808 an Heartbreaks Posted December 10, 2012 Posted December 10, 2012 (edited) Hi everyone, I'll get right into it. I had been going with a girl who was 23 an I was 31 she was very mature for her age I thought because she was previous married with a 3 year old child. We are both in the Navy an most of all our friends are as well. Anyways when I met her she was just coming out of a divorce which she says was her ex-husband fault do to this cheating ways an the fact that he hit her at times. Her closet friends told me that I had my hands full with her, but I was up for the challenge. I gave it my all to keep her happy not once did I cheat on her an I bought her anything she wanted. She would accuse me of cheating all the time. When I was selected to move to Germany for my next duty station I was so in love with her, that I would think of ways to get out of going knowing that I was making a huge mistake. I saw all the signs that she was cheating on me with other guys an she was using me for my money. We recently broke up an I blamed myself which caused me to not eat, workout or have a social life for about 2 weeks. That hole time I went to numerous bars to drink away the pain. I texted her closet friend to apologize for anything I did which turned out to be the best idea ever. She told me she had been trying to get me to see the lite months back an I was blind the whole time. My Ex never cared about me she only cared about what she could get an having guys fall at her feet to be the next in line to buy it for her. So much stress an guilt has been lifted off my shoulders an I'm still going to Germany to start a new life. I just needed to share to an get it out. There's so much to the rest of this story but I'm not trying to write a novel. This has been such a learning experience because I never loved someone other than my family before. Now the only part that hurts is the fact that I was stupid, I knew I was stupid an closed my eye to everything, but continued to get played. Edited December 10, 2012 by 808 an Heartbreaks
NavyAirTraffic Posted December 10, 2012 Posted December 10, 2012 I was stupid an closed my eye to everything, but continued to get played. This will help you not hurt you, might not seem that way now. What you did was try to convert/fix someone who is broken and you can't do that. You thought by being nice, buying her stuff that she owed it to you to stay with you. This is an unspoken contract you had with her, this is not how love works. I've done this too, a lot of people have. In the future you'll allow yourself to recognize the signs, you won't enter into unspoken contracts, you'll realize that you aren't going to tolerate someone who is using you. Be happy she's out of your life! You might think you got the raw end but the next guy will have it worse. She'll do this over and over again until one day (several years down the road) when she discovers happiness only comes from within, and whatever she seeks from this other men is hollow and won't bring her happiness. There is nothing you can do to make her discover this. Oh yea, GO NAVY!!!
mammasita Posted December 10, 2012 Posted December 10, 2012 HAHA, yes Go Navy. Young Navy girls are the WORST. How do I know? Because I was once a young Navy girl LOL. Sure there are some good ones, but for the most part I recommend steering clear and dont be with someone who you think you can fix. Live and Learn.
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