Troubledman578 Posted December 10, 2012 Posted December 10, 2012 Ok so here's my story..First of all let me start by saying we have an 8 month old baby together. Me and the mother of my child met back in late April of 2011 we talked I seen her almost everyday then come June 19th(yes I remember the date) we started our relationship..That night she got pregnant. We were great together until about September and Facebook started to become a problem..In November I deleted my Facebook to eliminate that problem, but by then we had already started arguing about every little thing. I was under a lot of stress during this time my wages were being garnished, i was worried about supporting the baby and everything, and we would get into heated arguments where I would curse at her..Alot of those arguments ended with her in tears..So we were kind of shaky arguing every other day about something stupid..In July this year she broke up with me when my baby was 4 months..Up until October she gave me chances to work it out, but I blew them by accusing her of talking to other guys and I also checked her phone records twice..in between the times where she would give me her "phony chance" because it never was a real chance I would text her and beg her to take me back everyday..So I messed up there..Well in October she started talking to this guy I guess and now here in december she kinds of makes it clear to me that she's happy by telling me she is when I talk to her, and she blocked me and deleted me from Facebook back in July, but she still goes on my Facebook and I know she does because she will text me out of the blue about something on my page or tell me I'm silly and when I ask why she won't say why she'll say just forget it..She told me she's never giving me another chance even though we have an 8 month old baby..I want to try no contact but that is hard when you have a kid together so I'm wondering should I send family to pick up my kid so she can't see or talk to me and hope that this will make her miss me or will she think I'm weak because I can't face her? How do you do no contact or low contact when a kid is involved and with this new guy in the picture do I even have a chance to get her back? She said she doesn't believe in second chances..
Ashley79 Posted January 5, 2013 Posted January 5, 2013 Hey I'm in the same position was with my ex we had a son there was a friend always hanging around but didnt think anything of it. Have a son who is nearly 3. I realised she was dating this guy and I was in the process of getting back with her took me 3 months but I managed to do it We stayed together 3 months but fizzled out she didn't try and her heart was not in it. We went on holiday and the day she Mae back I see the t to her mate and this guy. Cut a long story short I think she was still seeing him or talking to him so never really wanted to give me a chance even though I'm the father of her son. I see a lot of things on her phone and turns out she is back with this guy. 3 months or so now. All over Xmas and new year. I have been fighting to get her back. I done so much damage. She spends time with me then when I say stuff she says she can't see us together to much has happened and she doesn't want to be pressured and doesn't feel the same NC does not work. I dropped my son off at the door step and left it broke me more I think. I didn't want to see her and I thought that was best. It's hard as we have to see them hey. I don't have the answers and I don't know if you will get back with her or if I will. I have consumed myself with her what she is doing this guy near my son makes me sick and I want to we'll I don't no. I just don't know Hope does not work and thinking it won't last don't help either. What is the answer no one knows I'm in the same place as u and just don't know when this will get better. Why would they want to be a family with 2 dads more kids so much mess is about to be made but I do know u can't tell women anything and they don't think like we do they shut off listen to their friends not us. We text beg plead try and make them see reason but they don't. Keep in touch let me know how ur getting on. No one has advice for getting an ex back when she is with someone else and u have kids with her. It's a right mess and if it was just about her we would walk away hey? Ashley
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