credencem Posted December 10, 2012 Posted December 10, 2012 I've been reading about break ups in this forum and have also ended an 8 year relationship 4 months ago. What I can't understand is how can she just drop a relationship that long? Everything was supposedly fine until she joined a company she left previously. I'll fetch her from the train station every night, have dinner together and go back home. We were living together, by the ways. Then she became very busy and I started having dinner on my own. She started coming back very late almost every day and goes missing every Friday. So one day I confronted her and asked her what's going on. She said everything was ok and then I asked her if she still loves me and without hesitation, she said no! At that point, I became numb and felt dead inside. I asked her for how long she has been feeling like that and she said it's been a long time. I got mad and asked if she didn't have feelings for me, why pretend all these time? She said she was trying to make it work of which I did not see any effort. After confronting her, she will still go missing on Fridays and return only on Sunday nights. This was going on for some time (she was still living me despite the talk) and then I asked her when she will be moving out as the signs were all there..we became housemates almost instantly after the confrontation, she didn't care for the household after that and jerked her hand away when I touched her. I went for a holiday with friends and she was suppose to be with us, she wasn't there for obvious reasons. She went back to the apartment, packed some of her stuff and left. I texted her about mending the relationship but there were no replies. She still has her clothes, shoes and books in my apartment. My questions: 1. What would compel someone to leave just like that? 2. Is she still intending to come back seeing that her stuff are still there? 3. Is she seeing someone else?
Mcnulty Posted December 10, 2012 Posted December 10, 2012 It all points to another guy. She goes missing all weekends and started working late...the signs are there. But aside from that, she has been honest in saying she doesn't love you anymore, as hard as that is to hear, I can imagine. Maybe leaving some of her stuff for later to collect is an insurance policy, of, if her new life doesn't work, she can skink back to you...dont stand for it. She doesn't love you mate, that's the bottom line. Contact a mutual friend or her family and get rid of her stuff...only then will you be able to start the healing process. Wish you luck.
Author credencem Posted December 10, 2012 Author Posted December 10, 2012 Thanks. I guess sometimes i need a reality check..
Chi townD Posted December 10, 2012 Posted December 10, 2012 My questions: 1. What would compel someone to leave just like that? 2. Is she still intending to come back seeing that her stuff are still there? 3. Is she seeing someone else? Sorry, but my bet is on option number three. There's someone else. Stays away every friday, coming back on Saturdays and giving you the cold shoulder. Pulling her hand away from your touch as if you were doing something innappropriate. As if she was cheating on her new guy. Staying late "at work". Dude, there's someone else. I agree. Pack up her crap and either give it to a friend of hers or mail it to her folks. Then, you need to mourn the loss of the relationship and move on. Start complete NC. She made a choice to have you out of her life. You give her that. Block her on Facebook (this is very important that you do this). Time to go dark. 1
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