus, the reason for unblocking you on Facebook, if she can't keep tabs on you through class, at least she can keep tabs on you through your Facebook page. She's running out of time to get you in the "friend zone" and ease her guilt. So, I would have your brother block her for you. Then, I would come back here and read my first paragraph. Girlfriends don't do that to boyfriends. Hell, friends don't even do that to friends! SO! Ask yourself, "what exactly do we need to talk about. She made her choice and it wasn't me. She made a choice to have me out of her life so she could move onto the douche rocket. I'm just honoring her wishes. So, what do we need to talk about?" Wow it's actually scary how right you are. I bet that's exactly it. Do you think that she'll bother me again? and if she does should I respond? I don't think she's on my friends list on facebook or I would start seeing her updates. Do you think I should wait until tomorrow to block her? Or just do it right now and get it over with?
suladas Posted December 11, 2012 Posted December 11, 2012 Wow it's actually scary how right you are. I bet that's exactly it. Do you think that she'll bother me again? and if she does should I respond? I don't think she's on my friends list on facebook or I would start seeing her updates. Do you think I should wait until tomorrow to block her? Or just do it right now and get it over with? Just ignore her. If you can stop yourself from looking at her page, I wouldn't do anything, if you will likely look at it, block her. Just go to privacy settings and type in her name, don't need to look at her page to do it.
Author na49 Posted December 11, 2012 Author Posted December 11, 2012 I'm not going to look at her profile, but the thought that I am able to now bothers me. Plus I don't really like being able to see all of the pics of us, I liked it more not being able to see them so I could forget how happy I was with her.
Author na49 Posted December 11, 2012 Author Posted December 11, 2012 Of course as I type in her name to block her, her profile picture comes up and a picture of her and some guy who I don't recognize pops up. So curious to see who that is, but I guess I don't want to know.
Chi townD Posted December 11, 2012 Posted December 11, 2012 Wow it's actually scary how right you are. I bet that's exactly it. Do you think that she'll bother me again? and if she does should I respond? I don't think she's on my friends list on facebook or I would start seeing her updates. Do you think I should wait until tomorrow to block her? Or just do it right now and get it over with? Will she bother you again. Yeah, probably. Probably the next time you have class. I wouldn't surprise me if she approaches you and asks if you got her text. So, be aware of that. Make a B line to the closest exit without being obvious. I would block her immediately, even if she's not on your friends list and you won't get status updates. The tempation would be present to look. So, remove the temptation. You'll feel better afterwards.
Simon Phoenix Posted December 11, 2012 Posted December 11, 2012 I wish I could answer that question, probably because the idea of the person I miss is still in my head. So when I think of that person, it makes me want her. There's no question that she's changed once we started college, and my trust in her got me nowhere. She'll go through 3 guys a year for the next four years and wonder why she's so unhappy. (no one will know it though because she comes off as the nicest most happy person ever) I'd love to know what she's thinking right now. Or what she was thinking when she went through the trouble of unblocking me on facebook, and telling me she wanted to "speak to me if that was at all possible". This NC is serious stuff. So you are attached to a fictional character from the past? She betrayed you dude, you have to stop romanticizing someone who is willing to do that to you. There are plenty of women out there who won't cheat.
movingon12 Posted December 11, 2012 Posted December 11, 2012 Then block her - go to privacy settings/ manage blocking and type in her name (you don't need her email address). It will come up with a list of all the people with that name, she'll be at the top because you've contacted her previously, click 'block' and you're done. You don't see her profile page - just her name and profile photo. Don't contact her if she contacts you again. If it was that important that it needs to be said she can write it in an email and send it to you. The factthat you are this bothered by her text and fb shows you're not ready to have a conversation with her yet.
Author na49 Posted December 11, 2012 Author Posted December 11, 2012 (edited) Of course, and seeing a profile picture of her and another guy has helped me get rid of that fantasy character that I'm in love with. Do I know it's her boyfriend for a fact? No and it actually looked like a different guy than the original guy she cheated on me with. But I didn't snoop. I blocked her and learned that if I wanted to unblock her to check I would need to wait 48 hours to reblock her. Not really trying to do that. Well I do feel relieved that I got that out of the way. Seeing her profile picture with a random guy in it sucked, but it's better than seeing her profile which could have had love letters about her new boyfriend, and more pictures that I don't want to see. Also it's funny that you say you think she'll talk to me in class on Thursday. My dad was telling me the same thing. He told me to just roll out and tell her I have to go. Hmm I'll need to plan a response, I guess if she asks to talk after class tell her that I can't and I have to go. Right? Edited December 11, 2012 by na49
TaraMaiden Posted December 11, 2012 Posted December 11, 2012 .....I guess if she asks to talk after class tell her ..... ...."How important for me is it to talk to you? Is anything you want to say going to be of benefit to me?" And shut up and wait for an answer..... No, I mean really. Keep quiet. Let her fill the uncomfortable gap. If nothing happens, just say - "Thought so! see ya!" And THEN leave. 2
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