How long did it take between deciding to break up vs actually breaking up with someon

[someonethere]

Did it take you a long time to actually breakup after deciding things are not working?

[SER]

It took me about a week, due to my schedule and wanting to do it in person. Otherwise, it would've been within a day or two. There's no need to keep them in the dark, it's not good for them or for yourself. But it wasn't easy to get the guts to do or to admit to myself that it wasn't going to work.

[Phoe]

I too, am interested in seeing some answers, what kind of variability may be out there.

 

I watched many friends say "i'm gonna break up with them" - and 2 years later they're STILL TOGETHER and still saying "I'm gonna do it, I'm really gonna do it." - nope.

 

I suppose some people create excuses to stay with what's familiar. Unfortunate really

[Orianne]

Once I realized things weren't working out, it took about three weeks for me to break the news, but I suppose every relationship is different.

[mistakesmakeyouwhat]

It takes a while, If you were truly in love with that person, it shouldn't take a short period of time.

[Cutiepie1976]

The decision process can take a while. Generally, the longer I've been with someone, and the stronger my feelings for the person, the longer it takes me to weigh everything and decide that things won't work out. Once the decision is made, then it's the next time we have a date. That can be anywhere from hours to a week. I don't believe in breaking up by phone, text, or email, and I certainly don't believe in just fading away.

[Toddbt12y1]

It took me a long, long time of deep thinking. Actually a year solid. But I had a lot more reasons than just wanting to breakup. I needed something before-hand. I put a lot of thought into it; after all, to break up with a girl I deeply loved, and would have gladly married, is not something I did in a month...

 

I loved, and still do love her far too much to not put forth any effort. But effort only gets one more misery..