Question for the men, do you have a close female co-worker at work?

[watermelonjuice]

Men, how many of you have a close female co-worker you talk incessantly with about work-related stuff and office gossip? You just get along.

 

Do you categorize this as liking this female co-worker?

 

How many of you have such a close female co-worker but you aren't interested in her at all?

[JamesM]

I don't know, but I did at my last job.

 

That would be my work wife.

 

We talked about everything work related and much that was personal related. My wife trusted her, and her husband trusted me.

 

I know that it happens often even with single people.

 

Why do you ask?

[watermelonjuice]

I don't know, but I did at my last job.

 

That would be my work wife.

 

We talked about everything work related and much that was personal related. My wife trusted her, and her husband trusted me.

 

I know that it happens often even with single people.

 

Why do you ask?

 

I am not sure I am the work wife but something similar.

 

Is interest involved in such relationships? Or nothing to overthink about?

[JamesM]

It could develop into more, but most of the time it does not. In my case, being married, it was simply a friendship that we joked about. We never did anything outside of business. We did spend a couple of overnight trips together (along with a couple of other coworkers). We did lunch a couple of times.

 

But again, my wife always trusted her, and she liked my wife. We no longer have much contact with each other outside of an occasional message on FB.

 

I would not over think it especially if he is married or if you are married. Treat it as a special friendship. If either of you are married, then it should not take priority over your wife/husband.

[happythroughout]

It could develop into more, but most of the time it does not. In my case, being married, it was simply a friendship that we joked about. We never did anything outside of business. We did spend a couple of overnight trips together (along with a couple of other coworkers). We did lunch a couple of times.

 

But again, my wife always trusted her, and she liked my wife. We no longer have much contact with each other outside of an occasional message on FB.

 

I would not over think it especially if he is married or if you are married. Treat it as a special friendship. If either of you are married, then it should not take priority over your wife/husband.

 

Neither of us is married. I'm dating casually. He seems to be seeing someone. I don't know the details.

 

So interest isn't a prerequsite for such a relationship then?