MinnieM Posted December 10, 2012 Posted December 10, 2012 Hi guys i really need your opinions on this. I've posted a thread about my story of the break up. You can read it in my profile page. In short, ive been with this guy for 1 year 3 months. He was very close to me and my family. Spend time with me every single day and my parents even considered him as their own son. i saw his message to a girl in facebook that he sent a month before and i broke up with him. The girl he messaged didnt write back but i cant accept it since he was already thinking to cheat on me. He cheated on me with my own friend 2 months into our relationship and i had forgiven him. My parents knew and they also forgave him. The next day after i found out, i decided to break up, i couldnt accept it anymore. He did cheat before and he intend to repeat it again. Honestly, ive been suspicious that he had cheated but i didnt have real proof so i ignored it. Months before he got texts in middle of the night, he immediately deleted them and i didnt get the chance to read it. It happened for a short time several months ago bur now it has stopped. He spends every day with me so i thought he coudnt be cheating, in my mind maybe there were girls that had crush on him but nothing happened. When i confronted him calmly, he didnt deny it and only answered "she didnt even reply". I told him if she did reply things would be much worse and you could be kissing her or having sex with her right now. He said fine and leave and didnt make effort at all to get back together. Didnt even say sorry and feel regretful at all. Things were good for the last months, and we were happy most of the times before i found out about the message. He even spend the night with me the day before the break up. My question is why did he behave like that? When before i found out about the message things were so good and we spent time together EVERY DAY! We were happy and he didnt show signs that he wanted to break up. No signs of other girl at all. He was not hiding his phone, etc. I was expecting at least he would fight for us and try to save the relationship but he didnt. if he say sorry and genuinely regret his decisions i would surely take him back. But why he just can let tis go easilly??? I thought our relationship worth more than this. Inspite of me breaking up with him and he cheated, i swallowed my pride and tried to text him and told him i loved him and miss him bur he didnt even reply. It has been 2 months with no contact and its killing me. Please help me why he doesnt think about me at all?
TaraMaiden Posted December 10, 2012 Posted December 10, 2012 Nobody can supply you with answers. What you want is 'closure' and you won't get it here. Unfortunately, you wouldn't get it from him either, even if you could ask him, and he did answer. He would prevaricate, stonewall, downright lie, or frankly - as he has done - just shut down and refuse to connect. I really need to put this in my signature, but: "It's the person who cares the least, who controls the most." He couldn't give a damn, and it's driving you to distraction. your only course of action, is to stop giving a damn, accept it, and move on.
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