lovehurts5 Posted December 10, 2012 Posted December 10, 2012 Sooo I went to high school with this guy and we used to like kid around in class with each other back then but I haven't spoken to him since then. That was almost 7 years ago. He messaged me on facebook a week ago and we got to talking, I have him my number we talked all day and night everyday and I was excited but I'm a take things slow kind of girl. Saturday night we hung out for the first time and I had such an amazing time. BUT the entire night he was like begging me to be his girlfriend and introducing me to all his friends as his gf and I was like whoa... you don't even know me. And he was just like I know enough about you where I want you to be mine. So I said i'd go along with it and see where it takes us but I'm like overwhelmed with how quickly and pushy he's being. What do you think this kids intentions are? Girlfriend after a week?
Cutiepie1976 Posted December 10, 2012 Posted December 10, 2012 You are right to be concerned. His feelings aren't for you--the person--with all your quirks, foibles, and gifts. They're about a girl (any girl) he's dating (and whatever vision he's built up in his mind). We are very different post-college than we were in high school. He doesn't know you. Often one of several things it's going on...none good! He's a player attempting to sweep you off your feet. Those aren't feelings, but rather lines about feelings and he'll disappear as soon as he gets whatever he's looking for.He's incredibly inexperienced and immatureHe's desperate and will turn into a Klingon of the nth degree You don't provide much detail, and I've never met him. So it's hard to know for certain which of these is most likely. Still, since he contacted you, I'm going to hazard it's door #1.
truth_seeker Posted December 10, 2012 Posted December 10, 2012 Too fast. When people rush into things, most times than not, they burn out fast. So if he wants you to be his gf after a week, then by the end of the month he will want to break up with you. Have a talk and get this guy in check. If he insists on being in a relationship right away, back off. He needs to understand he's going way too fast with you.
Author lovehurts5 Posted December 10, 2012 Author Posted December 10, 2012 I tried having a talk with him about how I'd like to get to know him better and he got really upset and a little mad.... It was through text so it was hard to tell but he was like whatever. I know how I feel and clearly you don't feel the same way about me. And I tried to tell him I am interested in him I just want to learn more about him first. He's not getting it though... We are both 25 and he has had serious long term relationships before so I don't get why he's being so quick with this. He already introduced me to many of his friends at his job. They were like you are all he's been talking about all week! And he invited me to his fathers surprise party this weekend. I just feel like this is all so soon
MikeyBe Posted December 10, 2012 Posted December 10, 2012 No clue what his intentions are but you told us yours. Speculating on his probably won't be too productive because he sounds outrageous. So you tell him your intentions. Problem is you already did. So I said i'd go along with it and see where it takes us [...] He's not getting it though... I think you know where this is going. And if you want to be along for the ride then its going to be a bumpy one. (hey, some people love bumpy rides)
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