trtxoxo Posted December 10, 2012 Posted December 10, 2012 My Boyfriend and I have been together almost a year, and his ex seems to have some jealousy problems. She will randomly text his phone and ask how he is. She wont say that it is her when he asks "who is this?" He tells me everything so when she does this I ask for the number and text/call the number. I'm not an idiot I know exactly who it is. But she is always to scared to tell me its her untill I make it public. The first time she did it, I told her that we are happy and there is no need for her to check on my boyfriend as if its like shes trying to see if he will talk to her or tell her that he is unhappy. Shes CRAZY litterally. She finally left us alone for a while until the other day she texted him posing as one of his other ex's and I wrote the girl she claimed to be. The girl was in shock that someone was pretending to be her. So I posted the number publicly and BOOM what do you know the crazy ex messages me and tells me that its not her and giving me a sob story. Lets take note that not once did I accuse her or say that I thought it was her. So yes it was her guilty concience. I let it go after we had a long convo. Of course I didnt believe her and she was just trying to cover her ass. But I dont like drama so I pretended like I believed her so she would shut up. Then later that night I get a text from that number... the b**ch dosent give up!!! Also, I forgot to mention that she HAS a boyfriend of her own (they break-up every week.) So this girl is trying so hard to get under my skin and just say anything to make me mad, and she still believes that I dont think its her. So finally I tell her if she keeps it up I'm going to tell her boyfriend she is trying to talk to my boyfriend. and wow guess what SHE FINALLY STOPS (but still dosent admit that its her)! The funny thing is I know exactly what she is trying to do 'cause problems with my boyfriend and I so she can have him' hahah I know its hilarious. but all she did was make us closer.. and he would never go back to her if we ever broke up she is just literally nuts. But I do know that she will try this again. I've knowen this girl since I was a child (never been friends nor enemys until I started dating him) and I just deleted her from my facebook and when we messaged she did admit that she was jealous of us. Some little details I may have forgotten to include. But how do we get the crazy bi*** to stop obsessing our us?
Author trtxoxo Posted December 10, 2012 Author Posted December 10, 2012 by the way, yes we are young adults. His ex is very childish in many more ways.
yessy21 Posted December 10, 2012 Posted December 10, 2012 Shes obsessive. your acting like a teenager. Both of you need to grow up. Change your numbers. block her. instead of calling and messaging and harrassing and creating this drama just disconnect her, eventually she will have no choice but to let go. 4
TaraMaiden Posted December 10, 2012 Posted December 10, 2012 Jeesh! Her contacting you ceaselessly, remorselessly, persistently and incessantly - isn't the problem. You - are the problem - !!! The only reason she gets away with it, is because you keep responding! If you didn't pick up, respond or react, but just blocked her out every which way possible, she would cease to be a problem, no? Course of action: Change numbers, block her, deny her access at every turn, which way and loose, do not respond, reply, react or even give any hint, indication or signal that you even realise she exists! SORTED!! 3
Author trtxoxo Posted December 10, 2012 Author Posted December 10, 2012 I am a concerned girlfriend and I will not let her get away with thinking that she can harrass us. I know I shouldn't respond but that is just my nature, it dosent mean I'm the problem or immature. It's a respect problem that I have with females or males that try to cause drama in relationships. Of course I know I feed at it when I respond, but like I said it's just my nature. I'm very protective. I don't think she should get away with this and I will do what I can to stop her.
TaraMaiden Posted December 10, 2012 Posted December 10, 2012 "Insanity is doing the same thing over and over again- and expecting a different result." So, if you carry on doing what you're doing, you're always going to get what you've always got so far. Just more of the same. Things will only change when you decide to change them. And that means changing tactic to something that works. You came and asked. we told you "Best practice" if you refuse to follow advice - well, knock yourself out, hun. We tried to tell you....
Lonely Ronin Posted December 10, 2012 Posted December 10, 2012 I am a concerned girlfriend and I will not let her get away with thinking that she can harrass us. Actually no you're not, you're just as big a drama queen as she is. If you wanted it to stop, you would do something about it, like getting a restraining order, or switch phone numbers like others have sad. What you and her are doing is acting like two 8 year olds fighting over a doll (your BF). You making it public, is your way of rubbing her face in the fact that her ex is with you now. it's also a form of showing off to everyone else. Look how great my bf is, this crazy girl is so desperate to get him back..... Grow Up. 1
Yookie Posted December 10, 2012 Posted December 10, 2012 I am a concerned girlfriend and I will not let her get away with thinking that she can harrass us. I know I shouldn't respond but that is just my nature, it dosent mean I'm the problem or immature. It's a respect problem that I have with females or males that try to cause drama in relationships. Of course I know I feed at it when I respond, but like I said it's just my nature. I'm very protective. I don't think she should get away with this and I will do what I can to stop her. Ok well you wanted to know how to get it to stop right? See the above two responses. If your "nature" is to keep the drama going then don't be surprised when it KEEPS GOING!!! Sorry but yes YOU are reason this will continue.
Quiet Storm Posted December 10, 2012 Posted December 10, 2012 But I dont like drama For someone that doesn't like drama, you are up to your neck in it. The best thing to do is to detach from the situation entirely and ignore any attempts at contact. If anyone needs to respond to her, it's your boyfriend. He needs to make it clear, in no uncertain terms, that he is done with her and there is NO CHANCE for them, regardless of whether he is with you or not. It will mean NOTHING coming from you. he would never go back to her if we ever broke up she is just literally nuts I wouldn't be so sure about that. I think he has a thing for crazy girls.
yessy21 Posted December 10, 2012 Posted December 10, 2012 Eventually he will dump her if she keeps acting like that.
Quest4_TheLost Posted December 10, 2012 Posted December 10, 2012 I get the impression they are all enjoying themselves. We have the jealous ex.. MWAHAHAHA poking them with a big stick. I'm still here you can't get rid of me. Taunt taunt taunt... We have the new girlfriend. Who loves the fact she has somthing that this girl wants.. Haha I got him SEE he is mine. Oh your texting again. OH GOOD CAUSE HE IS STILL MINE!! Then we have the chew toy affectionally known as the boyfriend. Look at me I am so loved and wanted and adored I got my ex chewing at my ankles while my new girl nips at her. (HULK POSE) for the camera. Enjoy!!
MikeyBe Posted December 10, 2012 Posted December 10, 2012 Sorry to make fun of you OP but I'm going too, on a real note sometimes things will just bother you and be annoying. Ex's are sometimes bitter and jealous like that. So to answer your question: But how do we get the crazy bi*** to stop obsessing our us? Simple. Stop obsessing over them. Why the **** do you care so much if someone texts your boyfriend how he's doing? But I can't help myself. People who say this are also the people that think they're really funny or great drivers. I dont like drama - He tells me everything so when she does this I ask for the number and text/call the number. - The first time she did it, I told her that we are happy and there is no need for her to check on my boyfriend - So I posted the number publicly - So finally I tell her if she keeps it up I'm going to tell her boyfriend she is trying to talk to my boyfriend. Sounds like a sitcom on MTV girl. I'd probably call it Drama High.
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